Also, you can't be "a fool" for believing in yourself. Confidence, false or earned, is incredibly useful in motivating yourself to push limits and achieve great things. I have found that as long as I tell myself my goals are achievable and do my work in that mindset, I can do many things I thought were out of my reach. It sounds like "The Secret"-esque bullshit, but it can help.
There is no reason to push yourself to the point of "breaking
as you describe. When you get there, take a step back and think about why you're at school and why you're chasing x or y career goal. The point of work is to purchase leisure, but if you're letting work consume everything then you'll have a hard time being happy. I think many people forget that work is, in many cases, a means to an end. Slow down until you're at a point where you can enjoy your time, and don't worry about the pace of everyone around you. Again this might sound like cliché nonsense but I take a lot of comfort in thinking about the big picture when pressure builds.
If you weren't looking for advice, forget everything I said. Also I congratulate you for "letting it all out", it's not easy to compose one's thoughts into such a rational assessment of a bad situation.
Personally, I do have the ability to be extremely focused for long hours. But I don't think that having that ability counts for a lot in real world. My cofounder is borderline ADHD and there are things he can accomplish that I just cannot.
As a person who recently discovered that he doesn't have this ability and can't focus for more than 10 minutes unless it's a hobby project or one is in a really good mood, I can tell you that this ability does count a lot.
If you're interested, look into "mindfulness meditation". If you're immediately repelled (as I was) by the idea, know that there are several serious engineers who now swear by this technique. There is a guy at Google who teaches mindfulness meditation in a series of classes to other Googlers, and he can't keep up with demand. Look at siyli.org for some introductory videos (especially the ones showing a physiological effects of having done N hours of meditation).
Basically, I got fed up with this state and decided to solve it once and for all. I've managed to make some progress on it and I feel better/more productive at work now, so I have high hopes it'll get even better. Mindfulness is what I'm trying now, and the next book to read is "Feeling Good" (similarly, heavily recommended on HN), a basic Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy book.
For instance, I think people with functioning ADHD do pretty well as dealmakers, traders and maybe even certain kind of managers. I suffer from a mild form of bipolar, and it allows me to be very creative & productive in my manic phases, but I cannot always be as consistent as an ops person.
In particular, I believe that it's important for me to be useful to society, and I also consider my work to be personal, like an art. As a result, my happiness is tied to how well I think I'm working. I don't think that's crazy.
There are two kinds of false confidence: the kind you believe to be true and the kind you don't. Both can cause trouble when you can't deliver, but when false confidence is expressed in good faith it's hard to really lay too much blame on the person in the short term; it was simply a mistake. If failure acts as a "market correction" and the person amends their behavior in such a way that they improve (always in many small increments, never in one swift move of grandeur) and subsequently gains a new high confidence that's backed by something real, the failure was a good and worthwhile one.
I used to think that being smart was the thing to be. Not anymore. What you need to be is resilient. While a smart person pauses to analyze, I keep trying and trying until I get it. No pause needed.
Go on. Live your life. Love the gifts you have and put them to good use. Don't measure yourself by how you compare to others. But how you compare to your own past. Keep moving. Be resilient.
But where this really hit me was just two years after college, trying to write a large technical book (on HTML). I'm just now completing the task after 9 long months.
It seemed like my mind broke, not because it was hard, but because of some other invisible wall. I still don't have the words for it. Writing about other things and reading other writing seemed to be the only thing that helped. It was easy to write about the topics of my expertise, but so much of the book was material that I had only heard of, and had to immerse myself in completely before I could even begin the task of writing. The project was therefore a set of many tasks within tasks.
> Regardless of whether or not they like or dislike the material, they break the challenge of studying for a test or completing an assignment into small problems, working away until they know, not think, but absolutely know that they are ready.
There are four or five poems I read almost every day as a sort of cathartic ritual, and one of them is The Ladder of St. Augustine, by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (of Paul Revere fame). The snippet that runs through my mind constantly:
We have not wings, we cannot soar;
But we have feet to scale and climb
By slow degrees, by more and more,
The cloudy summits of our time.
The mighty pyramids of stone
That wedge-like cleave the desert airs,
When nearer seen, and better known,
Are but gigantic flights of stairs.
The distant mountains, that uprear
Their solid bastions to the skies,
Are crossed by pathways, that appear
As we to higher levels rise.
The heights by great men reached and kept
Were not attained by sudden flight,
But they, while their companions slept,
Were toiling upward in the night.
It honestly sounds like you do not have similar issues at all.
Everybody has an experience or story about where they hit a wall with something in their life. This post was specifically about hitting a wall in college.
Writing a book is quite a different task from taking college classes. It's also not something where you can easily compare yourself against others, which was a huge component of this post.
The point I should have made instead of comparing it to myself is that I don't think its collegiate difficulty per se that is problematic for a lot of people. Instead I think the problem is large (seemingly too large) tasks, and people like the OP and myself never learned how to deal with them until far too late.
Had I gone to a college that assigned larger homework I don't think I would have done nearly as well, so my chance to attempt a non-trivial sized project until I was out of school.
Wonderful! I'd love to hear about them. I also have a few go-to poems for those days I feel unbalanced. The two I've probably digested the most would be "If--" by Rudyard Kipling, and "Desiderata" by Max Ehrmann. They're not exactly hidden gems, and I've even seen them floated around HN from time to time, but man do they work.
Out of curiosity, if it isn't too personal, which are the other ones?
Mad River, also by HW Longellow (I live on this river)
St. Augustine, which was above
And one from a collection of poems by an "amateur", the poet most dear to me, and one of the few people who has encouraged me to write: http://everything2.com/user/etouffee/writeups
Sorry but reading this makes me want to wretch -- the Bard character from Asterix comes to mind ;-)
A little Learning is a dang'rous Thing;
Drink deep, or taste not the Pierian Spring:
There shallow Draughts intoxicate the Brain,
And drinking largely sobers us again.
Fir'd at first Sight with what the Muse imparts,
In fearless Youth we tempt the Heights of Arts,
While from the bounded Level of our Mind,
Short Views we take, nor see the lengths behind,
But more advanc'd, behold with strange Surprize
New, distant Scenes of endless Science rise!
So pleas'd at first, the towring Alps we try,
Mount o'er the Vales, and seem to tread the Sky;
Th' Eternal Snows appear already past,
And the first Clouds and Mountains seem the last:
But those attain'd, we tremble to survey
The growing Labours of the lengthen'd Way,
Th' increasing Prospect tires our wandering Eyes,
Hills peep o'er Hills, and Alps on Alps arise!
I've had similar issues as the OP, though at university I accepted lower marks than I could have gotten because I simply didn't want to go to class. I could learn the material on my own and use the time-savings to learn other things I was interested in. I almost always made top marks on exams, so it wasn't an issue (unless attendance was mandatory...)
I met a few people that had screwed off in High School, but for some reason had decided to take College extraordinarily seriously. I realized that for other people, material that would take me an hour or two to learn would take a solid 8 locked in the library.
