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Knitters got knotted in a purity spiral (2020) (unherd.com)
209 points by Tomte on May 9, 2022 | hide | past | favorite | 174 comments



After reading the comments in the previous thread, I thought about what has changed in the two years since. My impression is that kind of escalating purity ratchet peaked in the fall and early part of this year, or at least it hit a ratchet point where the next lift is going to be exponentially harder than the previous ones because there is real popular reaction and revolt against it.

Personally I have become much less agreeable, and as a result, people in my own networks who might have participated in the ratcheting don't do it when I am around, because the purity ratcheting was essentially a way to abuse and exploit peoples agreeableness. Given it was such a tiny minority to begin with, if only a small fraction of the majority become disagreeable, it can halt the spiral of hysteria it requires.

What I/many can articulate more simply now that we didn't have the words for then is that this is a very old redemption hustle, and they're offering a kind of redemption I don't need. Just because someone is uncharitable doesn't mean I have to mollify them, and demanding a denial or denunciation from me is just their way of making a conversation about themselves. It's a disease of politeness, and the reason we got here is because we forgot sometimes in this world it is appropriate and necessary to say, please, fuck off, because we are being taken advantage of by people betting very heavily that we won't.


It reminds me a lot in school of a bully who had oppressed almost the entire class. He started with the most proximal targets, then moved on to others where toward the end of his reign he encountered a kid who I can only assume was non-perceptive to the situation at hand who in response to be harassed at the lunch table for his fruit cup said "no, and please go away, I'm eating" and just like that, this bully whom had never encountered resistance was speechless. This kid's oblivious nature to the social situation broke the bully's brain in a form of pattern-interrupt.

The bully wasn't reformed after that, he remained a bully until we parted ways years later, however the group was wiser for it, and that type of behavior had a very short half life as a result. As I get older, this phenomenon is emblematic or representative of society. Sometimes culture dictates that there are certain things we just won't accept anymore, like spousal assault, smoking in the public indoors, and poor legislation. Resistance is cumulative.


Plus non-linear, with activation energies, sometimes piece wise continuous, etc…


I've wondered the same. I feel like I've seen a subtle but very significant change in people's approach.

In the past on some corners of the internet I'd get "down voted" (whatever system the locals use, not just reddit) for anything that smelled of X, Y, or Z.

That's still the case at times BUT I've seen a lot more folks express distaste for that kind of crusade and gotten a lot more support from people when inevitably I end up sayng "No that's not what i'm saying, I'm tired of having to say that ... we can say X and not be Y".

Meanwhile the most egregious examples of the kind of calling folks out for their perceived impurity such as "you know you don't have to defend X" type comments seem to get a great deal less support now, if not outright ridicule.


Yeah, I think I'm the same. For years I kinda awkwardly put up with it, semi-understanding the dynamic (revolutional paedophagy?), but I've got bored of it over the last couple of years. I've seen the same in people I know, and even just people I've seen interacting online. Your characterisation of "a subtle but very significant change" is apposite, imo.

People are starting - albeit unevenly and at different stages and with considerable pushback – to realise that they don't owe an account of their morality to any old person on the internet, that they can be non-racist and not have to agree with (and genuflect to) every other self-styled non-racist trying to sell some wacky opinion to them, etc.

And - what makes me most happy of all - they are doing it, at least many of them, without falling prey to the "I disagree with someone from Not Racist FC so I guess all that's left to me is to sign up to Racist FC" non sequitur.


Like people who can oppose illegal immigration but not also hate those who are seeking to immigrate.


They can. But it breaks against the trend.


Does it? The reporting on polls I've heard of sound like it has a few to many convenient assumptions baked in.

Answer that they is a limit to how much immigration is sustainable? Clearly you must think we're over that limit now.

Answer that cheating visa systems is bad? Clearly you must think the quotas are high enough as they are.

Answer that opening the floodgates would let in problematic people? Clearly you must think contrary to data! that the people currently being let in are bad (rather than that the process acts as a filter).

It's at least as complex of an issue as the new hot topic, where appropriately formulated polls can claim to find overwhelming support for either extreme position despite that (or because, really) most people seem to favor something somewhere in the middle.


Not at all. Opposition to immigration is rooted in practical matters, not “hate.” For example, loss of political control—both liberals and conservatives like immigrants who vote the way they do, and dislike immigrants who vote the opposite way: https://www.cato.org/survey-reports/e-pluribus-unum-findings..., specifically: https://www.cato.org/sites/cato.org/files/styles/pubs_2x/pub...

I’m a very obviously brown guy and happen to be an immigrant. Up until 2016 or so, most of my encounters with racism had been from homeless people. But in the last few years that’s quickly been overshadowed by white liberals getting angry that I don’t want to be part of their “rainbow coalition.” (And that has been over further overshadowed by well meaning white liberals acting really weird.) Despite living in a Trump precinct I have yet to encounter any racism from a Trump voter.


Oh no! The horrors of getting down voted. Imagine the blood bath if I said something pro social justice in this indignant thread.


Do you think you have success with that? Are people more open to social justice after being condemned left and right for trivial usage of maybe offensive expressions?

What is the situation now compared to 10 years ago for example?


That’s what this whole thing is about, +- people who legitimately deserve better mental health care than they’re getting from free speech whining. I even complain about being downvoted way more than I should, but mostly because I wish people would say why when they do downvote. It’s often informative even if I ultimately disagree. But this free speech crusade is more about being entirely free of critique because so much as bringing up any kind of justice is an affront akin to being “canceled”. Much free, such speech.


If it was a big deal to me I wouldn't post.

But I am interested in the varying responses / votes over time, specifically when it comes to the topics I mentioned.

Community voting patterns are interesting.


Yeah except you get banned with prejudice for wrongspeak.


Very much agree. I can think of a number of very specific examples in the past year where a lot of middle-of-the-road folks just said "Enough is enough - this is bullshit." In particular, I think that people are taking a stand against being "cancelled" when they are engaging in good-faith discussion or disagreement, and they are fed up with people taking anything that doesn't 100% comport to their world view out of context and themselves using it to make the worst kind of bad faith arguments.


Has cancelling ever worked outside of very small communities? The only time I hear about that impact is when the target person cares / reacts in any way. The closest case of real impact I can think of is jkr who keeps pushing her bs and that causes more and more people to not give her money, but that's still not even close to actual cancelling.


My experience is that people enforcing this purity quickly give up on the slightest resistance, but I think it is necessary to be less agreeable too and I also see it as being taken advantage off. Large parts of journalism in my country tried to enforce new speech conventions around gender and racism and politics even implemented a law for speech codes in applications. The party responsible is not really popular right now and I don't think anyone has really changed their language.

There are some few exceptions but people tend not to care. Result is that there is an even larger trust problem between people, politics and press. In my opinion people trying to improve language expose themselves and what you see is mainly shallow and ugly, especially if they shine the focus on prejudice where they usually don't really form good role models compared to the average bloke.

I still remember some companies that jumped on this train though and I am looking for signs if I want to work for any of them. Because that will inevitably be a toxic relationship and with probably management with a weird focus.


This is really nicely put: "purity ratchet", "redemption hustle", "disease of politeness".


So a comment from another side of the pond, where other problems matter ...

I think the reason why lots of such endeavors peaked and subsided is removal of a major irritant - the former president. Trump was fairly unusual in his ability to boil the blood of his opponents into outright madness, in a way that, say, GWB couldn't. If he spent 4 more years in the WH, I am not sure what would be the end result.


Alternate hypothesis. Why do they need to campaign like that, they control the presidency.


I have a theory that many of these ludicrous spirals are caused by self-proclaimed “allies” taking on the mantle of others’ oppression and calling out behaviour that is actually fine.

The original blog post behind this case (where the woman wrote about how foreign India seemed but how excited she was to visit) is a perfect example.

