>"I don't want to have a choice" mindset that I only see here for stuff relating to Apple.
It's because the discussion is frequently more nuanced than "just don't use it".
Power imbalance is something that exists in the daily life of an individual: an employer, education provider(e.g. school), bank, insurer, government, law enforcer (and more) - are examples of people or systems that can compel you to use software or features that you don't want to use.
Those that can foresee how certain changes can be abused will appear to paradoxically act against their own interests. These people have already weighed the advantages of the change against the pitfalls they bring.
There are also different platforms were we can already see empirically how those changes are being abused - so it's not some hypothetical values discussion.
As always the opposing view isn't a 2-dimensional strawman of convenience.
If someone will absolutely not accept talking without disappearing messages, they probably won't go "well iMessage doesn't have the feature so I might as well talk without it", they'd ask that you switch over to an app that does have it.
I disagree, because I’ve lived it and I know how it goes.
It’s the same as unsending messages - you can ask people not to do it, but if the option exists, they will do it anyway. I’d rather that options I don’t like don’t exist.
There are several people I know who have messaged me on Discord while I'm working/busy/sleeping and then deleted the message after it didn't get a response "fast enough" for them. However, the messages stay in the phone notifications, so I'll reply to them.
Lost a friend over that, actually. "Well you should have respected my wish to not read those messages" "THEN DON'T SEND THEM"
Why would you want something to be missing for everyone, when the people who don't want it could just not use it?