As it turns out, after talking to some of these people, the problem wasn't that they weren't smart. It's that they didn't know how to learn, or had some misconceptions about what learning entailed. I've watched people slog through upper-level math classes by trying to memorize the relevant material, when they could have understood it in half the time, if they'd approached the material with the right mindset.
For a while, I was the OP. At least until I realized that if your goal is to beat your peers, or measure up to some arbitrary external standard, you probably won't. Even if you succeed, you'll make yourself miserable trying. On the other hand, if your goal is to learn, you'll do it. You might even stand a chance of beating out your peers. Unfortunately, something a lot of people don't understand about learning is that after a certain amount of effort, it just takes the amount of time it's gonna take. You can't really sit down and say "I'm going to learn x in y hours" and not be disappointed much of the time. Sadly, the education system all the way through College makes it seem like this is so.
With all of those traits, it's easy. If you miss one, you might be able to slog through. And if you miss two, it will be extremely difficult.
And our educational systems really don't encourage anything but memorization, despite ample PR otherwise, so there's a selection bias by the time you hit college level courses.
>The original outside of pyramid consisted of smooth, white limestone that hid the layers of brick, giving the effect that a pyramid was one giant solid piece.
To the author of the piece: you are depressed. You are shutting down all reasons to like yourself or even to have fun. I strongly advise counseling, immediately. Even though you're in the middle of exams, this is very important. Your school will have free or inexpensive resources available.
I know you wrote your piece as a cautionary tale, but there's a subtext of giving up on yourself, and it seems that acknowledging and showing imperfection is very difficult for you - or very difficult for your family. (Let me guess, Asian parents?)
There is a way out. However, the way out does not involve barricading yourself in your room or deciding that you are inherently broken.
The thing that successful people have in common is not being superhuman, it's that they seek out -- and get -- help from other people all the time.
Otherwise, I can recommend to you a book that opened my eyes to the process of learning. The Art of Learning -- Josh Waitzkin.
The acknowledging and showing imperfection part is very difficult for me, not for my family, who have been very supportive and understanding along the way.
This obviously doesn't happen always, but when you're a kid that knows you have some superior intellect, you make immature kid-like decisions because of it. You fall in love with your own head. You believe that you just "get it." You ignore opportunities to develop skills because you have this irrational (and often misplaced) confidence in you abilities.
This sounds like exactly what happened to the OP. They never truly developed ther ability to focus because they could always skate by. Then when they finally couldn't skate by anymore, BAM, they realize "oh shit, I'm nowhere near as good at this as I thought I was."
The good news is that once you have the awareness you can fix it, which is what it sounds like the OP started to do. Just don't focus so much on grades :)
I'm sincerely very grateful for all the advice. I wrote this out of frustration less so with my grades, despite the tone of the piece, and more so with the way I had been treating my friends as of late, in particular my girlfriend, because of my grades versus theirs. I have been a jerk to the ones that I love without reason, and that irritates me. I will definitely keep in mind what's been said here, though.
For what it is worth, I also do not believe that I suffer from depression. Although I am harsh on myself, and always have been harsh on myself, I have always managed to work through and overcome my fears, usually by venting like this, although until now I did it privately.
I also don't think that I have ADD, since there are stretches of time where I can focus intensely, such as at hackathons or when I'm more relaxed over school.
Returning to my computer after posting this was really a shock, I didn't expect this much of a response to what I had initially perceived as an immature outburst. Thank you all so much.
There is a certain anxiety that comes when you know you have to do something you really don't want to do. For example, a class holds no interest, you know what needs to be done but you have no inclination to do it, so you don't. Besides you can always do it later and later sounds great. The deadline draws near and you must complete tasks (final projects, prepare for the exam, etc) or risk taking the class over again. You know you need to perform but you just can't bring yourself to do it. The anxiety of missing the deadline sets in and the thought of doing something over again that you detested doing in the first place begins to eat away at you. The tasks really aren't all that difficult or time-consuming. The real barrier to success is just you and your own stubborn will. Now there's anguish from the self-inflicted pain. Then you get depressed because you realize that you did this to yourself.
Thank you for posting this. It was an eye-opening read, and hit pretty close to home.
What I read in your story is that you are attributing the success of others and your failure to intrinsic qualities in them and yourself. This is a bad mindset; from this point of view at best your successes are realizations of a predetermined destiny, and at worst every failure is a personal reflection on you. In this worldview, it is emotionally safer to not try at all, and to pin your failures on a lack of interest or lack of effort. In the long run this is an incredibly destructive way to think, as you never accumulate the experience necessary to ultimately succeed.
"The students who obtain top grades in classes have an ability to focus like no other... It was an insult for me to think that I was ever anything like them"
It is possible that some rare people possess this ability from birth. Most of us have had to learn it. There is a way to gain this skill, and that way is by trying, failing, then trying again.
By your own account, you have not been trying until very recently. You should not expect to succeed on your first attempt or perform at the level of individuals that have been working at it for years. The good news is that your failure is not a reflection of anything intrinsic to your being, it is a reflection on the way people learn good study skills and work habits.
It sounds like you are arriving at this conclusion on your own, and I strongly encourage you to adopt a learning mindset where intelligence and achievement are things gained through practice and gradual improvement rather than characteristics engrained from birth.
There are good studies on the value of this mindset from the field of developmental psychology. A quick scan of the literature turns up a few. I didn't look very hard here, but you may find them worth a quick scan and a starting point for further investigation:
Some of those are not available in their entirety on the public internet, though it sounds like you're at university and may have access to them through the campus network.
My closing advice is to stay focused on incremental achievement and do your best to learn from your failures. You are starting at a disadvantage, but you can close the gap with time and effort.
This is a very powerful ending. I've struggled a lot to change parts of me in the past, but this is my big fight. I, like everyone else, care too much about other's opinion. I base almost my whole confidence on other's people opinion. Others rise me up or take me down. And I've tried to change that to something else. I've tried the "I don't give a fuck", I've tried to be mean... But I think trying to get confident through work is the best way.
The problem with the OP is not that he got so worried about grades, it's that he/she let is obsession with grades impact his relationships with others. He saw them as a zero-sum game, and that's not the way life is (generally) played. Even within university, where grades may be distributed in a zero-sum fashion, the entire experience is most assuredly not zero-sum.
More importantly than all of that, though, is the OP gained a large level of self-awareness. That self-awareness (as long as he doesn't let him completely cripple his confidence) will be far more valuable than full marks here and there.
My dad did the same thing, and spent a couple of years in the naval reserve.
My advice to other students would be: don't rush into higher education if it's not the right time for you. Time "off" for other life experiences, including work, makes a huge difference.
Eventually I was forced by my parents to a decision: get serious or drop out. I dropped out and got a programming job.
