| ||Ask HN: How do hackers make friends?|
34 points by lonelyhacker on Apr 14, 2013 | hide | past | web | favorite | 35 comments |
|I've been a CS major at an engineering university for about eight months now, and I don't have any friends. I'm a web engineer who's really passionate about design and UX, and I've joined a few "computer" clubs, but I feel like I have hundreds of acquaintances but no friends. Everybody else seems to have a great time with their friends, and only talk to me about academic things (or how the weather is), etc. I've never been invited anywhere, hung out with anyone, celebrated someones birthday, had a meal with someone except my roommate, or just done something fun with another person. Sometimes I hate other people for ignoring me but mostly I just wish that people would accept me as a peer.|
I've gotten so lonely that for the past three months, every Friday and Saturday night, I've walked aimlessly around campus for hours, hoping to find a friend since I don't have anyone to talk to. I'm just desperate for someone to like me enough to do something with me, or think that I'm more than just someone to say "Hi" to in class. It doesn't help that I was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome when I was 16, which obviously makes things tougher, but I'm sure many hackers face related problems in finding similar interests. I have no physical impediments for social affairs (I'm tall, take care of my health and exercise regularly).
If you guys could offer any tips in terms of ways to turn acquaintances into friends, or how to be more social, I would be very grateful. I'm feeling more and more depressed every day because of this and it's starting to make me lose hope for my future.
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