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Ready to Work at Lesser Salaries or Even Quit, Employees Want Only WFH: Survey (metrosaga.com)
268 points by rustoo on March 18, 2022 | hide | past | favorite | 278 comments



Fuel prices, traffic congestion, cheaper rents, healthier air, are all advantages that cannot be taken away. Taking the commute out of my job gave me an additional 4 hours everyday not counting lower stress levels. Doing away with random cafeteria talk gave me 90 minutes back. As to creativity, I think the management view that everyone sitting in a room is more creative is not really true. I'd rather meet up people outside a stuffy office.

The clamor to come back to office is only from upper management whose primary concerns seems to stem from the fact that having control over physical bodies in an office is a sense of power. They also have nice offices, views, facilities, space and desks. The rent extracting industry is also going through a crisis of sorts and the political class is deeply invested in rent extraction.

COVID hasn't gone away. Long term effects (cognitive, cardiac) of a COVID infection are not being accounted for either. COVID highlighted the fact that you can get digital work delivered from anywhere.


Having the illusion of control and illusion of good management more than power I think.

I once taught a course and the first thing I was told was to look for a green glow on people's faces: it meant people were playing solitaire on the class computers instead of listening.

A whole lot of managers knows only the work equivalent of that: they've learnt simple proxies for actual management that let them think they know when people are working well from walking rooms (or having people reporting to them do so).

People working from home means they actually have to figure out how to track output, and that takes effort. Effort many managers are not used to.

I had to learn a whole lot to start managing remote and distributed teams. It takes away a whole lot of lazy shortcuts to management.

Lucky for me I was forced to deal with that many years ago, but it was uncomfortable and a big change, so I'm not at all surprised that many resist it now.


> Having the illusion of control and illusion of good management more than power I think.

It's certainly true that managers are lazy and they would rather measure illusory proxies for work rather than work itself, but America also became a major economic engine of the world by exerting control over people's bodies without paying them. Even though that practice ended several generations ago, the attitude that equates "success" with "power over bodies" is still very common in America. Many states are now trying very hard (again) to control women's bodies with the force of law, to cite just one example.


> America also became a major economic engine of the world by exerting control over people's bodies without paying them.

The actual economic data doesn't support that. Slaves were never more than 17% of the population, slavery was only ever legal in certain regions, and use of slaves was mostly relegated to a subset of agricultural labor. Moreover, slavery was outlawed in 1865 and the United States would not be considered an "economic engine of the world" until at least the 1880s, and it would not be considered one for its agricultural output but for its industrialized economy.

Furthermore, countries in the new world (e.g. Haiti, Brazil, that practiced slavery for longer and on a larger scale failed to develop strong economies anywhere to the degree that the United States did, so the line from "had slavery in the past" to "became economically prosperous" is tenuous. In fact, slave labor (and adjacent systems like serfdom) historically tends to hamper economic growth, prevent industrialization, and stifle innovation.


Slavery wasn’t some significant advantage for America (in a time when slavery was super common). It’s pretty widely agreed that dependency on slavery also set the south back economically by decades (look at the GDP north vs south for all of US history after 1800


Did the dependency on slavery directly set the south back economically, or was it the destruction from the civil war?


As another comment pointed out this was the case long before the civil war (which started in 1861 and I was saying you could see this in the GDP difference even in 1800


The South was already set back economically before the civil war. The plantation chattel slavery system hampered industrialization in the Southern US very much in the same way that the serf-owning nobility system hampered industrialization in the Russian Empire. The South, in turn, ultimately lost the American civil war because the northern states were far more industrialized.


They counter that you want to kill unborn babies. You counter that by either arguing that technically they're not actually human yet or that women's autonomy is more important. They disagree. You disagree. Brilliant segue.


I think you're leaving out the part where one group feels like they can intervene in someone else's life and decisions about health based on a difference of opinion. The default should be "we disagree, you do you and I'll do me".


In their eyes, you’re intervening in the life and health of the baby based on a difference of opinion (you don’t want a baby).


Abortion is a religious thing (for some reason - God killed lots of babies in the Bible, and also there isn't really much mention of abortion either) more than anything, but I guess you could also say that religion is just a way to control bodies too?


I’ve been developing an opinion that it has more to do with propping up commercial real estate and protecting the value of existing investments.


There are a lot of ripple effects too: I suspect our largest local employer is getting a lot of pressure from the business community. The number of downtown businesses that are impacted by the absence of those feet & wallets is significant.


I have sympathy for the plight of businesses who are suffering from lack of foot traffic. There’s no conceivable way that would extend to “Welp, I better summon all my employees back to the office then…”


It couod if you were a bank and half those businesses owed you money.


See my other comment, but I suspect so too. Just listening to the rhetoric of my parent company about our clients (commercial real estate developers), a lot of companies are vocally fretting about what to do with their (expensive) office spaces when the BIS (butts in seats) factor is down to single digits.


I am 100% ready to shut down these attempts by asking if the company is paying for extra life insurance because I want my family to get a bit more when I catch COVID and die at the office.

I don't expect it to happen under current management but as we promote new middle managers, I'm sure we'll have a push for it.


What if they agree? A bit of incremental life insurance is unlikely to cost them more than a few 10s of dollars per month unless you are elderly. No, the discussion about remote work should be centered around the pointless commute, not COVID.