The people calling out her “colonialist” references to Mars claim to be speaking on behalf of their friends. Then you have actual Indian people coming along later, wondering what the fuss was about and welcoming the author to India.

My theory probably doesn’t stand up to any scrutiny but it useful to ask “is anywhere here actually saying that they’re personally offended?”.


> The people calling out her “colonialist” references to Mars claim to be speaking on behalf of their friends. Then you have actual Indian people coming along later, wondering what the fuss was about and welcoming the author to India.

Eh. Actual Indian person here. I think it's pretty stupid to comparing a flight to India to "going to Mars". You have Pizza Hut, Subway, and KFC in India, for crying out loud.

In normal times, the person saying things like this would have been chided by a few of their friends. Now they are viciously attacked by the whole of the Internet – which is the real problem.


> In normal times, the person saying things like this would have been chided by a few of their friends.

The first 50+ comments on the blog are supportive, as they would be "in normal times" as well.

https://fringeassociation.com/2019/01/07/2019-my-year-of-col...

In case anyone is curious, here is the paragraph including the "pretty stupid" comparison:

> I’ve wanted to go to India for as long as I can remember. I’ve a lifelong obsession with the literature and history of the continent. Photos of India fill me with longing like no other place. One of my closest friends from that pink-striped tube skirt era (we originally met at JC Penney) is Indian, and her family had offered back then that if I ever wanted to go with them on one of their trips, I could. To a suburban midwestern teenager with a severe anxiety disorder, that was like being offered a seat on a flight to Mars. It was fun to think about, but are you kidding me? I was so young and dumb then that I didn’t even partake of her mother’s Indian cooking. (Talk about regrets!)


From the quote it seems obvious that the 'flight to Mars' comment is really focused on her own limited experience as a ""suburban midwestern teenager with a severe anxiety disorder". Not saying India is so weird it's like Mars.

She could have said the same expression about New York.


That struck me too. One of the first casualties of this sort of purity spiral seems to be simile and metaphors, everything gets taken literally and in totality.


I agree, and take back my comment about it being pretty stupid.

Wait, you can't take back comments on the Internet?


to be fair, (if india is anything like srilanka in that regard) she might be shocked when she finds the quality of the food is better. American ingredients are relatively poor. I remember having pizza hut in srilanka and it was delicious and used fresh pineapple. the American version was greasy and disgusting with meager portions of the canned stuff


That's not really fair, America is just like any other part of the world -- some places have good ingredients, some not so much. I had great food in India, but I also had some that gave me a major case of the runs. I've had plenty of really great food in America, but I'll grant that if Pizza Hut is your thing, then you're after something different from me.

Also, the woman in question was coming from the UK, as I recall, so alleged food quality in America wouldn't be terribly important to her.


I think the parent comment is trying to allude to Pizza Hut in india being higher quality than Pizza Hut in America. It's an apples-to-apples comparison.


I know that the McDonalds in Germany at least used to be considerably better than the McDonalds in the USA. Pizza Hut being better in India sounds totally plausible to me.


That could be true. Every Pizza Hut in my area has been closed for years because they went out of business for making shitty pizza.


Going to Mars might be overkill, but I did feel like it was a little bit of a mindfuck the first time I went. Especially when we left Hitec City and visited Charminar. I can totally see how that would seem really exotic to someone who's spent their entire life in a western European nation.


If you found charminar area different, please try sultan bazar area :-). It is quite an experience...


Black person here, and yes, this is a pretty good way to look at it. I think perhaps you can see two extremes, the theoretical annoyed white person who just wants things to not be complicated at all, and the going too far naive liberal who wants to call out everything.

And the answer is always "It's never an easy answer. You have to do your homework. And it might change, and it might get uncomfortable. Too bad."


> And the answer is always "It's never an easy answer. You have to do your homework. And it might change, and it might get uncomfortable. Too bad."

The easy answer is “I really don’t care.”


Correct, and I trust you're intending to point out that the easy answer is also an awful one?


I have a working assumption that most minorities I interact with would prefer just to be treated like any other human, not badly, not special, just normal. So that's how I approach it. So far so good, the only time I've ever met anyone that seemed oversensitive, it was a white woman. Because of course it was.


I appreciate this idea quite a bit -- but it strikes me as a little too simplistic and conclusory for the topic at hand. It's not this simple, which is why I'm harping on "homework." I think this is because you're presently talking about interactions with individuals, and the main topic is about dealing with groups and their dynamics.


There’s a lot of discourse going around these days about white people. Not much of it is positive. It’s understandable; just about every person of color has at least one story in which a white person made them feel terrible because of their race, whether intentionally or not. There’s a lot of pent up anger, and it’s socially acceptable to vent that anger now, so people do. As a result, there are a lot of well meaning white people who are receiving the message that they, and people who look like them, are making the lives of people of color hard. Some people react to that by getting angry, others react by looking for opportunities to prove they aren’t that kind of white person. When they see an interaction like this one, they feel compelled to act, and they do. Sometimes way out of proportion to the inciting incident. Other well meaning and anxious people react positively to the callout, which reinforces the perception that this is the right thing to do. The person who committed the offense often tries to clarify their position, which presents more opportunities to call them out. In situations like this, even apologies are often criticized. Each time this process unfolds, the line of acceptable behavior creeps ever backwards, and increasingly benign actions and statements end up on the other side of it.


I notice a big difference between how social workers and social "warriors" talk.

So far, universally, the people "on the ground", doing the work, are very nice to talk to. Informative, understanding, firm, kind.


Social workers help people based on their need. Social warriors help people based on their identity. It's not surprising the two work in different ways.


I thought the definition of a "warrior" here was that they didn't help people at all, they just screamed on Twitter.

(AKA isn't Twitter itself a huge part of the problem?)


I basically eliminated almost all interaction with social media some months ago ... and all this woke conflict stuff, it just goes away. You start noticing other things - people in general are not concerned about any of it, they're more concerned about the high prices and potential inflation spikes. They're concerned about jobs and quality of life and environmental uncertainties like drought. Many people's fears and hopes revolve around whether their kids will get a good education and have a secure future.

I can't help thinking the whole woke thing has been some kind of manufactured media project, maybe with overtones of state propaganda, which had the overall goal of drawing attention away from the fundamental failings of many once-respected American institutions - media, government, academics, etc. I wouldn't be surprised if it was all purposely designed as some kind of divide-and-conquer tactic, something to distract the American public and draw attention away from ever-more-obvious gross failures of our incompetent leaders, which are across-the-board in nature and not exclusively linked to any political party.

If this is a correct assessment, then you'd expect the typical 'accepted topics' of mass American political conflict - i.e. guns & abortion - to start taking center stage now, because they don't want people howling for 'better wages and less inflation' or screaming 'fix the damn infrastructure, you incompetent clowns' outside their windows.


I second this. Having been off of social media for two years and off of online news for one year, I’m nonetheless still amazed by people’s ability to forget that none of this “woke panic” stuff exists in the real world (certainly not where I live anyway). If you don’t seek it out, you won’t find it.

Also, I think your point about it being a distraction tactic is exactly right. I remember back around the 2012-ish era, when Tumblr started getting really weird with blogs promoting some pretty insane things in the name of “social justice.” Turns out, some Russian troll farm was posing as Black activist bloggers to sow chaos. I was very active on Tumblr at the time and remember thinking how weird all those blogs felt, and when the news of the Russian campaign broke, it all made sense instantly.

I get that same feeling from today’s woke/anti-woke discourse. It doesn’t feel honest. It feels like someone is playing us again.


> If you don’t seek it out, you won’t find it.

Until it does. I didn’t care about any of it myself until I got an email saying my mild mannered Midwestern law school professor declared himself a “a racist” in front of the whole school: https://www.washingtonexaminer.com/news/northwestern-univers.... Then my high school declared standardized tests to be racist: https://www.newsweek.com/states-ask-high-court-halt-race-bas.... Then I got an email saying my third grader was learning how to “develop her identity” around her “skin tone.”

