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Having lived through a similar experience as Al3x, my biggest take-aways after the fact were:

- If she/he finds enjoyment from it [pick anything] then encourage it. Don't find a fault in it and be an ass.

- Comments and attitudes over time do matter. Don't be condescending. You're not "all that." You may think you are, but you're not.

- Everyone has dreams. They may not align with yours. That's OK, if you aren't narcissistic and an egoist. Look in the mirror from time to time.

Everyone wants to be loved. Everyone wants to be appreciated. All work is honorable.

This is just common sense and decency - you should behave like this to everyone, least of all your significant other.

Anyone who doesn't have this level of emotional maturity isn't ready to get married!

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