I don't think there is anything else more illogical in modern society than waking up in building A, hopping in a car and fighting traffic for an hour to get to building B just to sit in front of a computer for 8 hours (perhaps with a few minimally productive meetings here and there), then commute back to building A 8 hours later.

Building B sits empty for 16 hours a day while Building A sits empty for 10 with both being heated/cooled for 24 hours. The employee wastes 2 of their 16 available waking hours in the non-productive commute while incurring significant financial costs (lease/insurance/fuel/energy) in order to support this patently absurd activity. Similarly the employer wastes time and energy negotiating leases, re-arranging offices, purchasing AV equipment for meeting rooms in building B in addition to paying the likely enormously expensive lease itself.

The impacts on the environment, the number of hours of human life wasted in commute, the pointless buildings and associated costs to employers as well as the public infrastructure to support it (roads, trains, busses, etc.). Surely, all of this could only be justified if physical presence had a dramatic impact on productivity. Yet, we cannot tell one way or the other if it actually improves outcomes. Let's face it, it's dumb.


I hate to be one of those people and I’m the farthest thing from an anti-vaxxer.

But all of the reliable evidence is that if you’re vaccinated, boosted, etc., the chance of you being seriously ill from catching COVID is really no more likely than the flu.

And statistically, everyone is going to get it eventually.


Commuting is fair more deadly usually. (citation needed)

Not just deaths but the health effects of even a minor accident can be life altering. And traffic deaths are up for whatever reason.


I am “don’t vax if you don’t want to”. Got vax with booster and very much a libertarian type. Got Covid, starting to feel a bit better at the, THREE MONTH MARK. Has disabled me pretty bad, wouldn’t be able to work if I didn’t have an accommodating job just from the mental fog. Enjoy this datapoint. I am still against any forced restrictions.


Another data point. I have “virus induced asthma”. Even a cold can cause my body to go into severe over reaction mode. It’s treated by psuedophredrine and asthma medicine.

Normally, my asthma doesn’t bother me. I did all of the safety protocols before vaccines were introduced and I got them as soon as I could.

But after that, we have been living life normally. I am considerate of other people and get tested regularly before I travel for business or to see my parents.

We went on cruise last year. I got Covid. I didn’t realize I had it until the test came back. I did my normal cold regiment - psuedophredrine and asthma meds[1]. I coughed like crazy for a couple of days, self isolated and by the end of the next week, I was back to exercising - at home in my home gym.

[1] this is the recommended treatment for asthma sufferers. But


This is a common experience, it seems.


But if all of these vaccines aren't enough, "getting it eventually" doesn't mean you won't just get it again later. It's just a different form of immunity, a nasty enough mutation will still bypass it.

That's not to suggest no risks should ever be taken, but if going to the office in person is really basically pointless that's a very unnecessary risk on top of the inconvenience of it. May as well delay getting it as long as possible since it's constantly changing right?


That is the same for any disease spreading that way like the flu right? I do not want to get the flu either (I never had it badly; worst I had anything, including mono, was a mild cold. Oh and cancer, mild as well luckily, but I mean viruses). So why did we ever go to an office? Or school? I got my uni degrees and the tail of high school almost without ever going to classes. I studied and now work (for the past 30 years) in coffee shops and bars (sitting outside, always, even in winter) and have a rich social life because of it; I don’t and never did understand this forced cattle herding of people. And then even some people seem to enjoy it.


I think you are asking a very important and useful question, and one which seems like it could be a significant part of the conversation about climate change too...

I think we know roughly why K-12 schools are like they are -- teachers didn't know how to use computers much at all in the 90s when I was a kid and it's a running gag that they never really understood them. Now they do, so it's a new option that I think it's fair to recognize truly is new.

I do work in education and spent a ton of time figuring out how to make video lectures for instructors in the department that were effective, and tons of new online teaching tools were tested that there was never a huge push to play with before.

I don't think it's malice, it's simply that those professors have been doing it one way for 30 years and asking them to learn to do it a whole new way is a big ask. They have to spend all their time writing grants and other bureaucracy, mentoring students, and from personal experience I think it's fair to say that there is little appetite for changing everything to something no one knows how to judge the quality of due to lack of experience in an active classroom. It is the software equivalent of pushing a change straight to a live server, except in this case if you screw it up and do a bad job you're impacting the quality of education being provided to at least dozens of students who deserve better. It's really hard to just in-place make a change without the ability to actually test it.

I hope more people get something closer to your experience, I think the last few years have pushed a lot of people on that education side into a much more open mindset now that online classes are less risky. I think it does serve a purpose to have high school kids in person because of social things and the reality that a group of 20 kids will on average do a better job of finishing stuff they aren't really excited to do whereas one kid remotely is more likely to slip through the cracks. There's also issues with equity when internet and computers and space to learn aren't uniformly available.

But I think you're asking the right question. Let's get cars off roads and turn these stupid commercial parks into residential areas please, we need more affordable housing, not redundant space for people to work in when they're not at home... and the climate control for these giant unnecessary buildings... heck, the parking lots alone are a huge net negative especially if you account for the reality that many many fewer people really need to visit those buildings on any given day.