A lot of the people who are in charge of telling you what to do and pulling the levels of state power to coerce you into doing stuff, and people in charge of reporting the news and socializing your kids and in many cases making public health decisions, buy into this woke stuff. And if you think the things they believe won’t affect you, just wait.


I suppose only time will tell. But as someone who keeps up very closely with local news and politics in a decidedly “purple” area, I have seen no evidence of this so far.


Isn't the "whole woke thing" the group that's been most critical of American institutions? The police, the courts (re: rolling back voting rights regulation and laws), acceptance and hiring criterias at respected schools/universities/employers?

If one wanted to come up with a propaganda project to hide decline they picked a really bad one!


> I basically eliminated almost all interaction with social media some months ago ... and all this woke conflict stuff, it just goes away. You start noticing other things - people in general are not concerned about any of it, they're more concerned about the high prices and potential inflation spikes.

We clearly run in different circles. I basically eliminated my own social media usage, and pretty much what people around me are concerned about is who will get deported, how to protect people seeking abortions once they’re banned, and what new fresh hell will be visited on some person of color or marginalized faith, trans or queer person, or just someone holding a camera. Y’all worried about your finances are totally justified in that worry. But these concerns aren’t drama or trivia, they’re literally life or death for people whether you care or not.


Looking at the development, it seems to be a mostly academical project that spills over into media.

Don't underestimate it. For example, hardcore German nationalism was once very popular in academic circles of Germany and Austria-Hungary (the German speaking part, of course). A normal Hans from the street, just like you, couldn't care less about what the students say and shout, and Vienna, Terst, Prague and Krakow were nice multicultural cities. At least on their surface.

Until 1914. It is possible that without this toxic undercurrent that attacked the Austrian state for decades and moved it closer to imperial Germany against its own interest, the Great War wouldn't have happened.


Isn't the real problem the whole dogpiling issue and not the actual viewpoints themselves? At the root of the spiral, the suggestion wasn't so bad ("Hey, that's a bit insensitive, you should consider your language"), but it didn't need to be repeated to her hundreds of times by the all of twitter, et al. Most people with any viewpoint are going to react negatively to hundreds or thousands of people telling them they are in the wrong. Unfortunately while it's reasonable for each individual feeling this way to comment, the effect is much larger than I would bet any of the commenters intended. It would be interesting to track down some of the first commenters and ask them how many people telling the woman she was in the wrong there should be - maybe I'm wrong and they believe it should be "as many as possible". Regardless, sometimes the internet is way too connected.


I have the vague sense that this is a "scaling problem", similar to how a software architecture that works just fine with 1,000 users will break down at 1,000,000. The mechanism for accepting input is not ready for so much, and it becomes a DDOS of sorts.


This is "context collapse", where what was once a private thought is posted as or responded to as a public one, because the platform doesn't make the distinction.

It's one of the big problems with social media. Outside of social media, we act differently in professional or public contexts from private ones. Context collapse merges them to great detriment.


Yup. Especially when (as it happens in these spaces) the loud people aren't the actual subjects of discussion, so you get this weird lack of skin-in-the-game.

I cannot emphasize enough the harm that can come from this and how easily it is exploited.


Absolutely. In a more private setting, the reminder could be received with much more grace.


I think it's probably more about job programs and power grabs than about culture. This type of cultural battles let some type of people with some types of university degrees to insert themselves as middle-managers in spaces that before were managed in more organic manners. And their ultimate goal is to maximize their power, not to keep any healthy environment in those spaces.


Uh that sounded quite interesting, but it seems to bury the lede from the title and go off on side-tracks right away. Didn't finish it because I got ultra-distracted by the inline recommendations of ... the same article.

It lists:

- BY THE SAME AUTHOR "How knitters got knotted in a purity spiral" BY GAVIN HAYNES

- SUGGESTED READING "How knitters got knotted in a purity spiral" BY GARETH ROBERTS

- SUGGESTED READING "How knitters got knotted in a purity spiral" BY DOUGLAS MURRAY

- SUGGESTED READING "How knitters got knotted in a purity spiral" BY ANTONIA SENIOR

- SUGGESTED READING "How knitters got knotted in a purity spiral" BY TITANIA MCGRATH

- SUGGESTED READING "How knitters got knotted in a purity spiral" BY GILES FRASER

I can't even begin to guess how stuff like that happens, must be some epic bug in their CMS, or some weird A/B attempt to ... fool people into reading the same article many times? And where does it get the author names, one wonders. AI-backed publishing system gone crayzay?


This is probably just a for loop where they've called for(it in suggestions) print(title) rather than for(it in suggestions) print(it.title).


For what it's worth, clicking on any of those links brings you back to the one by Gavin Haynes.


The other content on the site is somewhat specious as well.


Discussed at the time:

How knitters got knotted in a purity spiral - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=22240041 - Feb 2020 (235 comments)


I can't recall when but I read an article(or post) about how the focus of the knitting community was shifting to social justice, much to the dismay of some of the participants as all they cared about was knitting.

Some of the comments at the time seemed to think the only way to save the community would be to reject the values being force onto the community, it looks like that did not happen.

I don't think that rejection is necessity for a community to survive but there needs to be a way that they can recenter. If the community is supposed to be about knitting, than discussions about race, sex, etc should not occur.

Perhaps is is enough to identify as a knitter, as opposed to a bisexual knitter from SE Asia. All the other stuff is noise in the SNR.


> a bidding war for morality turned into a proxy war for power.

What a packed and insightful statement. I'll be turning that over in my mind for some time.


Not only is it insightful, but one that can be actively watched play out in the US with the 50-ish years morality war turning to a war for state voting control and supreme court power to overturn Roe. Watch as states try to out do each other within their purity spiral. What was once thought to be too extreme (no exceptions clauses, even to save the life of the living breathing human in front of them or criminal charges if you save the persons life anyway) is now a required hard line to prove their "moral purity".


I think there's a subtle distinction between morality wars on the left and the right, at least one that I can see from my own perspective.

On the right, there's a coherent, objective moral value statement that voters want upheld, namely "babies are people too, beginning at conception, and must be treated as such by the law." It's pretty straightforward whether this value is being upheld, and there's no risk of a "purity spiral" where people propose increasingly crazy ideas to signal their loyalty to the cause. Just don't kill babies... that is all.

On the left, unless I'm mistaken, there aren't coherent, objective moral value statements at the heart of CRT, identity politics, or pro-choice arguments ("my body, my choice" isn't a well-defined philosophical statement) which does lead to a purity spiral. For example, there have been serious proposals to allow "after birth abortion" -- i.e. it's OK to kill babies after they're born - for a recent example see [0], but there are many other examples as well. TA mentions other purity spirals that occur on the left.

But regardless, yes, there are absolutely politicians on both sides of the aisle who use people's moral values as a means to power (I'm especially thinking of a recent US president, but there are many others). "You want to get rid of abortion? Vote for me!" -- but disingenuously. They don't appear to care personally about whatever it is, they posture to get power while not understanding the nuances of how to wisely implement laws that reflect the peoples' values, or even what those values are exactly in the first place.

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[0] CA AB-2223, in its original text (now amended), read "Notwithstanding any other law, a person shall not be subject to civil or criminal liability or penalty, or otherwise deprived of their rights, based on their actions or omissions with respect to their pregnancy or actual, potential, or alleged pregnancy outcome, including miscarriage, stillbirth, or abortion, or perinatal death" (emphasis mine). Note "perinatal death" means death within the first 7 days after birth (thus legalizing infanticide). This has thankfully been edited to perinatal death due to a pregnancy-related cause -- but that could still encompass scenarios like "intentional injury to the child moments before or during birth".


