If people are offended by this, I simply would not care. I mean, there is nothing more I'd love than to have more women in the programming world, but having people with no humor? Nah, I'd rather pass that then.
(If this comes off as sexist or anything, it isn't, it's not a thing against gender, it's a thing against peoples attitude)
This is just begging for a t-shirt that contains:
a) a male insult, female insult and transgender insult;
b) a christian insult, muslim insult and an atheist insult;
c) a white-trash insult, a black insult and an asian insult;
and a caricature of killing babies for fun to top it off.
So that everybody is offended equally without discrimination and we can leave it that.
It's the exclusive message it sends: PHP is for people with penises.
The joke itself, and whether or not it is in good taste, is irrelevant. It's the marketing exclusively towards men that is the sexist and offensive part.
Especially in the context where it's hard enough for women to feel welcome and comfortable at conferences that are 90% sausage fest anyway.
Wanting the right to wear penis joke t-shirts while not allowing others to have the right to complain about those t-shirts feels surprising.
I happily accept that many places just wouldn't care about this t-shirt. It seems pretty harmless.
Either way, I would have given it any second thought if it weren't for the article, so I know what you mean.
I am surprised however it hasn't been dealt with on the spot.
It's not like PHP hasn't had it's share of incidents similar to other communities before, but the prominent role of women in PHP usually ensures that for instance speakers using sexist imagery in slides will be torn a new one on the spot instead of it becoming a blogosphere and twitter drama afterwards.
I understand that, but I fail to see how it's especially offensive women? I consider it primarily against good taste. ;)
It is sexism if you understand sexism and genderism in its strictest sense: That there is no difference between man and woman - sex is a thing imposed by society - and mentioning things like the penis, the biological difference between man and woman, constructs that change, thus is sexism.
Yeah, as crazy as it sounds.
Secondly, if a woman were to say that verbally to a man, there would be a flirtatious connotation, which would lead women to feel uncomfortable wearing a shirt saying the same and hanging around with a load of strangers.
It marks the territory as a boys club. It basically says "for brogrammers only".
I sometime wonder if these people (like the author) are just trolls waiting for a good useless polemic to arise in order to shove down our throat how well behaved they are. Pathetic.
It's bullshit like this that means more and more people are a) not taking feminism seriously any more (women included), and b) leaving the damn movement (my girlfriend and I used to be fairly hardcore feminist activists, but we're so sick of all this shit that our interest is waning. Which is awful, as we genuinely care about equality and smashing the gender divide, but the movement is so plagued by pointless bickering and crap like this, it's an uphill battle).
At this point, I don't know what's more of a joke, this type of marketing or the joke itself.