It's not that false a dichotomy. I once started a job with a team I thought were awesome people... when I interviewed.
Once there I realized that none of them were all that social with each other, and I didn't want to be outside-of-work friends with most of them, either.
Once there I realized that none of them were all that social with each other, and I didn't want to be outside-of-work friends with most of them, either.