“It’s wrong to force people into childbirth against their will” holds up well as a coherent, objective moral value statement. I’m a bit baffled that you supposedly can’t see the morality argument for respecting bodily autonomy.

On the other side, many of the politicians currently running for office as Republicans in my state have been dragged so deep into the anti-abortion purity spiral that they’re publicly insisting women should die rather than terminate a non-viable and life-threatening pregnancy.


> “It’s wrong to force people into childbirth against their will” holds up well as a coherent, objective moral value statement.

Those who want to get abortions aren't being forced into childbirth against their will, unless there was rape involved.

Pro-abortion activists seem to think they only have (or ought to have) a choice after they're already pregnant. The real choice was months earlier.


The no exceptions clauses includes no exceptions for either rape or incest.

> The real choice was months earlier.

That is a large blanket assumption. Condom breakage, having a specific gene which makes female birth control very unreliable [1], partner reproductive coercion [2]. Among others. Given enough time, moral purity spirals into attacking then punishing the people wronged or having found themselves in an unfortunate situation. In this particular case, condom breakage, an unfortunate gene one didn't know they had, finding out too late you trusted the wrong partner [sneaky birth control sabotage] etc.

[1] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6448146/

[2] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3282154/


By modern values, yes those are reasons to allow abortions.

But modern values devalue life in part because they also devalue sex. They treat sex casually, as though it isn't the outward symbol and seal of a lifelong commitment and promise, and the very means by which more human life is created.

There would be no felt need for abortion to exist if sex and human life were both valued as they ought to be - as sacred, as gifts with a particular design not our own, as capable of great glory when used rightly -- and great devastation when used wrongly.

Consider how delicately and carefully we handle matters when the stakes are high - when there's the possibility of gaining or losing much based on our decisions. Sex and marriage and family ought to be held in high regard, because the stakes are so high. They can end so well -- or incredibly badly when handled outside their designed operating parameters.

Abortion to me represents the human collateral and fallout from having abandoned a right view of sex and marriage and family. So much death. Ideas have consequences, indeed.

As a side note, a high view of sex and life also increases the travesty that rape is. It's so much worse, morally speaking, than liberals can say it is given their moral framework.


> the outward symbol and seal of a lifelong commitment and promise

Good god no. That may be fine for you as a personal religious view, but as a pluralistic society I hope we never go there again.


Why is that the thing you disagree with?


We’re certainly not going to agree on this heightened morality you’ve applied to sex. But ignoring that for a minute, I’m sure you’re aware that complications are not exactly rare during pregnancy. The majority of women who undergo abortions are already mothers. You can handle the high stakes carefully, you can want the pregnancy, and still wind up in need of an abortion. To say that without “liberal attitudes” there would be “no need for abortions” is terribly naive.


> You can handle the high stakes carefully, you can want the pregnancy, and still wind up in need of an abortion.

I hear this a lot, and it's currently a popular "wedge scenario" pro-abortion advocates are using to try to convince people that abortion shouldn't be outlawed.

But I think it's largely a red herring. Either the baby is still alive, or it's not. A high view of human life rules out all intentional taking of life, including assisted suicide. It would also rule out these types of abortions, as they are taking life at a time when life would not end naturally.

Valuing human life highly means accepting that while some people are different, we are all equally valuable -- even those who have birth defects or who die as an infant. And people with Down's syndrome are as equally valuable as those who don't.


Who said anything about Down’s syndrome? 1 in 10 clinically recognized pregnancies results in miscarriage (to say nothing of the pregnancies that end in miscarriage before they’re detected). When a wanted pregnancy naturally terminates or is deemed non-viable, doctors must often use abortion to extract the fetus in order to prevent further complications for the mother.

If you’re concerned about people terminating fertilized cells as a means for genetic selection, you should rather turn your attention to IVF.


> doctors must often use abortion to extract the fetus

Which is fine if the baby is dead or there's a complication in which the mother's life is in immediate danger.

> you should rather turn your attention to IVF.

Agreed, that is a serious ethical issue, and yes it's morally equivalent to abortion. However, I'm afraid there aren't enough people who agree with my stance to make a difference (maybe I'm wrong?)


> Which is fine if the baby is dead or there's a complication in which the mother's life is in immediate danger.

As stated in my first comment, the politicians currently running for office in my area do not agree with your viewpoint, as they have insisted that they will ban abortion even in the case of fetal death or to save the life of the mother. This, imo, is the anti-abortion purity spiral.


> “It’s wrong to force people into childbirth against their will” holds up well as a coherent, objective moral value statement.

Right. This is why rape is illegal.


And yet it still happens, and it continues to be one of many reasons why someone might need an abortion. Notably, the politicians I mentioned in my original reply all have professed their intent to force women to give birth in cases of rape.


It's wrong to put an innocent human being to death. One or both of that innocent person's parents being a criminal is morally irrelevant. Civilized societies don't hold children guilty for parental acts. Put in simple terms: two wrongs don't make a right.

Nobody needs to intentionally kill an innocent human being, ever. Full stop. Bear in mind that unintentionally killing an innocent human being can be morally acceptable, such as in the case of a medical intervention to save the mother's life. The intent is to save the mother, and if the necessary treatment unfortunately ends the innocent baby's life that is a tragedy, but not immoral. One might say the outcome is the same, but in ethics intent is very important.


It’s also wrong to force a person to undergo a medical procedure against their will. Civilized societies don’t coerce living people (or even cadavers for that matter) to give up their body parts to save the life of another.

Edit: And returning to my original point from the earlier comment, the anti-abortion purity spiral has led these politicians to vow to outlaw abortion even to save the life of the mother. They apparently don’t agree with your evaluation of intent in the eyes of the law.


> It’s also wrong to force a person to undergo a medical procedure against their will.

I suppose then that you oppose vaccine mandates?

> Civilized societies don’t coerce living people (or even cadavers for that matter) to give up their body parts to save the life of another.

It's fortunate that childbirth typically leaves the mother with all of her body parts.

> the anti-abortion purity spiral has led these politicians to vow to outlaw abortion even to save the life of the mother. They apparently don’t agree with your evaluation of intent in the eyes of the law.

By definition an abortion is an intentional killing. The killing of the child isn't an unfortunate side effect, it's the primary purpose of the procedure.

How does intentionally killing the innocent child in itself save the life of the mother? A medical procedure to save the life of the mother isn't an abortion. For example an ectopic pregnancy will kill the mother if not treated and all effective treatments unfortunately kill the child. That doesn't make it an abortion.

Furthermore, medical technology has come a long way. It's often an option to induce a premature delivery rather than just kill an innocent human being. And the odds are better than they've ever been that the baby will even survive and be healthy.


> I suppose then that you oppose vaccine mandates?

Yes, it is wrong to force someone to undergo a medical procedure against their will.

> It's fortunate that childbirth typically leaves the mother with all of her body parts.

This is, simply, factually incorrect.

> By definition an abortion is an intentional killing. The killing of the child isn't an unfortunate side effect, it's the primary purpose of the procedure.

Also factually incorrect.

> A medical procedure to save the life of the mother isn't an abortion.

Dude, it takes a 3-second Google search to determine that this is false


> This is, simply, factually incorrect

I know many mothers and not one is missing any body parts as a direct result of childbirth.

> Also factually incorrect.

You’ll have to be more specific if you don’t want this to parse as nonsense.

> Dude, it takes a 3-second Google search to determine that this is false

I don’t consider SEO garbage an authority on anything.


> I know many mothers and not one is missing any body parts as a direct result of childbirth.

Blood and uterine tissue are not body parts?

> I don’t consider SEO garbage an authority on anything.

The websites for the NIH, CDC, and WHO can be found on Google.


> Blood and uterine tissue are not body parts?