And then something strange happened. I felt a sort of obligation to my employer to not slack off. Where i could never spend 8 hours a day in motivated effort for myself, i could do it for someone else. Not with ease mind you, i was physically exhausted those first weeks, and I suffered from many stress-induced health problems the first year. But gradually i got into a rhythm of continuous sustainable dedicated work. And then i figured out some things.
A. Cramming doesn't work. The only healthy pace to truly learn is one that you keep up indefinitely. I noticed that high achievers almost invariably are always in study mode, but don't overexert themselves. Slow and steady wins the race.
B. Knowledge compounds. The longer you continually apply yourself, the more return on additional knowledge you get. Again i noticed that high achievers had always been studying, while i was slacking off. The foundation they had cannot be bypassed. It's the whole 10.000 hours thing. The reason i did well on the programming subjects at university was because i had always been programming throughout high school, even while i slacked off on everything else.
C. Humility and self-doubt are they key to self-improvement. If you are sure that you're already great, you will block yourself from the path of self-improvement.
By changing my habits I changed my results. I'm now a tech lead for a dozen other developers, and enjoy a reputation as a top achiever. I still feel awkward with that reputation though, because i can easily recall those times where i felt better than i actually was, so I try to remain humble.
Once one's ability to support oneself is at stake, rather than some nebulous concept of 'education' i.e. learning something because someone thinks its important -
it becomes surprisingly easy to work.
I realised I would not be showing anybody up around the same timeframe as the original poster.
In case it's not obvious, there's a corollary? from C: If you've no faith confidence at all, you will block yourself from the path of self-improvement.
I was a straight A student out of high school, with little effort to boot. Then I picked a major that I didn't really care for, because I didn't know any better ...
I breezed through the first few years of college taking general classes and the introductory classes to my major, but even then the cracks were beginning to show in my choice of major, I'd score B's where I thought I'd get A's and ever so often I'd come really close to getting C's.
When I hit the senior level courses, those B's turned to C's and ever so often I'd almost get a D.
Why the decline in performance? Nothing had changed, except what I was studying. I didn't care for it, and it didn't play to any of my academic strengths (lots of math which I simply don't have the patience for), so I couldn't just cruise through them.
When I graduated college, I had a very decent general GPA (in the low 3's), but it was only so because of my strong early performance in college, my major GPA was in the 2's. I was so ashamed that I didn't attend my own graduation and wouldn't let my family come either. I withdrew a little bit from friends and life, because I felt I had let down a lot of people and was a bit of a failure.
3 years later I discovered something I truly loved (programming and building things) and after many years of excelling at it ... I finally realized what I'd done wrong.
Hopefully you come to this realization much earlier than I did.
My high school had a different grading scale than the 10-point scale used by most high schools and colleges. So:
95-100 was an A;
88-94 was a B;
82-87 was a C;
76-81 was a D;
75 or below and you failed
Brutal. But, I didn't even realize this until I got to college. What was once failing was now a C. And what was once a D could now be a B. It was a liberating feeling, but it underscored two things:
1. I could have had a much higher GPA in high-school
2. These measurements are artificial and arbitrary as a means for determining our "value" or even our proficiency in a subject
I get that these measurements can have real impact on our lives, because others use them. The key is not to believe they tell us anything about ourselves beyond our performance in a specific context, wherein an arbitrary measurement is applied.
Find what you love and learn it. If you struggle to do so in the environment, then work with professors, other students, and whatever resources are available to help you learn to learn. Once you've done that, you will find that the actual education and knowledge gained is more important, valuable, and self-improving than its measurement.
Ironically, you will also see a lift in your grades. But most importantly, you will likely be happy with yourself, no matter what letters appear on your report.
The words would be something along the lines of "good grades are indicative of discipline and work ethic moreso than intellectual capacity" and that many people that we consider extremely intelligent or gifted had really poor grades.
This does not work well for an analytical mind, and as I see it there are very few choices for us who prefer top-down. I feel that the hacker community is one place which caters for us, given the unrestricted access to information on all levels. But in school there is usually very little you can do except be quiet and take notes, like a robot.
The consequence is that top-down analytical minds have a tendency to skip studies and ultimately hit this crisis. And because bottom-up people eventually will start to draw conclusions from their fact bases and gain the ability to reason, you will be outsmarted.
The real fix for this in my mind is to start catering for the top-downs, with more focus on how disciplines interrelate, their background and history, and less focus on direct facts and methods.
I was admitted into one of the most reputed universities in my country. I've failed, year after year 2 times in my junior year & on track for a 3rd year of failure this time.
I was a bright student in school - the top 10 in my grade. But that's where the problem stems from. I thought I was a genius to excel high school without studying whereas everyone around me was pretty mediocre. After all they studied so hard and didn't do as good as I did.
In university everyone told me how brilliant I was and that my marks didn't reflect my potential. Now they're all working, getting promotions, traveling, enjoying their lives and I am no better than I was 3 years ago living with my parents and hardly contributing anything to this world.
PS: Throwaway for obvious reasons.
I will start with what my wife did: First,
care about making good grades; care a LOT.
actually do at least most of the reading
and homework. Take good notes in class and
study them. Work with other good students
in the class to share notes and thoughts on
the content of the course. It helps to have
a terrific memory, and for that it helps to
really care a LOT. It helps to cut out
nearly everything except course work and to
have the ability to do well with relatively
Then, with the basic
learning done, work with other good students
in the class to get a good view of what the
teacher likes to see on tests, term papers,
etc. I.e., figure out how to please the
teacher, i.e., 'read' the teacher. So,
before tests, work with those other
good students to write out likely test
questions and together work out
good answers. Then
on a test with, say, four questions, may
have written out good answers to two or
three of the questions the night before.
Tough to compete against that.
other good students she worked with,
she had a room in the girls dorm
on the 'academic unit' with other
astoundingly bright girls, and they
shared draft test questions, etc.
was not in a class with any of those
girls because would have come in at
best second. For making As in college,
those girls were fantastic.
Of course they were beyond belief in
the humanities courses, e.g., could
actually make some sense out of the
mush. But for a while my wife was in
pre-med so also made As in the
'filter' courses in organic chemistry
and comparative anatomy.
It also helps to have some just fantastic
academic talent: My wife wanted to take
a course in European history but did not
want to have to work to make a good grade
so just audited the course. The prof
asked audits also to take the tests, so
my wife did. At the end of the course,
a lecture course with 300 students, the
prof told my wife that she should have
taken the course for credit because she
made the highest score in the class.
And she didn't even seriously try.
Tough to compete against that!
For a term paper, she organized all the
information on index cards, arranged them,
then typed the paper.
She made high
school Valedictorian, in college was
'Summa Cum Laude', Woodrow Wilson,
PBK, and won two years of NSF graduate
fellowship in one award.
Then what I did: In K-8, the girls
were much better students than I was
in penmanship, spelling, writing,
memorizing poetry, artistic drawing,
working in groups, clerical accuracy,
etc., all as should be expected. Also
all the teachers were women and clearly
liked the girls much better than the
boys. So, I gave up on trying to
get good grades from the teachers
and just pursued what interested me.