So how long are you willing not to live your life normally? Since being vaccinated in March of last year, we have been on three vacations (see another reply). I’ve also been on four business trips where we were all inside and maskless - 3 internal meetings and one customer meeting. I have two more internal meetings/trips coming up by the end of the month.

While I e hot working remotely, face to face time makes a huge difference and at least meeting your coworkers and customers occasionally. I work in the cloud consulting department at BigTech.


If seeing people face to face at the office is beneficial to you go for it.

It is often beneficial to me as well, I've been full time back in the office since last August.

It is often the case that going to the office is literally counterproductive, I get less work done, and I have to commute. Working at home is more comfortable, and far better for 60% of what I do.

If I also get the benefit of reduced risk of getting COVID for not doing something that I didn't want to do anyway and which was not helping anyone including myself...

well, if you consider that "not living life normally" I kind of prefer the new normal.

edit: for reference, I am immunocompromised yet still somehow capable of seeing balance in the risks I take (especially the unnecessary ones) instead of jumping to binary "live life normally" or not because life is never going to be fully "normal" for me. If I'm taking risks with my health I want them to be for a reason that actually matters at all.


Does that mean you will never get on a plane again? Go to a restaurant? Go to a concert? Never go inside an office even just once a quarter to spend time with your coworkers?


I already said I am back in the office full time, go to restaurants sometimes, have flown on planes, have gone to a concert, and am immunocompromised to boot.

Argue with someone else if you're going to make up a position for me to defend instead of reading my comment. Your argument style is indistinguishable from an antivax bot.


>But all of the reliable evidence is that if you’re vaccinated, boosted, etc., the chance of you being seriously ill from catching COVID is really no more likely than the flu.

The best of my understanding is that the evidence indicates that if you're vaccinated and boosted, you'll likely test negative for covid. Testing negative seems great, but what if the whole story is that while you do test negative, you still end up suffering seriously from a covid-like illness you wouldn't otherwise have experienced if the pandemic wasn't raging?

Basically, there's not enough data out yet to say if those who test negative but get a covid-like illness fare better due to their vaccines in terms of hospitalization and death. But Chris Masterjohn is doing some awesome research to try to find out. In short, he's trying to figure out if the vaccines are worth taking at all. At the end of the day, people want to avoid suffering the symptoms of a disease and couldn't care less if they can merely pass a test.


You will very much test positive for Covid if you’re vaccinated and boosted. I’m not aware of anyone on either “side” that say anything different. I tested positive when I had it in December as well as most other people I know that got it.

But we do know that Covid isn’t going anywhere and we aren’t going to beat it like we did Smallpox. That isn’t a controversial opinion either. No one on either side has claimed otherwise. At this point, you will eventually get a strain of Covid unless you never leave the house or socialize with anyone.

But that goes back to my main question. What are you going to do except accept the inevitable and start living life like you did pre-2020?

The only thing I can do is follow the mainstream medical advice and get tested often just to be considerate of others.

At this point the only time I wear a mask is when it’s mandated or when I’m going to the grocery store or drug store. Those are places people have to be even if they are immune compromised.


>You will very much test positive for Covid if you’re vaccinated and boosted.

I'm not denying that some people who are vaccinated test positive, but I'm saying they dismiss people who test negative as not having Covid. So if vaccinated people catch Covid and test negative for Covid, their illnesses and hospitalizations are completely dismissed as if they aren't part of the problem and the pandemic. That means vaccines are being given credit for keeping a whole lot of people out of the hospital who haven't been kept out. They've merely managed to test negative whilst still being hospitalized with very serious symptoms. The data that shows this is that the vaccinated get hospitalized 6 times more often than those with natural immunity. Working vaccines would lead us to expect something closer to 1:1. None of these vaccines would have ever met the required 50% efficacy threshold to get approved if we started over today using what is known as a starting point. I still feel blessed I had the opportunity to choose NOT to try an mRNA one, just looking at my congenital heart defect and myocarditis risks I felt way safer with J&J.

>start living life like you did pre-2020?

I went so hardcore for so long, and was so sure I'd die if I caught it, I reached a breaking point August 2021 where I just didn't care and couldn't care anymore. March 2020 I had gone 100% on social distancing, I didn't speak to anyone for around 16 months. Flew to South Korea to hide when they had 30 some cases a day nationwide, spent 40 days in various government quarantines (Thailand's as well) to stay in hiding and out of high risk countries. I actually had anxiety about whether or not I'd ever be able to reintegrate into society and socialize again.


> But all of the reliable evidence is that if you’re vaccinated, boosted, etc., the chance of you being seriously ill from catching COVID is really no more likely than the flu.

Citation for your health claims?

> And statistically, everyone is going to get it eventually.

That's not how statistics works.


If a company has their offices representing a non negligible portion of their assets/revenue, they’re either doing something wrong or they’re a property developer/owner as a business.


I hope this finally ends the nonstop office space development in the bay area in favor of more housing.


That seems likely for the biggest tech companies, that spent $1 billion+ on offices.


WFH is fantastic for ICs and misery for decision makers. You’re seeing pro-office bias from the latter because humans are optimised for building alignment when they meet in person. If you’re an IC that doesn’t need to build influence then, indeed, WFH is bliss.

Not all tech work is about sitting in front of a glowing screen, writing code. It’s about achieving a business goal that brings in revenue, and all the alignment throughout the org that’s needed to get that done.