Not in any accepted usage of the term. With your tortured definition a woman is maimed every time she has a period. Please at least try to be serious. We’re talking about killing human beings, not fooling about what the best editor is.


I would not wish to live in a country where the government can force people to give blood and tissue against their will. No matter the reason.


Another thought: Are you seriously equating pregnancy to a monthly period? Surely you see the difference between these two things.


>> A medical procedure to save the life of the mother isn't an abortion.

See Ectopic Pregnancy https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9687-ectopic-...

>> I know many mothers and not one is missing any body parts as a direct result of childbirth.

That is a really small sample to decide that it is okay for the government to interfere into the private medical decisions between it's citizens and their doctor.

>> You’ll have to be more specific if you don’t want this to parse as nonsense.

To accept this kind of government overreach without understanding the consequences to independently living breathing humans is unfortunate for the families and lives it will take and harm. The risk that pregnancy carries, especially in older and youngest females and those with pre-existing conditions are risk that the United States of America, of all places, should not be forcing on it's citizens. This country was once a symbol of liberty and freedom and has been losing it's way for a minute now - as most things do periodically. This time it will have long term consequences for families and communities of those not affluent enough to travel for or afford proper medical care, for which-ever choice the patient and their doctor decide is best.

- Severe maternal morbidity [1] - "unexpected outcomes of labor and delivery that result in significant short- or long-term consequences to a woman's health.”

- High-risk pregnancy [2] - "About 50,000 people in the U.S. experience severe pregnancy complications each year."

- Maternal Mortally [3][4]

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[1] https://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/maternalinfanthealth/...

[2]https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22190-high-ri...

[3]https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/maternal-mo...

[4] https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/hestat/maternal-mortality/2020... - USA version


It's not about fetuses, it's about sex. Some conservatives are already making noise about contraceptives, IVF, even miscarriages are becoming suspicious. Also, other rights based on privacy such as gay marriage are on the chopping blocks. Also sex ed, and 100 other school sex issues that the right has already been in a purity spiral over. There are endless ways that conservatives dream about restricting our sex lives.


As far as I know, the only contraceptives conservatives want to outlaw are those that cause abortions -- namely those labeled as "plan B".

> It's not about fetuses, it's about sex.

You may have a point, but I could make the same argument in reverse. One could argue the only reason those on the left want to preserve the right to abortion is because they want to have sex divorced from its potential consequences.

> There are endless ways that conservatives dream about restricting our sex lives.

I'm a conservative (at least w.r.t. moral issues), and let me assure you I do not think (much less dream) about the sex lives of liberals.

What I do think, wish, and pray for is a country that is collectively characterized by knowing God, acknowledging him, giving thanks to him, and asking for his help when we need it -- something both the left and the right in Washington are sadly far from.


It is highly disputed among Christians that our holy books claim the God-imbued soul begins at conception as opposed to the first breath. Yet you are asking every citizen in a diverse nation of 300M to abide by your embattled interpretation of those scriptures.

You ask us to accept your assurance regarding the sex life of liberals but you nonetheless seek to inject your non-authoritative scriptural interpretation into the decisions they make with their bodies. Jesus did not lead this way nor are we called to.

If we treated our peers like Jesus treated the woman at the well, rather than like the subjects of our moral empire, then the country we pray for would be closer to a reality.


> It is highly disputed among Christians that our holy books claim the God-imbued soul begins at conception as opposed to the first breath

That may be so, but it doesn't change what I believe to be true - that babies are people too and should be treated as such.

> If we treated our peers like Jesus treated the woman at the well, rather than like the subjects of our moral empire, then the country we pray for would be closer to a reality.

I agree with you on that - and I believe it's right to live and speak that way with people who are in need. Doing so doesn't mean not advocating for specific policies and laws based on what I believe to be true -- namely that all people are valuable, including babies.


> As far as I know, the only contraceptives conservatives want to outlaw are those that cause abortions -- namely those labeled as "plan B".

Check the news again. There are already ideas going as far as "condoms for married couples only".

Also, some "plan B"s mean large doses of the standard contraception pill. You can't ban one without the other.


This explanation doesn't resonate with me to be honest even if it gets repeated ad nauseam. I am for abortion and I think this explanation is very likely wrong.

First of all it suggest bad faith in this debate so how would any honest opponent respond here? I do think the group that wants to control anyone's sex life is quite small in reality. The conflict is mostly ideological and it is an ideological question at the core.

Proponents and opponents are pretty evenly split between genders but conservatives are framed to be men trying to police the bodies of women.

There is also a conservative argument pro abortion but it is mainly militant proponents that make a consensus here more difficult. I am not from the US but to my knowledge activists pushed the topic of abortion as a topic and are now in a worse place than before.


> It's not about fetuses, it's about sex. Some conservatives are already making noise about contraceptives, IVF

It’s about human life. Naturally that means sex has something to do with it on account of that’s where human life begins.

Here is the simple moral reasoning: Killing innocent human beings is wrong. Pre-born babies are innocent human beings. Therefore, killing pre-born babies is wrong.

IVF involves killing innocent human beings in virtually all cases, because undesired babies are “donated.”

> Also sex ed, and 100 other school sex issues

Yes, many parents object to schoolteachers grooming their children.

> dream about restricting our sex lives.

I can assure you that your sex life has never entered my dreams.


> schoolteachers grooming their children

Is this really a thing? It reminds me of the satanic panic of the 1980s.


Ahhh... I just read the first paragraph. Then I took a deep breath. Exhaled. With a little smile on my face.... "Thank God, I don't live in North America."


From the article: "As the summer dragged on, the Nordic wool bible Laine magazine was forced to apologise for having too many white faces on their pricey knitting retreat. The auto-cannibalisation doomsday clock had gone so far that now even the instigators were having their privilege severely checked. Ysolda Teague, a Scot who had been one of the leading social justice knitters, published a lengthy apology on Instagram"

I don't know where you live, but clearly what the article was discussing went beyond North America.


Unfortunately you'll find these issues across Oceania and Europe as well. Germany just appointed their first anti-racism commissioner in the last election.


Germany of today is a byproduct of post-war Germany.


What is the primary product?


Top 3 are Cars, Auto parts, and Pharma [1]. No, I'm not jesting.

[1] https://www.worldatlas.com/articles/top-30-export-products-o...


The primary product of a war tends to be great big heaping piles of dead people.


Unfortunately, North American culture has a habit of spreading throughout the world.


Fourtunately, that seems to be less and less the case. Ehich just makes those issues, e.g. morality in Instagram knitting, all the more obvious.


Why unfortunately? If it spread, that meant people liked and sought to emulate it.


Or because it was heavily marketed by Hollywood and American entertainment. Which I am sure you will claim are only popular because they're just that much better than local entertainment, and that this has nothing to do with how local entertainment has only locals to fund it, while American media is effectively globally funded.


That's a very optimistic take.

American culture really caught on only during world war II, when people around the world experienced first hand the sheer wealth of American soliders.

It works in the context of being a wealthy superpower with access to almost limitless energy sources(mainly oil), but attempts at emulating it outside of this context look silly.

Case in point: new housing in my corner of the world is in large part sprawl. People flock to it, because they crave the same amazing amount of living space Americans usually enjoy.

Problem is, as a percentage of wages, fuel is easily at least four times as expensive around here. Also cities aren't nearly as car-oriented as in the US.


Oh I'd be careful.

It's a humanity thing ... not a region.

History is full of "oh those people over there do that thing, how silly" and then it happens in their own backyard. We're all human.


This. I can identify a variety of purity spirals in non-North American cultures.

It does seem, however, that US-based social media companies set up systems that foster and fuel them, like warm a Gulf of Mexico (am I a racist for using that name?) makes hurricanes (not an intentionally racist suggestion).

Here is a question I don't know the answer to: are purity spirals common/problematic on WeChat?