I was so often treated with such
contempt by the teachers that
for all the rest of my time in
school I was unconsciously terrified
of criticism from the teachers. So,
if something didn't go just right
in a course, then I was terrified that
the situation was hopeless so gave
up. So, really, I could be comfortable
in a course only if the material was
pure math with a level of precision
about like that of Bourbaki so that
I could be iron clad sure that my
knowledge could not be questioned.
It was also good if I had carefully
read an excellent text before the
course and, thus, really already
knew the material. K-12
teachers: Quit hurting good
Things made a big change in the
ninth grade in math: I liked the math
and really cared. I had no study
skills but began to develop some.
The teacher sent me to the state
math tournament; I was likely at the
top of the class. He realized that
mostly I was learning just from the
book and told me that for the tournament
I should learn the last two chapters
on trigonometry he was not going to
be able to cover in class, so the
weekend before the tournament I did.
That pattern went on: I really liked
math and learned mostly from the book.
I really made no attempt to get good
grades from the teacher, but I
understood the material so well I
got A or B from the teacher but
led the class or nearly so on
state standardized tests.
That pattern continued in college:
It worked out that I never took
freshman calculus! The college
I went to for my freshman year didn't
want me to start with calculus
but put me in some course beneath
what I'd already covered
in my high school (that had a
relatively good math sequence).
So, I showed up only for the
tests and otherwise got a good
calculus book and dug in.
For my sophomore year I went to
a much better school, with a quite
good math department, and just
started with their sophomore
calculus. Did fine.
In freshman physics, I really
liked the material and
It was nice:
Often I studied the physics in the
reading room of the library. There
some of the really pretty girls were wearing
some short, slightly full, plaid, heavy wool
'wrap around' skirts, each held together
with a huge, chrome diaper safety
pin! Still I got some physics done!
Got to really like physics to
learn under such circumstances!
Some of the more advanced physics
was badly taught
or from a poor book, and then my
grade fell to a B; I had no patience
with poor quality material. But in math
the books were much better, and
I did very well on both learning
the material and grades. I got
Honors in math and 800 on the GRE
test of math knowledge and got
sent to an NSF summer program
in axiomatic set theory, modern
analysis, and differential geometry.
The differential geometry was
lectures by a Harvard graduate
and student of A. Gleason. He
said that I needed only the
inverse and implicit function
theorems, but so far I'd not
seen either of those (I
later got them from Fleming's book).
too intimidated to realize that
I could have hit the library for
an afternoon and evening and
walked out with good knowledge
of both theorems. The theorems
are just local non-linear versions
of the standard and fairly obvious
general solution of a system of
linear equations. There is a nice
proof using contractive mapping.
Alas, due to those two theorems,
I walked out of the class --
bummer, it was material I would
have liked to have learned, especially
for relativity theory.
In my career I continued a lot of
independent learning from some of the
best math texts, e.g., I took
a second pass through Rudin's
'Principles', went carefully through
Halmos's 'Finite Dimensional Vector
Spaces', Fleming's 'Functions of
Several Variables', the math
parts of von Neumann's 'Quantum
Mechanics', and much more, a big
When I went for my Ph.D., what I
had learned before I entered was
nearly enough for the course work.
For the research, I brought my
own problem with me to graduate
school, had an intuitive solution
I'd worked out on an airplane
flight, got enough math in my
first year to turn my intuitive
solution into some solid applied
math, later wrote some corresponding
illustrative software, and that
was my Ph.D. research. For a
Master's, there was a question in
a course without an answer. I thought
for two weeks in the evenings and
saw a first solution and asked for
a 'reading course' to attack the problem.
When the course was approved, I gave
my first solution right away. Two
weeks later I had a much nicer solution,
wrote it up, and that was the end of
the 'reading course' and the last I
needed for a Master's. Later I published
the paper. When I published I did some
more library work and discovered that I'd
invented a theorem comparable with the
classic Whitney extension theorem, that is,
H. Whitney long at Harvard. I also
discovered that I'd solved a problem
stated in the famous Arrow, Hurwicz,
Uzawa paper in mathematical economics.
So, that work I did in that 'reading
course' was publishable.
I concluded that working the more
challenging exercises in the best
pure math texts -- Rudin, Halmos,
Royden, Neveu, etc., is good training
for doing original research. Eventually I
discovered that if not afraid of
being whacked in the neck with a bad
grade by a prof in a course, then
usually can get what need for
a given research problem from
stacks of books and papers much
more quickly than the rate of
coverage in a course.
Eventually discovered a 'way'
to do research: Do a lot of
intuitive guessing; then test
the intuitive guesses with
some intuitive filters or
checking on special cases.
For a simple outline,
"Is A true? Okay, likely
if A is true, then B is true.
Is it believable that B is
true or would that be asking
too much? Naw, likely B is
false. So likely A is false.
So, check A on some simple
special cases. Okay, still
A seems false. So, try
C. Is C true? If C is
true, then likely D is true.
Okay, maybe D is true. Check
out C on some simple special
cases. C might be true! So,
maybe try to prove C is true.
Now to prove C is true, likely
the proof has to make essential
use of all the hypotheses we
have for C, so in looking for
a proof, be sure can make good
use of all the hypotheses.
Else are trying to prove something
stronger than C which is likely
not true. Now, if C is true,
just what, intuitively, is going
Can do a lot of this while
writing little or nothing.
When the intuitive work seems
good, then try to write out
some actual math with careful
derivations, any new definitions
and then theorems and proofs.
If the intuitive guessing goes well,
then have a good shot of seeing
how to do the proofs right away.
Mostly don't write longer than trivial
without having a fairly good idea
what is going on intuitively. That is,
mostly don't expect to get much just
from pushing symbols around.
In nearly all of K-12 and college, what
my wife did worked much better than what
I did. For graduate work, a Ph.D.,
publishable original research, and
applications in a career, what I did
worked much better.
Not saying this was justified, but it's definitely how I felt. What I probably should have realized is that in the long run, self-discipline is an extremely important trait no matter what your natural aptitude is. But I also think schools should make more effort to make subjects appealing on an intuitive level, not just a stack of exercises to slog through - I would have done much better in say maths if that was the case. I have to admit though, even though my attitude is different these days, what your wife did in college to get top grades still seems... kind of lame.
But there was a 'reason' she did what
she did: There were some strong
influences from her family that anything
less than an A would be 'shameful'.
So, yes, might notice that in K-college
she didn't "outwardly show any flare".
Right. She wanted the As. They meant
a LOT to her. She knew that she didn't
really get any extra points for "flare".
But eventually I learned that away from
a course with a prof, credits, and grades,
really, out of the view of anyone
powerful, influential, and potentially
critical, she had plenty of 'flare',
really was just brilliant. E.g.,
computing wasn't her field at all.
But at one point she wanted to do
some computing, in of all things
artificial intelligence. Well, I
was on a team of three that had
designed and developed an AI language. So I
gave her a one hour lecture covering
everything from how to use the
computer, file system, text editor, and
scripting language to our AI language.
