Let's say we know a consultant, let's call him Bob, who works on client projects. He needs to implement new features fast, and does not want to worry about low level stuff. Once he's done with a project, he moves on to another.
Then, we meet a JS-framework developer, let's call her Alice. She has to weight every line of code she writes because her decision can have have a huge impact on thousand of developers using her stuff. She needs to understand a lot of low-level details in order to make good decisions and ship rock solid stuff.
Now, both Bob and Alice have to decide whether they need to include jQuery in their projects or not. Heck, they need to justify their decisions to their teams / managers.
What's Bob going to say? He will start thinking about what will happen if he does not include jQuery to his project. Well, he will have to implement some of the low-level stuff by himself, and later maintain the code. Probably, in a month he's going to be working on another project and will have to copy & paste the same stuff over. And if there was a bug? Is he going to update all the previous projects he is not getting paid for anymore? If he's smart, he's going to say: we'll take jQuery, as it provides a nice, stable, robust and battle-hardened API. We're going to move faster if we use it, as we don't want to reinvent the wheel.
What about Alice? She will probably have to consider introducing a new dependency to her framework. Is it OK to add those additional hundreds of lines of jQuery code to an already large codebase? Is she going to be able to provide a consistent experience between different (and future) versions of jQuery? Is the core of her application going to rely on an external tool, even if it is rock-solid and lose the potential to make low-level optimizations and have full control? Maybe, she's going to say: well, I'm going to identify the elements that need some of jQuery's stuff and implement it by myself. She will be taking the time and effort needed to test it well and be sure that it works across different platforms.
At the end of the day, both will have made the right decision, even if in absolute terms they took the exact opposite action.
Software engineering is about making decisions, in a given context and moment, for a given purpose. As software engineers, we should not generalize about some of the decisions people have to make. There is no one single truth, it all depends on a variety of variables and factors. Let's be Bob and Alice, be smart and make the best decisions for our projects.
My project currently depends on libraries which in turn have dependencies on mutually exclusive versions of jQuery, so we conditionally load a whole second copy some of the time. I've been meaning to fix the libraries that require older jQuery so we can fix this, but the bugs run deep, the libraries are pretty unmaintainable, and I'm under pressure to keep shipping features.