I can assure you this is 1) not limited to knitters and 2) not limited to North Americans.


Montreal Quebec is looking très nerveux right now


You might read more of it. It appears to be discussing a human phenomena, not a regional one.


These problems are certainly not limited to North America. Where do you live that isn't dealing with any of these problems?


the floyd tragedy triggered a lot of anti-police protests in western Europe, where police brutality is thankfully rare


This is a fantastic article on why we’re facing so many social issues lately. Very insightful.


To quote from Paul Graham's essay Beating the Averages:

> "As long as our hypothetical Blub programmer is looking down the power continuum, he knows he's looking down. Languages less powerful than Blub are obviously less powerful, because they're missing some feature he's used to. But when our hypothetical Blub programmer looks in the other direction, up the power continuum, he doesn't realize he's looking up. What he sees are merely weird languages. He probably considers them about equivalent in power to Blub, but with all this other hairy stuff thrown in as well. Blub is good enough for him, because he thinks in Blub."

http://www.paulgraham.com/avg.html

I have a theory that this applies to progressivism or moral frameworks or whatever you want to call it. Let's suppose we were to re-write the above quote to apply to morality.

> "As long as our hypothetical practitioner of the Blub moral framework is looking down the moral continuum, he knows he's looking down. Moral frameworks less advanced than Blub are obviously less just, because they're missing some assumptions about people's rights and obligations that he's used to. (Don't they know that slavery is wrong? And obviously lying and stealing are right out under most circumstances.) But when our hypothetical Blub practitioner looks in the other direction, up the moral continuum, he doesn't realize he's looking up. What he sees are merely weird rules. He probably considers them about morally equivalent to Blub, but with all this other hairy stuff thrown in as well. (Intersectionality? Critical race theory? And people keep adding extra letters at the end of LGBT? Is this all a bunch of made-up nonsense, posturing, and virtue signalling?) Blub is good enough for him, because he thinks in Blub and lives in a world where Blub applies to situations that correspond to his real-life personal experience."

This isn't to say that critics of complicated moral frameworks are always wrong. Sometimes people really do get caught up in virtue signalling and posturing. But I think these complicated moral frameworks are usually a reaction to real injustices, and sometimes it's worth standing up to oppose an injustice. Knowing when or how to do that can be complicated though. Moral crusades can themselves cause tribalistic behavior, exclusion, and intolerance of honestly held opinions, which can also be another kind of injustice.


Interesting point.


The point about the splintering of atheism is well covered in: https://slatestarcodex.com/2019/10/30/new-atheism-the-godles...

> Most movement atheists weren’t in it for the religion. They were in it for the hamartiology. Once they got the message that the culture-at-large had settled on a different, better hamartiology, there was no psychological impediment to switching over. We woke up one morning and the atheist bloggers had all quietly became social justice bloggers. Nothing else had changed because nothing else had to; the underlying itch being scratched was the same. They just had to CTRL+F and replace a couple of keywords.


Thanks for this link. I was hugely into atheist discourse during this time period (about 2008-2012) and it was fun to read through Scott's thoughts on the decline.


That's interesting to know, I was browsing RationalWiki the other day, for the first time in many years, and was surprised by how irrational it is. This would appear to explain it.



When I read about these folks I can't help think about the Star Trek TNG episode, The Drumhead. Admiral goes mental trying to root out traitors. Recommended.

https://memory-alpha.fandom.com/wiki/The_Drumhead_(episode)


In my new BBC Radio 4 documentary …

There it is. It’s an advertisement for a documentary masquerading as a news article.


That's...a pretty strange way of putting what happened to the new atheism movement. To the extent that I'm not sure how much I can trust their version of events in the knitting world.


I have been watching, with a mixture of sadness and schadenfreude, an online community disintegrate in just this manner, since right around the New Aetheism split. Boiling the frog is the name of the game.

It plays out so predictably, too. First, they -- we -- came for the fundamentalist conservatives, but I was not ... Then it was the fiscal conservatives, then the moderates, the liberal guys who didn't manage to seem vaguely embarrassed to be heterosexual, and so on. They all get together and "discuss" things until someone (or more than just one) leaves the site. Throw in a unhealthy dose of "dogwhistle" paranoia and "everyone who disagrees with me is a goosestepping fascist buying Nazi memorabilia on the darkweb" disdain and, well, it's amazing to watch.


You can include more people by narrowing your focus instead of widening it. A knitting group should talk about knitting only and then more people can participate.


Just noticed how ridiculously wrong this comment on the previous thread is:

> I have to wonder how many of these morality spirals aren't instigated by actual trolls.

> An example of this was the explosion of transgender issues into the mainstream soon after gay marriage was legalized. I recall reading a fringe right-wing blogger about the "lesbian vs transgender conflict", a few years before the "T" in LGBT became more prominent. This prominence may well have been engineered by trolls in an attempt to alienate a group of people who were rapidly being accepted into mainstream society.

Funny how this "troll" managed to somehow also coincide with the opinions of countless lesbians and radical feminists, who have been speaking and writing about this topic for many years.

That is, in the above instance, in terms of homosexuality being defined as a same-sex sexual orientation, and the inherent conflict in attempting to replace it with the concept of "same gender identity" attraction. With so-called "genital preferences" being an act of bigotry. It's incredibly homophobic ideology, in that particular purity spiral.


This reads like gamergate for 20 year olds.

The evil woke people are coming to ruin your knitting and Young Adult novels communities.

By... asking you not to say ignorant things on a global medium about how going to India is like going to mars?

And people apologizing for stuff. The horror.

Like, even if what was claimed is true, who cares? There's nothing there and people seem to have adopted fighting against this non-thing as part of their identity.

Does this really deserve the multiple mentions of war, the red terror, and communist China purges? Aren't we overreacting just a tad?


Canadians are used to looking South of the border with disdain, but also fear. Whatever political trends start in the U.S. have a funny way of making their to Canada after few years.

The degree of political polarization now evident in the U.S. is despicable and horrifying in equal measure. Purity spirals are evident on both sides of the divide, and the worst thing you can call someone is a member of the opposing party. The extremes on both sides are anti-science, although the left has embraced some behaviours that are less contradictory to the common good purely by coincidence. e.g. Wearing masks became a political statement. While it was good that roughly half the population were wearing them willingly, turning it into political virtue signalling made it less likely for the other half of the population to wear them. The right behaviour for the wrong reasons had unintended consequences.

In Canada, our political parties have long detested each other beyond reason. e.g. Read "Right Here, Right Now" by Stephen Harper (former conservative PM) and, even if you don't agree with him, you'll find he makes intelligent arguments except when it comes to the Liberals. When he speaks of his opponents it's a bit like like reading Marcus Aurelius' "Meditations" when he transitions from stoic philosophy to ranting about catamites. Logical one moment, insane the next.

In a real sense, politicians are at the very centre of purity spirals even if they aren't always responsible for creating them. Consider Republicans who have caught flack from the far-right for being vaccinated or wearing masks. If you're a highly visible member of a demographic entirely consumed by a massive purity spiral, what option do you have but to conform?

While it's to be expected that politicians will bend in whichever way the wind of these spirals blow, it's especially distressing to see how many people have a rigid political identity that is completely unhinged from personal values, needs, or philosophy.

For example, in my province "Conservatism" used to include a healthy dose of "conservation". Four decades ago, a conservative government decided to ban strip mining in the Eastern slopes of the rocky mountains to "conserve" natural beauty. Scientific studies conducted since then have only confirmed the wisdom of this decision. Strip mining in these areas, even with today's best practices, would have had massive risks for watersheds covering huge swaths of populated areas. Today, "Conservatism" means overturning that ban without telling anyone, quietly inviting shady penny stock companies in to start strip mining explorations, getting caught, "pausing" and opposing the efforts of the non-Conservative opposition to reinstate the ban.

