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You Are Alone (mattmireles.com)
30 points by MediaSquirrel on Jan 10, 2013 | hide | past | web | favorite | 6 comments

There is a great lesson here. For everyone on the outside of anything that requires experience to excel, it appears that there must be secrets kept by those on the inside that reveal the keys to success. But there are no secrets. You just need to persevere: fail, fail, fail and fail until you succeed. And then one day you'll stare blankly at a young face asking you "what's the secret?" and you'll realize the secret is that you don't care about secrets anymore.

"In retrospect, I view this pattern as a bad habit, as an easy escape from the reality of the hard decisions I had to make as a CEO. No expert, no outsider could know what I knew. The only complete data set was in my head. I was truly free to decide and truly responsible for my decisions. The lack of structure, the uncertainty of it all was terrifying."

This is the key point I think. One of the things I discovered early in my career was that I didn't have any trouble at all making decisions. People would ask for a decision and "Blam!" I'd give them one. This was apparently a super power and it served me well until I got to be a bit more senior and one of my decisions cost the company more than they expected it to cost. I got called in to talk to the executive vice president to explain myself. I was scared to death. As it turned out, he was ok with the unexpectedness but wasn't ok with the fact that my boss' boss didn't know why we had decided that way. I needed to keep folks in the loop so that they could keep up, but I also had to own up to my decisions.

As the stakes go up, and you think "if I make the wrong choice here, we're screwed!" you can get frozen into inaction. If you can say, "If this turns out to be the wrong choice we'll be able to tell because this, this, or this other thing will happen and then we can move on to this other choice." it can give you the courage to move forward.

I agree there aren't rules here, but there is reasoning.

Yesterday one of the top rates articles was about not lying and today on the front page is an article about a guy who actually did lie (albeit not the kind of lie that I suppose is that significant) to his success.

I guess the moral of the story is that the truth is a tool.

There are different kinds of success. Getting cash is one. Maintaining integrity in the face of adversity another.

Also I wonder if the (relatively white) lie was necessary in this case.

This is great story to take lessons from.

Of course you are, silly rabbit.

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