Repository layout, test framework changes, factoring out core components to make a long term stable branch, persuading teams to collaborate at their bleeding edges rather than by internal releases, how to ship auto formatting code with the lowest negative impact on everyone else…

Decision making, even on technical topics, is a people-centric skill.


None of what you've described is impossible, or less effective, when performed over digital communication. If anything, digital is better for that coordination and influence gathering due to its recorded nature. Better still, because the digital communication is more time flexible the stakeholders and clients you need to coordinate have the ability to consume and process it at a rate that best suits them, rather than feign interest in yet another meeting packed with forgettable information that should have been an email.


It feels like you are thinking of all the times it works well with people who engage positively and I am thinking of all the times it doesn’t with people who don’t. Like all of us here, I have had plenty of successful online and async collaborations to know it is possible and should work well. Not everything is perfect though.

The problem areas — and the reason you’ve basically all got to be in the office at some point — are decision making ones where a group of two or more people fervently believe in two or more mutually exclusive ways forward. Even when I worked remote for a company multiple timezones away, I would be in the office one week every quarter to first build social capital and later to cash it in when building consensus.

I also think back to one of my stakeholders was an underperforming SWE intern. The rate of online engagement that best suited them was zero, and yet — as with any intern — it was crucial to us that they left feeling positive about their time here. That stuff is really hard over the phone.


Collaborative online digital tools aren't simply adequate, they are vastly superior to analog alternatives. It is less effective, less efficient, to meet in person. Making in-person a requirement limits your access to talent, by excluding those in other time zones and those with differences in ability; and it isn't recorded, cannot be referenced or edited, cannot be a living document, and cannot easily include rich multimedia without finicking with AV gear.

And you force everyone to commute into the office.

I've been working remotely for 6y; we have multiple external business partners, and a team of over 50. We have team members and business partners in Russia, Finland, Sweden, Germany, UK, France, NYC, BC, Cali, Japan, and elsewhere; we operate without core hours. I, personally, regularly interact with people in all those listed locations every day.

Never once has there ever been a need for an in-person meeting. Never.


Exactly this! I would also argue that an all digital communication channel leads to better (more objective) decisions simply because the communication channel is not “contaminated” with useless body language , posturing , height and weight differences , race difference and variety of things that introduces biases.


All the things you listed were already done over email, slack, etc. even before the pandemic. The moment I have to involve a second team, I have to do it over email, doing it in person is too disruptive to work.


Don’t you find though that people will eventually bring emotion / drama to a discussion on email, which immediately gets blown out of all proportion because email?

Those kinds of situations are much easier to keep on track in a call / video conference, and easiest in person, when you can have ad hoc conversations after the meeting has ended. (Video conference products I have used — all the standard ones — don’t really have a way of ending a meeting other than hard-stop-return-to-isolation for all participants, whereas in real life it’s much smoother and more continuous than that.)


We do all that, we do all of it remote and we wouldn't go back to the office (it is now impossible)


Every single engineering items were resolved by a well written design doc (ERD). 2-3 Google hangouts were enough to get alignment across team members.


> Taking the commute out of my job gave me an additional 4 hours everyday not counting lower stress levels.

While I'm a huge proponent of WFH-forever and eliminating the commute, I have to say that it hasn't increased my time much.

That's because with everyone commuting, we approximately never had meetings before 10am since everyone knew everyone might be stuck in traffic, so no point scheduling anything earlier. And certainly no meetings after 5pm since everyone had to hit the commute nightmare.

With the pandemic WFH, I'm seeing meetings as early as 8am and up to 6pm, since there is no "excuse" of having to commute. So the time I was sitting in traffic I'm now sitting in zoom.

Sure, I'd rather take zoom than traffic, but overall it didn't free up much time.


A 2 hour commute is insane. That's on you really.


On them and American urban planning. I agree it’s insane, though.


I suspect it has crept up on a lot of people as traffic has increased over time. In my last proper job I used to commute 24 miles in 30 minutes. The same journey now would be close to an hour.


I am not really sure whether you are suggesting people should move closer to their jobs, or to find jobs closer to where they live, but there are all sorts of externalities and life is rarely that simple.


Exactly, I'd rather work from home or from a wework or something, and then meet my coworkers for actual sessions of collaborations (or outside at a bar, or something)


Think what it also enabled is less office politics and promotions based on the output, not who you chit chat with in the cafeteria


A lot of people in upper management are there because they aren't concerned about the effect their decisions have on their colleagues.


It does seem that that there is a pretty strong push for return to on site in a lot of organizations. However it is interesting the premise is often not well articulated beyond diffuse sentiments such as improving "team work" etc etc. Few seem to be arguing that productivity is the issue. By and large, everyone is acknowledging that the work gets done either way.

Which leaves the question of what is motivating it? I feel like this is more managers struggling to recapture their previous sense of identity which was founded in some way on there being a physical place full of warm bodies with a specific culture shaped by management through various decisions. Without that managers are left with a much more intangible sense of what their role and value is. Everything seems a lot more hollow if your only reason to exist is to deliver on bare bones work requirements. Then, managers also feel they have a lot of influence over employees by controlling their physical environment which they don't have with WFH.