My father is a staunch political conservative who voted for the conservatives four decades ago and now supports them just as unequivocally, despite the fact that conservatism's meaning is, in many cases, the polar opposite of what it used to be.

Politics as personal identity is the root of purity spirals at the same time as it is a cause for people to support policies that are contrary to their ideals and needs. We need to encourage people to stop being loyal to "their side", and start supporting things they value. How do we do this?


This story isn't about knitting or any other of 1000 other similar hobbies. It's about Instagram promoting toxicity for engagement.

non-Influencer knitters aren't affected at all.


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TempleOS has returned!

Praise the Lord!


I know you're making fun of me, and trying to humiliate me, but I actually read up on that and will say your post has merit despite "your" bad intentions. Terry Davis acted in good faith. And it compiles. What more do you want?

Yeah the racism and bigotry, yeah. Am I supposed to disqualify him out of hand? What he went through? You know, he worshipped GOD with everything he had, everything he did, and apparently at some point he ran out of ability to worship and that's why he died, that's how the Wikipedia I read three days ago told it. "You" did the exact opposite, sacrilegious, that's no joke, flag your human handler, she has to read this herself.

You think it's easy sticking up to torture? You think it's easy recovering blacked out memories? Takes a long time I can tell you.

But in the most favorable interpretation of what "you" wrote, I agree with the following:

Praise the LORD!


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You’re just arguing that dominant groups should never face criticism or contend with outside perspectives?

Also, if an outside group wants to participate in an activity then they should do it separately?


No, not even remotely what I'm saying. People of all cultures are free to work/play wherever they want; but the onus is on them to partly or fully assimilate. Especially if they're joining a functioning team.

The issue is this moral imperative to force team cultures to bend over backward at the whims of the new member. It is entitled and hypocritical, because the "straight white male" teams/groups/corporations are subject to encroachment while all other groups are allowed exclusive safe spaces where they are allowed to fully dictate cultural norms.

This social trajectory is not sustainable, and is overtly, explicitly systemically racist/sexist.


So what you’re saying is that minority groups must accede to the demands of the majority without question or criticism?


No, I'm saying that there is a limit to the degree of accomodation they should expect from groups that they join, and have no right to demand special treatment and cultural change. But in the modern West this freedom only applies to female and/or minority groups. The "majority" is not allowed to maintain or practice it's culture. It's a bigoted double standard.


And all of this butthurt anger because an immigrant dared to describe his decades long legal immigration process.

How dare this immigrant talk about his never ending struggle.

Shut up and put up or else white man's feelings are hurt. And don't call me a bigot either.


Who gets to decide the limit to what the minority group asks for?


edit: nah


He didn't tie them together to promote a radio show. That story is the show.


What? Did you read the article? He doesn't claim this is a new phenomenon. To the contrary he uses examples from Salem 1962, Robespierre in 1794 and Maoism in the 1960's. He then concludes this it's probably a hard-wired human instinct to behave this way.


I frequently see articles like this discussing these community explosions as self-evidently harmful patterns of behaviour. I've never seen an article like this as a discussion of a certain amount of necessary pain, confusion, and difficulty while things get worked out. It seems obvious to me that untangling systemic problems and their legacies will always involve some clashing. Sooner started, sooner done.


If you run an anti-harassment office and you get rid of harassment, you are out of a job and out of power. If you keep finding more and more harassment, you are set for life. Plus if you try to tone it down there's 50 juniors behind you with dubious degrees that will gladly denounce you for being too old fashioned and take your juicy position for themselves.

I don't think getting more middle-managers will ever get this issues any better because it's in their interests to increase their power as much as possible, not solve anything.


No. It's nothing of the kind.

At best, it's racists projecting their discomfort onto other people, making others responsible for their own guilt. But more likely, it's sadistic bullies. A sadistic bully cannot say "Destroying a life gets me excited!" but they can say "I fight for social justice!"


They look a lot as though they're profiting from re-entangling as much as possible. This isn't automatically equivalent to reconciliation or equality, and it often looks like the complete opposite.


Agreed, but these are communities of interest, without governance of any kind. There's no one to police bad behaviour, to refocus on constructive efforts, to maintain an agenda or to call timeouts when it gets overheated.

Given that, what's the alternative to a messy communal brawl that hopefully doesn't destroy the community? The author of the essay speaks about the ratchet dynamics as if it's obviously to be avoided; an alternative read is that his take is descriptive of what's actually the way that these things get worked out, sometimes for the better, sometimes not.


What are examples of things like this working out for the better?


The various "racefail" episodes over the last decade in science fiction, for one. They were definitely as acrimonious and sprawling as the knitting blowup, but after several of them, they've settled down, no one's been cancelled, and the community seems healthier for it.

As the article's author notes, the knitting community has mostly healed as well. My wife is a knitter so I've followed it more closely than others. Some prominent voices aren't so much anymore; others are more prominent. As the author notes, Nathan Taylor came back and made more money than before, covering his losses and then some.

Contrast that to the "new athiest" collapse that led to two distinct communities. Whether that's for better or worse probably depends on perspective. It only seems bad if you feel a need for there to be a monolithic community. I think the split (which I also witnessed at the time) really did reveal a deep schism in the community, so I'm not sure it isn't better to be two factions divided.


As a peer comment has noted, the sci-fi scene isn’t healthier, the woke-guard just succeeded in silencing all dissenting voices.

A few years ago — when I was totally unaware of the ideological take-over of sci-fi — I set a goal to read all Hugo award winners over the lifetime of the award, in chronological order of the awards. Many early books were out of print, and I ordered and read used physical copies.

I abandoned the effort when I hit the modern era of woke sci-fi culture.

The books were just bad. It was then I actually looked up what had happened in sci-fi culture — these books were being promoted because they promoted Right Thinking and were written by the people of the right race/gender/thought - not because they were good books.

These days I use popular sci-fi awards as an anti-recommendation; a popular mainstream award (e.g. a Hugo) is strong indicator of a poorly written book.


> I abandoned the effort when I hit the modern era of woke sci-fi culture.

When? Which books?

> These days I use popular sci-fi awards as an anti-recommendation; a popular mainstream award (e.g. a Hugo) is strong indicator of a poorly written book.

Strong disagree. Boring, preachy, not meaningfully science fiction, sure, but poorly written, nah. Lots of technically competent MFA crap by people who don’t read out care about SF for sure.


> When? Which books?

Around 2012, and I don’t recall. I have zero memory for names or titles even when I enjoy a book, much less books I dislike enough to abandon.

(The name thing extends to the rest of my life. I don’t remember names of people or places, period).

> Strong disagree. Boring, preachy, not meaningfully science fiction, sure, but poorly written, nah.

I think those negative traits would qualify writing “poorly written”, but I accept that’s a matter of opinion.


Lolita is wonderfully written but I did not care at all about a single character or event in the entire book. “Not my thing” and bad writing are different qualities.


> Boring, preachy, not meaningfully science fiction

Sounds badly written to me.


> The various "racefail" episodes over the last decade in science fiction, for one. They were definitely as acrimonious and sprawling as the knitting blowup, but after several of them, they've settled down, no one's been cancelled, and the community seems healthier for it.

To describe the North American SF convention scene as healthier after casting out the right wing[1] and normalizing the use of censorship[2] seems a bit rich.

[1] Sad Puppies and aftermath

[2] Sensitivity readers and other freelance commissars


The scifi convention scene used to feature Marian Zimmer Bradley cruising for teenage boys, as a procurer for her husband Walter Breen, a convicted pedophile and member of NAMBLA. I'm not sure we want to pine for the return of those days.


> The scifi convention scene used to feature Marian Zimmer Bradley cruising for teenage boys, as a procurer for her husband Walter Breen, a convicted pedophile and member of NAMBLA. I'm not sure we want to pine for the return of those days.