Two weeks later she had a good, first program
running. I looked at it, explained
some of the 'theme' of how that AI
approach was intended to work, and let
her try again. In two more weeks she
had one of the nicest AI programs our
group ever saw. Just brilliant.
We had some really bright computer
science grad students in
our group; in computer science,
she was brighter. Astounding.
There is much more to human performance
in school, research, and a job than meets
the eye: In front of powerful,
influential, potentially critical
people, she was just terrified to
appear less than Little Miss Perfect
in the sense she got from her family.
In our home, in front of just herself
and me, she was free to show 'flair'
and be brilliant.
If you sense that the "lame" part
might not be so good in some
respects, you are correct. I spent
a lot of time around high end
academics and saw a lot of people
with spectacular grade point
averages, some of whom maybe never
failed to dot an 'i' since before
kindergarten. Commonly these people
were from very bright up to brilliant,
but it seemed that their grade point
averages were from various reasons
and not just brilliance. Some of those various
reasons were, in the end, not so good.
But if want to make the As my wife made, then
what she did worked, and not much else does.
There was a time in high school plane
geometry where apparently I did something
like you did: I was totally in love with
the subject, ate the exercises in the book
like popcorn, by the hand full. The teacher
was the most offensive person I've ever
met in a classroom, so I refused to appear
to do her assigned homework and mostly
slept in class. Each day she assigned
three not very difficult exercises. What
I did was all the non-trivial exercises
then turn to the back of the book for the
more difficult supplementary exercises
and do all of those. I never once failed
to do a non-trivial exercise during the whole
course. To save time, I didn't write
out all the proofs but usually did small versions
just in my head, in the margin of the book,
on scraps of paper, etc. For the few
exercises that actually took some effort,
say, two hours, I'd write out a proof
For one of the supplementary exercises,
I started on Friday afternoon and just
kept going and finally got it late Sunday
evening. Nice exercise! On Monday in
class, there was
one of her assigned exercises, easy,
with the same figure. So, after she
discussed the solution to that exercise,
for the first and last time I 'participated'
in the class and mentioned the exercise
in the back of the book with the same
figure. She was thrilled and had the
class turn to that exercise. Time
passed .... After about 20 minutes she
was getting frustrated and nasty, was
exhorting the class to "think", etc.
Since I didn't want to be accused of
ruining the class, I raised my hand
and said, "Why don't we ..." at which
time she angrily interrupted me
nearly shouting "You knew how to do
it all the time". Yes, I was 'guilty'
as charged! Of course I knew how to
do it. I knew how to do every non-trivial
exercise in the book. If I didn't
know how to do it, no way would I
She never let me finish the solution!
I didn't know that the exercise would be
difficult for the teacher. I wasn't
even sure I was one of the best
students in the class. I guess she
wasn't working all the exercises!
Uh, apparently on the state test in
plane geometry I did well! Another
guy and I were 1-2 in the class.
We were also 1-2 in the school on the
Math SAT. The teacher who read me
my SAT scores had known me since the
sixth grade, looked at my Verbal
SAT, 538 (654 the second time I took
it) and said "Good". It wasn't good,
and I knew that. Then she looked at
my Math SAT, stopped, looked afraid,
and said, "There must be some mistake".
Yes, sweetheart, there was, and had been
for 12, long, painful years, you ditzy
bimbo. I was a good candidate for
the best math student in the school,
and the school never knew it (actually
apparently the principal did know;
apparently he looked at some of my
standardized test results -- but
the teachers did too much gossiping
So, yes, for that plane geometry
teacher, there was
a strong sense of 'competition' even
with the students. So, she didn't
want me to show any 'flair'. But
I demonstrated that my knowledge of
the subject was from my efforts in
learning and not from her efforts
in teaching. Of course this was
in part my reaction to all those
K-8 teachers who treated me with
Contempt? Of course, my Ph.D. and
research were in mathematics: Well
my eighth grade arithmetic teacher
strongly advised me never to take
anymore math in school! Why? I
didn't do well on her tests. Why?
I understood the material quickly
but for the exercises, say, multiplying
two four digit numbers, had poor
accuracy. Why? Not from lack of
understanding. But at the time,
common for boys, my
'clerical accuracy' was not good;
my handwriting was awful which meant
that commonly I misread my intermediate
results; and no one explained to me that
I needed to be sure to work carefully
to write clearly, keep the vertical
columns lined up, and get correct results.
Finally a college physics prof told me
bluntly that I had to work carefully
enough to get correct numerical results
since a mistake could ruin a physics
career. From then on my accuracy was
from okay up to good enough.
now I do not trust my clerical
accuracy. So for anything important,
I do it, let the results 'age' hopefully
for a few days, do it again independently,
and compare the results. Also I no longer
want to do anything like 'manual' arithmetic
or use a calculator where I have to copy
between the calculator and, say, paper.
Instead I essentially just program all
arithmetic. Otherwise I'm too prone
to simple mistakes.
But the contempt from those K-8 teachers
did damage. One graduate course
started off with some axiomatic
set theory. The prof gave a pop quiz.
One of his questions was tricky,
and I saw how to do it only at the
end of the time. So I wrote quickly
and used a symbol without defining
it but used it with the meaning I'd
seen in an earlier NSF course in
set theory. So, later the prof
called me for a 'conference'. He
was convinced that I was a poor
student. I explained the symbol and
said that I thought that its meaning
was standard in axiomatic set theory,
and he then saw that my solution
was one step shorter than his and
good. Then he relented. But that
contempt from him was too close
to what I'd gotten in K-8; I
concluded that there would be no
way to please him; gave up; and
never went back to that class. He
wasn't teaching the course very well
anyway, and later I got a just
brilliant presentation of that material,
best course of any kind I ever took
These examples can show students some
of the challenges in school: Not all
the challenges are obvious on the
surface. Your remark about 'discipline'
is correct: Even if a teacher dumps
on a student unfairly sometimes, the
student needs to continue on and not
just walk away. The course is not
all just about competition for 'flair'
but also has some material should
get through, flair or not.
But, for a Ph.D., one way for a grad
student to 'polish their halo' is
to do some publishable, original
research, independently or nearly so,
early on, i.e., show some 'flair' for
research. Why? The main difficulty
for a Ph.D. is just the research, and
showing that can do research, especially
independently, can do
wonders at getting the faculty on the
side of the student.
We've now solved all the problems in
The fact is that over the long run, effort counts for more than exam performance, so if you are trying, keep doing it. That's what counts. ADD/ADHD-type inability to concentrate and focus are hard, but you do learn to cope, and more importantly you learn to position yourself in situations where you exploit its advantages.
What I wouldn't do is not push yourself when you believe you can get away with it, a mistake you and I both have made. Keep yourself on the boundary of uncomfortable, otherwise you will not be prepared when it gets tough.
Keep it up for a few more weeks and it'll be done, and just keep getting up.