The problem the managers have is, the factors in favor of WFH are pretty clear and objective. Just eliminating commute saves most employees a couple of hours a day which is already probably more productivity gain than you could achieve through any other kind of workplace measure. The benefits for the environment, reduction in burden on infrastructure, etc etc are all pretty easy to add up.

So we are left with management weirdly struggling to assert a rationale made up entirely of intangibles against pretty obvious hard objective facts. It's going to be pretty interesting to see who wins this one.


There are many considerations that organizations have, that they will never articulate to their employees because they are either orthogonal or to some degree opposed to these employees' interests.

As a notable example, it's much easier for employees to hop between remote jobs. Forcing you into a physical location is a way to lock you into the job: you socialize and make friends at work, you buy a house close to work, you build an entire life around work.

No employer will tell their employees "let's all get back to the office so you will find it harder to leave your role even if we underpay and overwork you."


A slightly more sympathetic concern: remote work makes a manager's job harder. Said job still does get done either way; but it's the difference between a manager being able to goof off for most of the day and end up finding out everything they need to know anyway through simple off-hand questions whenever someone walks by; vs. needing to actively arrange high-scheduling-overhead Zoom meetings + actively probe one's reports on Slack for relevant updates.


That's what the daily Standups are for. And if that's not sufficient, the manager isn't suited for management anyway.


There’s always a shortage of good X whether it’s devs, doctors or managers. The ones that already struggling in the office aren’t going to have a better time in a wfh env.


Reminds me of something I had noticed: There are a lot of occupations that previously (sometimes long ago) required a good bit of expertise and a good bit of thinking that nowadays have been placed under managers who took the thinking (and very often fake the experience doing the work they plan or have outdated experience)

For some barely logical reason the more complicated work and the higher salary came with a kind of military authority position that use to be reserved for the level above or (longer ago) didn't exist.

This gets interesting where management tasks, like all other tasks, need to be optimized. If it is the same person doing both the tasks and the planning optimization happens naturally. A is compared to B, one goes over the advantages and disadvantages of either and makes a choice.

But now the manager has to chose between his own comfort and/or the effort he has to make and that of his underlings and the actual productivity. I don't think we need numbers to know what most would chose when the options are themselves or others. Its a damn hard choice to make objectively.

But the thing is, didn't we get these big brain high salary guys to make everyone under them work more efficiently? I think comfort in a job makes the largest contribution to productivity out of all factors. At one end of the scale people just start walking off at the other you get the [rare] unimaginable performance only seen in people who love what they are doing.

WFH is going to make management that much harder but also more valuable. If one is not excited about that the job seems to have evolved beyond capabilities.

What more do we need than the employee himself stating: "I cant do the work like this" in a context where we know others are doing it with great success.

Video chat is like the way PDF tries to replicate the paper office. I'm sure people are already building parsers for video chat and failing to match organized exchanges.

I imagine some kind of analogy with using whatsapp as a bug tracker. Surely it would kinda work to some extend? You would be able to find things you know are in the log but if you don't know it is there it is going to be a huge waste of time. If the person filling the ticket has the tools to make that extra inch of effort it saves the person on the other end of it a mile of scrolling.

A water cooler is designed to provide cups of water. It is only suppose to do one thing and it does it well.


Not forcing me to come to work and being able to work from anywhere in the US is one of the major reasons for me keeping my job.

I refinanced last year to a 15 year mortgage planning for this to be our “forever home”. I woke up one morning and I asked my wife did she want to move to one of the tax free states. We can save $12K a year and try some place different for a few years.


I’ve actually heard this one.

Managers happy that employees bought a house bc “now you’re stuck here”. Which isn’t too far from the truth.

There are or where a lot of places where a specialty like networking and various tech fields might only have one or two major employers in the area.


I keep reading those comments where those proverbial managers want this or that. I don’t understand where it comes from - managers also people with similar needs to individual contributors. Myself, being a manager I’m not looking forward to us going to office and the teams are performing well as is. My peer managers are is a similar opinion.

Is it the banal they vs us, search for an enemy and cause of one’s unhappiness?


I keep reading those comments that almost nobody wants to go to the office. In my (European) company, maybe ~80 SWEs, people were given the choice to either mostly go to back to the office (4 out of 5 days) or mostly work from home (3 out of 5 days at home, hot desking in the office). After 2 years of mostly having no choice and being forced out of the office, 80% of them decided to mostly work from the office after the pandemic. We always had a handful people working fully remote, and I think 1 or 2 asked if they could switch to that permanently to be able to live somewhere else. But otherwise people mostly want to be in the office. Notably people outside engineering seem to prefer WFH much more. I wonder why we are so special.


US commutes are especially grueling for many Americans compared to Europeans, I believe. The excellent urban and suburban European public transit makes commuting even for an hour each way tolerable, because someone else is doing the driving. I’ve heard this advantage is substantially eroded for younger European generations who are effectively locked out of affordable housing within easy commute of public transit hubs.

That generational housing affordability factor might also help explain some of the WFH sentiment split between older and younger generations, and between management and IC. Older generations tend to as an aggregate have already locked in their housing cost basis in generally desirable areas with better commute characteristics, and be more represented in management.


I would imagine in Europe compared to the USA there are a lot more people in very small apartments or share houses in the cities, they do not lend themselves well to home working.