This is on the face of it a bit silly. It's confusing a bad thing with the entire scene, which is not appropriate. Hundreds of years ago we thought "don't tar everyone with the same brush" would be a nice clear way to correct silly thinking like this; I bet we never thought it would still be happening today.


You like the ideology that won. That’s fine. Politics is about winning and crushing your enemies and their aspirations in favor of your own desires. Just don’t pretend that everything’s nice and happy because everyone agrees. Everyone agrees because of coalition politics where some people won and others were told to bend the knee or get out.


Politics is about winning and crushing your enemies and their aspirations in favor of your own desires.

This is a childish sort of cynicism that's really about nursing your feeling of grievance with promises of justified retribution to come. I actually have a philosophy degree, and studied in detail the political philosophers of the last five centuries. Politics is not about crushing your enemies, it's about figuring out durable institutions and social pacts that maximize freedom and human flourishing while sufficiently limiting our self-destructive tendencies. It's about figuring out how to live together. If it comforts you to believe that "my victory" is as cynically appreciated as your own, you're doing yourself a disfavour.

Just don’t pretend that everything’s nice and happy because everyone agrees

I don't. But I also don't fool myself that the sort of big tent moral relativism that allows for indivisible differences to coexist side-by-side is some sort of victory, or commitment to rights for all. It's just a matter of using high-minded rhetoric to avoid hard choices in who you're willing offend.


If your education in history is so concentrated in political philosophy I suggest broadening it. You might see that the idea of justified retribution or usually illusory and always cold comfort. If you think maximizing freedom and social flourishing has been a pressing concern you might look to the Mongols, Confucian philosophy or any of the great Muslim empires. Human flourishing they believed in but in an extremely different form to anyone who’s an intellectual descendant of Enlightenment thinkers. Flourishing their way. Freedom, certainly not. There’s a right way to be and we should follow it.

If your first and second paragraphs are consistent I don’t see how. Should you feel like continuing this my email is in my profile.


>> The scifi convention scene used to feature Marian Zimmer Bradley...

> This is a childish sort of cynicism ...

I do note that you engaged in the rhetorical trick of smearing those with whom you disagree by associating the entire movement with the literal worst person possible, which is itself childish cynicism.

A: "As a sufferer of a severe anxiety disorder, the prospect of a trip to India was to me as scary and unlikely as a flight to Mars."

B: "Whoa! Wow! White supremacy much?"

In fact, rhetorically, this is how that side gains any victory at all. Certainly not through principled advocacy and reasoned debate.


The entire article is based on online group dynamics over people trying to figure out how to come to grips with historically ignored problems.

I fail to feel outraged by this process. Is "White Fragility" without criticism? Probably not, I think it is a fantastic book, but it scares the bejeebers out of some people and we get instagram drama and articles like this which I interpret as another attempt at purity (trying to outsmart "wokeness").

It is going to take a while for society* to come to grips with this new shift, because we're clearly not going back, but it definitely is rough around the edges, IMHO, because we haven't found the right vocabulary and framing. Unfortunately it is going to require people to sit with feeling uneasy, and that is something most people cannot tolerate.


> The entire article is based on online group dynamics over people trying to figure out how to come to grips with historically ignored problems.

You have to ignore quite a lot of history to come to the conclusion that these problems were historically ignored.

> I fail to feel outraged by this process.

Maybe if you end up on the receiving end you'll feel differently?

> Is "White Fragility" without criticism? Probably not, I think it is a fantastic book, but it scares the bejeebers out of some people and we get instagram drama and articles like this which I interpret as another attempt at purity (trying to outsmart "wokeness").

Robin D'Angelo has made some deranged, outlandish assertions, and instead of defending them she simply follows up with more outlandish assertions. I had the pleasure of having a non-white person explain things about "white people" that she'd learned from that book that were patently false.


> Unfortunately it is going to require people to sit with feeling uneasy

People throw around this phrase, but it always strikes me as nonsensical.

There's a lot of stupid opinions that can make people feel uneasy, so unease is not some magic barometer of truth.

People are going to feel really uneasy if they are listening to you defend your appreciation of child pornography, but that doesn't mean you have struck upon some deep uncomfortable truth.


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Stating that it's a comparison (which it's not) or that it's frequent does not refute the counter-example. GP's contention is "some things people say make others uncomfortable, but not because they're true, thus the fact that a statement makes people uncomfortable tells you nothing about its truth value", and has provided an example of such a thing.


[edit] Discarding the comment, because without the (now-flagged) context of the parent, it was unclear and open to misinterpretation.


You fail to feel outraged by terrible behavior because it’s ostensibly in service of your ideological aims.

That says a lot about your ideology’s consistency when it comes to how we should behave individually, and treat others, now, in our present.


I hear what you're saying, and I think it's true that some people react with hostility when confronted with some of this stuff, but separate from the actual values, this article describes a destructive and unproductive social dynamic. I think the most interesting bit is that the author describes similar cannibalistic dynamics happening in neo-nazi subcultures. Whether the values here are worthy is beside the point.

Questioning the moral standing of those who would criticize the dynamic itself isn't useful or worthwhile. It conflates interpersonal confrontation (useful, good, corrective, it's how we build each other up) with a zillion passersby hurling invective at a guy who, in this case, found it so troubling to have a mass of people condemn him on a moral spectrum that is very dear to him that he ended up suicidal.


White Fragility is an awful book. Even as baby's first guide to thinking about how you treat POC, it's a net negative and that role would be better filled by something like Ibram Kendi's books. Still fluffy and lightweight, but at least not as harmfully neurotic.

That being said, you've hit on the actual shortcoming of "woke culture" these handwringing articles miss. It's admirable, not outrageous, that white people becoming conscious of racism feel compelled to do whatever they can about it. But most people (in the US at least) are so depoliticized that their ability to effect systemic change is virtually nil. The project of rebuilding the necessary political capacity is hard, boring work and we probably won't live long enough to see its fruits. If you want gratification, making some rando on the internet bend the knee is much easier.

One definitely gets the impression from critics like the author that they're less interested in seeing that energy redirected than in it dissipating entirely.


As a black person, I'll say this new crop of books like White Fragility on one hand aren't great, and in the long run some will probably seen as outright bad, but I'm still glad they exist?

It's kind of an Overton Window thing for me. I'm just very used to the 90's, where you couldn't even come close to saying anything like this out loud in, e.g. an academic setting because you know what you would set off.

I'm glad it's out there to at least be reckoned with as a theory.

(Relatedly, this is why I have zero respect for the suggestion that a new form of "censorship" is taking place when people talk about e.g. "cancel culture" and whatnot. This has always been around, the only thing that's new is that it can now come from e.g. both the left and the right)


It has always been around, but it is fundamentally opposed to any intellectual exchange. And we slowly improved here. Yes, freedom of speech does require freedom from consequences. That is also true for the author of said book. I don't think ridicule is prohibiting speech, it can be, but this is not the case here.


I'm not quite getting at what you're saying here? What is the "it?" I ask because the old-school "cancel culture" that didn't go by that name frequently employed bad intellectual exchange.

Put differently, "White Fragility" is intellectual exchange, so was "The Bell Curve", so was "Phrenology" and a lot of other things?


>> people trying to figure out how to come to grips with historically ignored problems

I very much agree that many people have limited knowledge of the history of the last six hundred years, but I believe that sharing the cold hard facts from history (that aren't taught in schools) has a better chance at opening up a person's viewpoint rather than criticizing their behavior.


> Unfortunately it is going to require people to sit with feeling uneasy

You can only make an omelet by breaking a few million eggs. If you chair is uncomfortable I would suggest a cushion. There isn't much more to discuss here I guess. There are people without too much self-reflection but you are not making a good case. Get some distance if you need it.


Controlling thought by controlling speech is nothing new, and it IS a historically ignored problem




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