As a neurodiverse person, I've been acutely aware of my impact on conversations for the last two years (since diagnosis).
And I guess I just started noticing when I 'flew off the rails' and think to myself "Ohhh... Shit. I just 'lost' everyone." And how embarrassed that made me feel.
Then I read this article https://hbr.org/2015/06/how-to-know-if-you-talk-too-much which gave me some guidance and vocabulary that I didn't have until then.
Then I started keeping tabs on my 'airtime' and I decided I had to build a simple feedback loop.
Does this answer your question?