Additionally thats one company, maybe you just have a particularly social group of swes who like each other and a good office environment


This, I have been working remotely long before COVID and even if I could stay at home I was going to the office to see friends / have lunch / hit the gym / grab a beer.

Nothing productive was getting done during those office days but they definitely made the job more tolerable and contributed to me not job hopping earlier.


Hm, average apartment size in this city: 790 sq ft, average USA: 880 sq ft. Average household size my country: 1.99 ppl, average USA: 2.5 ppl. I guess we just have better working conditions in the office than average or in the USA.


A better comparison would be median single family home size in US, which is around 2,300 sq ft [1]. Over 60% of housing units in US are single family homes [2].

[1]: https://www.statista.com/statistics/456925/median-size-of-si... [2]: https://www.census.gov/programs-surveys/ahs/data/interactive...


USA houses are massive.

Space is ridiculously expensive in Europe and nobody is used to it, so the market rarely offer that.


Can most of you walk or bike to work?


I guess ~15 people bike to work, the rest uses cars or public transport. I don't think anyone walks to work.


Managers tend to be more extroverted and thus also more lonely at home. Several even admitted this to me. And so they want to make everyone come back to the office so they can have their social needs met. But the way they phrase it is, it’s easier to communicate and have meetings


Which is understandable. WFH people are more introverted so they want to have their needs met by staying home. I'm introverted WFH btw.


Whether one prefers WFH or the office strongly depends on ones personality. I wouldn't be surprised if the personality type that tends to become a manager also tends to prefer to work in an office environment.


Because mandates are coming from managers? Or are suggesting they are coming from ICs?


If your manager told you to push your team back into the office. Would you do that or resist?

That's my view that management are there to enforce the often unpleasant demands of those above. In most cases anyway.


that's something similar to my situation.

While I'm not "resisting" (I'm communicating that this is the organisational preference) I'm making it clear to the team that as long as they stay highly functional and get work done, there's going to be no mandate and people can make their own choices. They are all choosing 80% WFH.

But our office space sucks. I think it would be a little different if we had really nice space.


Upper management … you will ask your team to come to office as soon as you get the memo from upper management. <shrugs>


Someone in the management chain is making that decision.


Which leaves the question of what is motivating it?

As someone who works in a software shop that sells directly to this sector, I have a guess (and it’s just a guess but a quasi-informed one):

Office/Building leases.


What about them?


Many companies, like mine, are somewhere in the middle of a 10 year lease with very steep early exit penalties. People think that having everyone working from home saves the company money, but when it comes to the office, chances are it’s already a sunk cost. In my company’s case, we’re paying for quite a bit of space, but currently allowing people to choose whether to come in or not. Most of the time only a handful of people do, but the office is still there whether 10, 100 or 1,000 people are using it. Plus, there’s a lot of capitalized equipment set up there, already paid for and waiting for people to use it. Moving out would be expensive (because of the lease break fees), and a hassle. So instead, the people in charge of a lot of companies probably rationalize that they might as well get some benefit out of those sunk costs by forcing people to use them again.


I think it originates from the feeling that cross-team innovations are somehow more difficult to pull off. Is this really measurable? No. Would it put a company at risk if there is a chance that such kind of innovation were reduced by 25%? Possibly.

Combine this with the fear of many managers that they will not be able to change policy once they allowed everyone to work fully from home and you get the prevalent policies


The pandemic is never going to "end" so why oscillate between exclusively on-site and exclusively WFH?

and why, as an manager, take on that kind of liability unless you absolutely need people to be on-site?

Reminds me of an anecdote where a guy was working at a UPS near 9/11 ground zero and the manager tried to stop them from leaving work.

Is it just the Will to Power? or am I missing some convincing opinion pieces in The Economist or FT? I'm so genuinely curious about why a manager would be compelled to insist on on-site.

Cynically, I know it's easier to switch jobs if both are WFH... Would hate to think that Big Tech companies conspire to jointly enforce on-site (as an addendum to that infamous no-poaching agreement).


A lot of companies have a huge investment in commercial real estate and likely don't want to see those values drop. But I'm with you--this makes no sense to keep oscillating between "yay! cases are dropping, the pandemic is over!" and "uh oh, everyone WFH for now".

IMHO companies where possible should scale back to the bare minimum on site and build a strong remote-first culture. Sell offices and move to smaller locations if it makes sense to reduce that footprint. This doesn't mean no one can work on site, or that no one can work remote.


Indian IT companies famously use all sorts of arrangements to claim large chunks of premium land in big cities. A large portion of their profits are banked in land and commercial real estate yielding them tax benefits and holidays for "infrastructure investments."


It might be as simple as they don’t know if you are working or not when your butt isn’t in your seat. Or, to put it another way, lack of trust.


If they can't tell if you are working or not without physically watching you come into an office and sit at the desk for 40 hours every week, then WTF is your actual job? It certainly can't be something consequential that the business actually needs to have done. If it were, they would quickly notice if you aren't doing it.

(Edit: As a concrete example, I once worked on an all distributed team where it was abundantly obvious to the whole team that a new hire was goofing off. If they were simply having issues meeting productivity expectations, that would have been one thing, the kind of thing we could hopefully resolve with closer mentoring. But they were also really difficult to get a hold of during the day, and frequently made lame excuses - or obvious lies - for why they couldn't be available for meetings on short notice. Things like that.)