By your post, you clearly show a will to amend your past actions, and to work seriously now, to get grades you deserve - not just because you're "good at anything you touch", but because you are good and apply effort.
Trust me on this one, these deserved success will taste like ambrosia.
At the moment, do not overtly blame yourself. Many people can't see through themselves like you did. Yet since we're all human, we all fail time to time.
The real danger, as you so clearly phrased, is self delusion, ie refusing to see or understand how or why we fail.
The TV philosopher of my childhood said it best - "knowing is half the battle" (†)
†: Gi Joe, famous tv philosopher, giving quotes and wisdom to children, worldwide :-)
Then I got to college and stuff got real. I looked around and did not know why everything was so easy to my peers. I just couldn't keep up with a full load. Even a half load was impossible. My innate abilities didn't scale and I had to learn new ways to do things. It was a bitter time with repeated failures.
Get a mentor and some decent coping tools - something that will track what you need to do and remind you so you don't have to keep it all in your head. Learn how to break tasks into smaller pieces so that it's easy to visualize their completion. Know your own limitations and avoid situations that will make you fail (video games all night means no HW done, no sleep, and a really crappy tomorrow). The hardest part is self mastery: doing what you need to do when it needs to be done instead of doing what you want to do whenever you feel like it.
TL;DR? College is a boss level. Learn how to defeat it so you aren't stuck playing the same level forever. The abilities you (l)earn are required in the levels that follow.
I guess I'm the only one here who considers this the worst habit of all. How do I know when to stop working on stuff I don't like?
If there is any advice I can give, it would be to be _proud_ of every accomplishment you achieve. People use pride to motivate them. The pride of finishing a course, an assignment, a homework problem, getting a paycheck, promotion, a diploma -- I could go on. I can't even count the number of times I thought I was prepared for a test only to end up with a barely passing grade (if I was lucky). Practice and preparation are empty, unfulfilling activities without pride, and I think that's why I could never get anything out of them.
Pride is something that I struggle with even ten years after I packed all my shit into my car and made the long and painful drive home from university. My failures still hang heavy on my every movement, regardless of the good things that I do today. It could have been different, I think to myself. I should have done better. It seems like you are struggling with the same emotions.
In the end many functional, successful people struggle with regret of _some_ kind. You seem to be remarkably introspective about yours, and that is a good thing. Let it guide you, motivate you. It took me ten years (and debt that I am still paying off) to trust those instincts.
I did not do the full time course load where you must be disciplined to handle 30+ credits per year therefore require extreme military like focus on your studies. I was doing half that sometimes less, while working on days off or getting wasted in the campus bar with the student radio society.
It may not be so wrong to think that others do better than you in school because you don't try, and that you are actually more able than them. The counterargument is, "Well, try for a bit. Show me what you can do if you just start trying." The problem with that is that your success at any moment isn't just your effort applied to the lever that is your ability. You have to build up to it. So even if you're smart, if you suddenly start trying to get good grades during high school you'll still be behind people who aren't as smart as you but tried the whole time you didn't. It's more accurate to say, you would be better than others if you had tried as hard and as long as they had.
A lot of smart people don't try at things that don't interest them but do an extremely good job at things that do. So, I agree with the spirit of your message that you should measure your abilities with your results rather than your own guesswork about your own abilities. But I disagree that school is necessarily the right metric to use.
* "It was an insult for me to think that I was ever anything like them" - No it wasn't. At the very, very worst it was a mistake. And everybody on the planet makes 'em. Mistakes, especially mistakes in your teens and twenties, are rarely fatal ones. Failing at something sucks, and can feel ghastly, but things usually get better again. I'm in my forties now. A bunch of my friends who are well off, successful and happy now had a shitty time in their twenties. They dropped out. They went insane. They failed their degree. And later on they found something they were passionate about. They found a balance that let them live with their mental illness. They figured out how to study and went back and got their degree. Bad things happen. They seldom last.
* You sound really, really stressed. If you have friends you can talk too outside of the university / finals environment go talk to them about this. Especially if they're a bit older and have been through this. They'll have a different perspective that you may find useful and reassuring. I'd also really consider going and having a chat with your tutor and/or the counselling service your university provides. Doing this isn't failure. Doing this is acknowledging that there is a problem and starting the process of fixing it.
"The students who obtain top grades in classes have an ability to focus like no other" / "Under pressure, they excel where I break" - Handling pressure and being able to focus are habits and skills as much as they are innate gifts. But they take time to acquire. Like becoming physically fit it's a task that takes months and years - not days and weeks. They are things you can get better at - no matter where you are now. Keep trying it will pay off in the end.
Sometimes it's great reading how other people feel in these kinds of private situations that happen inside one's conscious.
You can't really discuss them with anyone else so when one person decides to let it all out (as OP did), I think its beneficial to EVERYONE who may have had or still have these kinds feelings/experiences.
That said, I've rarely found being the absolute best at something to be worth the effort even among a small pool of a few thousand people. Crippling over specialisation I believe is the meme. If you can't be the absolute best, you might want look for related areas you can get better quickly - most of the time, in my experience, it can make the initial problem you were having trouble with easier anyway.
It's also a lot harder for you to get fired if you've got your fingers in lots of pies =p
But seriously speaking ... at some point, you will stop caring about grades. I stopped grading after I starting grading undergrads as a lecturer. Heh .. I stopped caring about my age after 31. As a former child prodigy, I sometimes do feel I've wasted opportunities and my potential. But then I remember that the battle isn't over yet ... I may yet do something I feel is consequential. It is no longer an achievement in science. Rather, I hope I can create a company that gives a livelihood to many people, treats them well, and does right by the world. Given that I don't even zero entrepreneurial experience at this point in my life, this dream might just wither away. But c'est la vie.
The point of education is to set aside the hubris and learn.
You very clearly have.
The classroom model is not for everyone.
Dropouts can and are just as successful, more so, I think, the earlier they realize they are not like everyone else.
Like you, I am not like OP.
Everything I learned that is valuable to me on a daily basis was not learned in the classroom. Classrooms are really boring and who wants to listen to a talking head?
I have achieved much so far in my life, but I wish I would have known earlier that direct experience was a much better way for me.
School's out. Forever.
Concerning productivity, what helped me go from doing nothing to being fully functional, were three things. I started meditating in the morning and evening (read Mindfulness in Plain Engllish, free pdf), I started sticking to a good sleep schedule, and I started using the Pomodoro technique. Hopefully they may be able to help you.
Around the age of 10 my family moved to UK. Few weeks after being enrolled in the primary school, the teachers were extremely impressed by my mathematical/studying ability and asked me to take a Mensa test, my parents agreed and I somehow managed to get in. That was year (grade) 6. After that I managed to a secondary grammar school solely on mental ability. I hated memorizing content, in fact, to this day I still don't remember studying at all after moving to the UK.
