Thanks for the feedback! You're absolutely right about the family role dropdown. We put it there as a temporary fix while we built a more comprehensive "family tree" feature, and we'll be replacing it shortly so you can more accurately represent the relationships within your family.
Per your second point, we're extremely grateful to our early adopters who've taken the initiative to try us out with their family. We're constantly working to improve the product from feedback like yours, and trying to lower the barrier so those network builders do take the initiative. Would love to chat if you have any suggestions or concerns about the product!