I think there are plenty of jobs that would be overlooked or mistrusted (by bad managers) if people can't see you physically sitting there 40 hours every week and some might even be questioned then.

When I was doing IT Support for employees of this one company I certainly got questioned why they pay me and what I do all day when everything worked. They would certainly notice very quickly when I wasn't doing it and they did notice quickly that things where not working anymore when I left and wasn't keeping these things running anymore. This was when I was going into the office every day and I think this would be even worse if I was doing this from Home.

No one had a clue about what I do all day. The same way that I have no clue who does payroll at my current employer or what they do all day, but I would very quickly notice if they decided to slack off.

The problem is that there wasn't really any way to track my performance or any way for me to show that I did actually work. The systems for that just where not there. So the only way my manager evaluated me was by me clocking in and clocking out every day at the front desk.


So you guys don’t even have basic issue and task trackers? Even Office 365 plans have Planner, a basic shared to do list. This is strange. Even without project tracking software, all you’d need is a weekly standup meeting for status.


No, we didn't have any of that. There was a reason why I left this place. IT was not seen as anything that deserves more respect than the dirt on their shoes.

Even if I had introduced a standup meeting or status meeting, I don't think I could have gotten my manager to participate in that. What exactly would that have done? If you work under a shit manager none of what you suggest would have helped.


If they can't tell if you are working or not without physically watching you come into an office and sit at the desk for 40 hours every week, then WTF is your actual job?

More like wtf is their actual job


There are companies in India that took your mobile phone before entering office. This was before pandemic. They had no trust in their employees. Because of pandemic they had no option but to trust their employees or else they were all gonna go in the ground. Their hand was forced by pandemic to trust their employees and it worked really well.

We would have forever worked in those awful open office plans if this mass scale experiment had not happen. Now the cat is out of the bag and everyone knows wfh works.


We've had two years now--that's plenty of time for management and HR to figure out how to measure and validate remote work is getting done. If a tech company still needs a manager to see a physical person in a seat then the company has far, far bigger problems.


>Cynically, I know it's easier to switch jobs if both are WFH...

Somehow I had not considered this, but it seems like the dominant factor.


Personal anecdote: When I moved from an office job to a WFH job, there was this absurd period when I had to do a series of interviews with the remote company. It was like 8 different interviews on 8 different days, and they were all video calls. So, I had to figure out 8 different excuses to be gone for two hours to commute home, do an interview, and come back to work, all within a couple weeks: dentist appointment, doctor's appointment, optometry appointment, picking a friend up from the airport, followup appointments, etc.

I'm pretty sure that's a huge tipoff to HR.


We used to call them "going to the eye doctor" to our colleagues. "Yeah, I have a follow-up eye exam tomorrow." "They gave me a much stronger prescription (salary). You should go get your eyes checked!”

Side note: If anyone is working for me and is/wants to be interviewing, I welcome them to talk about it and/or to just to book a conference room and take the interview from there. Taking 2 hours and hassle is worse than taking 1 hour and feeling like we’re all adults.


lol. Has any employee actually taken you up on that? I would never do this in a million years personally.


I've been on both sides of it several times. I've counseled several employees on what I thought of their external prospects (generally and for specific job listings) and sometimes that ends up with, "Yeah, I think you oughta go for that one." Other times, it ends up with "Here's what I see for you here; here's what I see there; you have to decide."

On the other end, I've told four different bosses that I was either considering looking or actively looking, and why. Sometimes that ends up in me changing jobs; sometimes it doesn't because we can address what isn't working for me or reach a middle ground that works.

I think people assume far too much ill intent on the part of managers. To me, I want you working for me because you want to be doing the work we're doing and are happy with the pay we're paying. If you're not happy, you're not going to do your best work, you're not going to grow as much as you are capable of, and selfishly, the company is not going to get the best output from you. I don't need everyone to be ecstatic and grinding away with perfect devotion, but I generally want people to be happy (for them, for me, and for the company).

From that, you'll correctly guess that I've 100% had employees reserve conference rooms to take interviews. It's no problem in my book. (Other employees: the first I knew they were looking was when they handed me a resignation letter. That's also perfectly OK; your business is your business.)


I don’t suspect I’ll intent. But once you’re not playing to the illusion of any sort of long term, other people won’t invest in you as much (peers and managers). Some jobs tolerate this day to day transactional nature well, others not so much.


> I think people assume far too much ill intent on the part of managers.

Not ill intent, just basic human fallibility. I would be worried that my manager takes it personally, and has difficulty trusting me going forward. So I would be hesitant to do something that I fully expect to be severely career-limiting should I decide not to pursue this other opportunity.

It's not entirely dissimilar from how most people aren't comfortable being in an open relationship. Wanting one's partner to be monogamous generally isn't about carrying ill intent toward them. It's more likely to be about everyday human insecurity.


You’re probably a 10% manager.

This is not the norm. A petty person might hear of an employee interviewing and do any number of things. It would be what an old boss called a “career limiting move.”

I’m glad managers like you exist.


I would. If I'm interviewing I'm anyway going to leave soon, even a vindicative manager couldn't do much. - and chances are people don't care that much about their employer.

