I gave a class yesterday to 30 students on the differences between IM
and email. Despite all the technicalities of store-forward versus
connection oriented, key exchanges, PGP and SMIME, forward secrecy and
so on... they were much more of the opinion that it's the expectation
of pace that really matters.
Who sets the pace and why?
Slowing down over-eager bosses by saying "I'm thinking about what you
asked/said and have yet to formulate a reply" is a way to bring them
gently back to a slower frame.
Many of us send a message and get anxious 10 minutes later that we
haven't been heard/validated.
Today I felt this very comforting space of async. I am corresponding
with a hacker named Ploum (Offpunk and AV-98-offline), who is - well -
offline for a month to get some work done. With memories of
communicating to devs on an Antarctic research ship that made
satellite connections every three of four days, I decided I don't need
to respond to the last message until maybe next week, and we'll both
have time to thik about what we're saying more.