The secondary school was boring, I strolled through the first 5 years by simply turning up to the lessons, I didn't have to do any work at home. In my spare time I concentrated on programming and building things. I almost feel fortunate that I had so much time to be creative because I got to build websites reaching 40M pageviews per year, I got the chance to play national level basketball and everything else in between.
But that all changed when I started my a-levels. I picked random subjects like psychology, economics and computing along with mathematics with no thought and oh boy was that a mistake. For the first time ever I got a D on a maths test, it was horrible, I though I could just manage my a grades by simply turning up to the lesson. What was I doing wrong? "I've always been good at maths!!"
I was too late to realise that I couldn't just "turn up to the lesson" and get the grades I wanted. I ended up messing up my entire year and decided to take it again. Not having studied properly over the last 6 years probably also brought my studying skills and time management down. It's kinda funny, last year I was e-mailing the google security team about vulnerabilities but somehow failing an a-level computing test! Maybe it had something to do with the boring content?
This year I dropped psychology and picked up Physics instead and I've been doing pretty well, getting A and B grades in all my subjects. I also realised I prefer STEM subjects since there is less memorization involved and it's more about understanding the content. In hindsight, I could I have saved some time if I had just tried.
I also remember when things changed for me, and had OP's "I can do better" moment. It was in 7th grade when I got my first B in math in my life (Algebra) and narrowly escaped a C in Civics (I think I got a 79.6). While not "disastrous" marks by any means, it was still incredibly jarring for a generally studious kid who always turned in his homework on time, wrote his papers, tried hard, etc.
Looking back, it's strange that the almost-C bothered me, since I think I had some Cs during elementary school. Maybe I had instinctively known that in Junior High, the stakes were somehow higher. But more importantly, my new friends were getting straight A's, and I knew that there was no reason I couldn't do just as well as them. Also, I knew that I was "good at math" and that I should of course be able to get an A in the subject. Of course, I had basically never studied in my life, so it was growing pains figuring out how I can do well in history/literature/spanish exams.
I somehow managed to figure out a studying method that worked for me and it was good enough to get me near straight A's throughout the rest of Junior High. My High School was the same as my JH, so knowing "the system", I was able to do similarly well in HS. The biggest difference that I can see between OP and myself is that my "on" switch was flipped 6-7 years before OP's, which allowed me to turn on the after burners while I still wasn't too far behind my peers and still had enough time to catch up.
However, I was definitely not the most efficient or the smartest in my class, and was probably putting in the most time out of anyone in my grade. Two guys were definitely much much smarter than me and I knew it, despite my having higher grades than either of them. To this day they are two of my closest friends.
Looking at the "traits" OP describes in the studious types is really interesting to me. I procrastinated like crazy and played video games for an obscene number of hours (I would frequently borrow a RPG + the console from a friend on friday, finish the ~25 hour game over the weekend and return it to him on monday). I remember playing FF7 before it was even out in the states (since all my consoles were Japanese region) for over 300 hours and had amassed so much "gil" (money) in the game that the number was overflowing out the left side of the menu window. But it's true that I have always performed well under pressure (I always did better on the actual standardized exams than my practice exams) and put in pointlessly long hours studying the course material until I knew (almost) everything (combined with the massive hours of video gaming and extracurricular activities I had, I would often only get 3 hours of sleep/night which is just pure idiocy).
But what do I have to show at the end of it all? Honestly the result is a book smart'ish and tool'ish person who can't build anything to save his life anymore, a far cry from the kid who would tinker around and build stuff when he was 8~10 years old. I do extremely well within the defined framework of an academic setting, but I highly doubt that I'd outperform this significantly doing anything "in the real world" (I probably do outperform the "average" to some extent, but definitely not to the degree I did as a student). Hindsight is 20/20, but it would have served me much better to have focused on what I enjoyed most: drawing, tinkering around with techy stuff, etc rather than devote thousands of hours to cramming academic material into my brain.
So even if you "succeed" in the academic rat race, it's not really useful unless you're going to use those supposed "accomplishments" in the future (ex: go into consulting/ibanking where academic pedigree and GPA is heavily considered).
I'm not really sure what I'm trying to say anymore, but as a person who managed a breakthrough from a position similar to the OP (and there are quite a few people in the top colleges who didn't study hard at all to get their perfect marks -- definitely not me), I can say that it's not necessarily useful to succeed at this either. In fact getting a wake up call 4+ years earlier might turn out to be a blessing.
Unfortunately, it didn't change things enough. My senior year of high school, I was taking three AP classes and still only doing maybe an hour or so of homework a day and still getting good grades.
Then I hit college. And that hour a day completely didn't cut it (and getting hooked on MUDs didn't help :). I didn't get the grades I wanted, but I got the grades I deserved (maybe even better), graduated, and never cared about them again.
Far more important than the ability to get perfect grades is the ability to learn on one's own. And I don't think the two are perfectly correlated in any way.
Also, I'm curious as to when you attended school and which APs you took. I'm currently taking four, and I consider myself fortunate on nights when I have less than four hours of work.
The advice I'd have given myself is: ok, so now you've realized it. You didn't /really/ know before, so don't fault yourself. The only logical thing you can do now is work towards fixing the problem. When I get upset about things like this, I just repeat this mantra until I realize the truth of it: It is what it is, not what it should be, not what it could be, it is what it is.
My email is in my profile URL if you want to chat more.
- Kanye West
Grade A students who graduate and just get a job somewhere, doing something, for someone for the rest of their lives, then retire cozily and die do not impress me, and they shouldn't impress you either.
Do something amazing.
(I'm not there yet, but I think I've got a point.)
You may want to check out this movie: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2036416/
It is a story about Giddens Ko, who grew up despising Grade A students, then became somewhat of a Grade A student himself. He went on to become the most successful Chinese author / director.
My point is simple, whether you like Grade A students or not, if you don't do anything important, you won't be important. People are what they do. Maaaaaybe I was a little harsh, but the point doesn't change.
I stumbled upon this once long ago and have not been able to (re)discover the source since. In my memory, it was attributed to Leo Tolstoy (or may have been a comment made by one character in reference to another in one of Tolstoy's novels). Or maybe I made the whole thing up and was simply chastising myself while trying to learn Russian by being clever instead of diligent.
It near perfectly distills so much.
I would prefer diligence over cleverness every single time, most especially within myself.
Not sure whatever happened to Paul.
OP: find out what you are good at. Grades and academia are not the be-all and end-all of existence or success.
I've found this to be true in my college classes. For example, I took a class recently that was heavily related to previous research I did. The class was easy for me because I did previous work in that area.
I think OP definitely has "idealized" the people who could achieve top grades. I procrastinate a lot of times, wasting my time watching dramas and constantly interrupting myself with online chatting. I am not sure if I perform poorly under stress or not. But I am very very very prone to stress and anxiety. I think because that I recognize my limit (my predisposition to stress and anxiety), I always start things early so I don't have to stress out in the end.
It is not that good to get high marks all the time. Some people think I am simply a nerd who doesn't know how to socialize. They would also say that I only know how to get good marks but not know other things. Some people would think that I am an introvert who stays at home studying all the time... In fact, I love being around people, love hanging out with friends.. I love teaching, tutoring and giving out presentations.. There are a lot of stereotypical beliefs about nerds.. And these things made me very sad at times. But I feel that I had to work hard because I wanted to go to grad school and GPA is a big consideration when it comes to applying for grad school..
Anyways...all these rambling probably won't help OP gets good marks..I will provide some of the study strategies that have helped me succeed in school:
1) Prepare before you go to the lecture. Read the textbook before you go to the lecture. There are times when I preview the whole course material during the summer before taking the course... I think that is simply too extreme for other people..But I did that and it worked for me. When everyone was struggling to understand the materials, I already know most of it...
2) I record my lectures and listen to them like "music"? If the prof is good at lecturing, it is actually not that boring to listen to the lectures again. At times, the prof would give some possible hints about questions on the exams; those hints can be helpful at times.
3) Start on your hw early so that you can leave some time to ask questions. If hw counts a significant portion of the mark, you should definitely start early and ask the TA questions if you don't get any of the questions. Keep asking them until you figure out the answers. KEEP ASKING! It is funny that I eventually become a very friend with one of my TAs because I always go hang out with her during her office hour.
5) I know every well about my limit. So most of the times, I don't take too many courses to overwhelm myself. I also tried to balance my semester with some easy courses and some hard ones. Whether the course is easy or not depends on what you are good at. An English course can be easy for an Arts student to get an A but extremely hard to a science student.
6) Know about the teacher's testing strategies. Some profs like to ask questions from the textbook; some like to focus on the lectures more.. Some have really tricky MC questions.Some teachers like to test the conceptual stuff more. Every prof is different. Knowing what the teacher's testing style is very important.
7) I don't know how relevant it is to other people but TAs have marked my exam wrong multiple times.... It happened to my friend also. There was once when the TA gave me 76 when I got 95.. There was also another time when I got 95 on an exam after crazy scaling. I thought this time, they probably marked everything right and I didn't need to check my exam with the TA; but I eventually went to check it before my final just in case there were some similar questions on the final. And they marked a written question wrong again. Maybe I am just bad luck.. Always check your exams carefully to see if the TA has made any mistakes.
8) I am generally a very curious person who doesn't mind studying anything. But after studying something for a long time, I would also get bored and frustrated.. At those times, I would keep telling myself "STUDYING SHOULD BE ENJOYABLE. IT IS REALLY INTERESTING!" OK.. Maybe I was just a bit too crazy..I don't know. My point is that at times, it is important to motivate yourself and to keep remind yourself how interesting the topic is.
These are all I can think about it so far..If I remember more, I may add later.
Break big tasks down into small ones, practice and train for each small task and then when the big tests (or the challenges of life) come you'll be prepared.
Learning how to study will help you learn how to live and deal with life in general.
I get the feeling he didn't work as hard as most of the people posting here. I'm sure the same can be said for a lot of famous people.
Not so good: taking the narrow criteria of school grading as a crucial measure of worth. High or low, it may matter, but not so intensely as this writer seems to feel it.
I did alright in primary school but mentally checked out in the first year of high school (year 7). I actually told my mum not to waste her breath chastising me for poor marks: I was more interested in friends and socialising so I wouldn't be doing much on the school front. She should expect Ds. not Fs necessarily, but D average. She was kind of taken aback but gave me the benefit of the doubt.
In year 11 I changed schools (common in Canberra where I went to high school, and Tasmania where I went to college which is what they refer to year 11 and 12 as, it's the last 2 years of high school when you're 17 and 18).
The school I went to in Tasmania was incredible (word up Friends' School!) and I had amazing teachers. I caught up and got good grades in (almost) all areas except for one crucial one: Maths.
See all the other classes like English, Psychology, Sociology, Japanese, to a lesser extent Chemistry and Physics, weren't cumulative. Maths, on the other hand, builds each year on what you learned the year before, so the fact that I had been actively ignoring maths for the past 4 years meant I had no hope of catching up. So I got a pass. I didn't fail, but I got a 7 out of 20 so pretty close to failing.
The fact that I passed and the fact that I went to school in Tasmania meant that I could use the Maths course I did as a pre-requisite when applying for a Mechatronics degree when I was 21 (the final year in which I was able to use my tertiary entrance score!).
Why I chose to do an engineering degree I have no idea. I didn't really think too much about how Maths heavy it would be. I just thought that Mechatronics sounded really cool. I didn't even really understand what it would entail.
The 1st year, I failed (yes, actual fail, like 32 out of 100) all my Maths courses. Didn't even come close to passing a single one.
I then took 2 years off and deferred while I went to the UK and worked for 1.5 years in London as a programmer. I had taken 6 months of C first year, and really loved it - it was the only class I did well in that year.
So I worked and a funny thing happened: I got a job I wasn't even remotely qualified for, and through a trial by fire realised that I could learn things, and then use them, completely independently. I did this professionally before I ever did it in an academic setting.
The first year of university, and these 1.5 years following it, taught me, basically, to RTFM.
So when it came time to go back to University for 2nd year (by now I was 23) I took 6 months to study my high school Maths text books at my own pace. I did all the exercises, asked some people I knew for help when I couldn't figure something out, basically, learned Maths the same way I had realised that I could learn how to program on the job.
I then went back and passed (with low credits) all the subjects I had failed in 1st year, and then passed all my 2nd year Maths (and Maths related) courses (some of them I even almost got distinctions - like 72 out of 100!)
I was so pleased with myself. I was so pleased with that fact that I'd learned how to learn, that nothing could ever have hurt my sense of pride in those marks, even though all the kids around me were depressed because they got a 90 instead of a 95.
The moral from this for my purposes (may or may not apply to you) was:
If you start from behind, you might never catch up in terms of the absolute value of your outcome (ie. I think there is virtually zero chance that, unless I was some sort of crazy genius, that I could have truly aced my Maths exams 2nd year of uni). BUT ...
Your sense of achievement at learning how to learn can, if you let it, overshadow that shortfall AND ...
That is the most valuable thing you can learn anyway: the most valuable skill (and the one I look for most when hiring people) is the ability to read and parse a complex set of instructions without freaking out. This is the essence of all learning, and regardless of what mark you come out with, you can count yourself lucky if you figure out how to do this. It's incredibly valuable.
The secret of life: RTFM.
 I'll be using Australian school terminology.
But above all it just gave me the experience of figuring shit out. Totally invaluable.
Maybe even with the good result I should know I'm making a mistake.
Is there an alternative link to the original post?
The rest of the comments have been a good read anyway.
I'm just like OP. Recently I gave exams and if I hadn't had my friend over for studies then I would have failed. Now I'm getting a decent score.
I have learned something today, "To lose false confidence in me". You have opened my eyes.
I was fiddling with scripts and browsing all day long just before my physics exam. Can you believe it?
All the best ;)