Same for my directs, I even helped them to find new gigs.

I care more about the relationship with a fellow IC than keeping them in a company where they're not happy.

Who knows, they may refer me for my next gig.

I'm not getting a bonus if I retain people (or punished if they leave), anyway.


>Side note: If anyone is working for me and is/wants to be interviewing, I welcome them to talk about it and/or to just to book a conference room and take the interview from there. Taking 2 hours and hassle is worse than taking 1 hour and feeling like we’re all adults.

I've put for similar options, I even offer to be their reference. True, we should be all adults, anything else is stressful for all involved.


As a hiring manager for a remote team myself, whatever company scheduled your interviews that way was very unfair to you to make you take that risk 8 times.

We do have a similar numbers of total conversations in our hiring process, but they're grouped into a smaller number of chunks/days; only some of those are an hour with 2-4 of them between 15 and 45 minutes; and we span many time zones and biorhythms on several continents so we can accommodate candidates who prefer to interview when they're at home.

That said, over my pre-pandemic career I think I've undergone interviews from small conference rooms or "phone booths" at workplaces before, with any bookings labeled as something like "personal call", or at cafes or quiet outdoor spaces near workplaces; most of my office jobs have allowed a certain amount of WFH too even if not a majority of my time.


That bs seemed more common in the early days of remote.

Now I (and most I’ve talked to in my network) ask the recruiter up front about the interview process.

This BS is a non starter.

I had to do a presentation to a huge group on why I’d be a good fit followed by 3 hours of group interviews. This was after a tech screen and a fairly intense live coding tech interview.

I’d never do that again unless it’s for my “dream” job. I got that job but it was nothing special.

I then had to sit in on these as senior eng I had to be part of the hiring committee. Such a time sink for all involved.


Depending on your workload, you might even be able to try a couple on for size before you quit. If you quit.


The pandemic is never going to end? Bold assumption, COVID may always exist but it will become endemic as have many other pandemics such as the Spanish Flu.

Despite many people's wishes, yes the world will eventually go back to normal. To suggest otherwise is very myopic. If you take the pandemic having an end for granted, then yes some companies that wish to return on site will do so before others


On the managerial front (and PMs, to a lesser extent), I think the perma-demic calls for a different kind of work. Most devs love to be heads-down alone and cranking. Managers, not so much.

- Communications are different. I think we're all trying to figure out the "right" protocols[1] for video meetings, as an example. That kind of thing hits managers especially hard. Managers (and PMs) are there not to wrangle code, but to wrangle meetings so the devs can be more productive!

- Control changed. Micromanagement in any form (except via malware stalking) just got a lot harder. Even the softer "managing by walking around" doesn't work now. Delegation is more important than ever. And most managers were promoted into position because they did things well, not because they loosely lead things into happening. So it takes some manager (re-?)training.

- Leading vs Managing is a more important divide than before. When people are left to themselves more, they'll find ways to solve their own problems. Partly because people have to solve more of their own problems and partly because managers haven't caught up to how to manage in a perma-demic, that means workers are more likely to self-organize.[2]

- With the lack of human physical contact, we have to focus more on how to measure productivity than on the way it was perceived in the past. This is likely to shock many people, managers or not, who focused more on social aspects. Lots of "soft" measures like "happiness" or "asshole-free-ness" change when the social conditions change. We still don't want to work with assholes, but what that means is shifting.

- Other

- Profit?

Manager Hint: delegate until it hurts. Hurts you and the person you delegated to. Set up checkpoints. And be available to help. Especially with firefighting and scutwork. That helps your team grow and act independently. Even if we ever get back to the office, that habit will pay off.

[1] Pro- or anti-occupy, politically, they addressed comms problems with large open-air meetings meant to include everyone. We need to think along those lines. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Occupy_movement_hand_signals

[2] Yes, "organize" was an intentional pun. Unionization in lots of fields, lots of shops is on the rise. And a shocking number of strikes goes unreported in the mainstream media (I can't find my original source, so Bloomberg will do). https://www.bloomberg.com/news/newsletters/2021-10-20/the-re...


many managers don't know how to do remote. and even experienced people get blindsided by it sometimes.

but change and learning are inherent to this field of work, so there must be something else.

for large companies, it's real estate. nobody wants to sell a huge corporate campus at a loss.


The number of deaths is so low it's hard to call it a pandemic.

But by all means, if we can convince companies to go remote with this bs, go ahead.

At the same time, I'm tired of restrictions to my personal freedoms to save literally 5 people (living in nazi Europe, restrictions are bad here, unlike USA / UK / northern europe)


>why, as an manager, take on that kind of liability

lolwhut? No one is liable if you die from covid at work.


The pandemic will (by definition) end when SARS-CoV2 becomes endemic, which seems like the overwhelmingly most likely trajectory that we're on.

We're not quite there yet, but I'm encouraged rather than discouraged by the totality of what I see and think we’re way past the halfway point in the time dimension of the pandemic phase of the virus, that we’re headed for a future where SARS-CoV2 is about as disruptive to society as H1N1 influenza, and that, except for a lot more tech WFH, that February 2023 will look a lot more like February 2020 than Feb 2021 or Feb 2022.


The reduction in co2 emissions, not contributing to public transport overcrowding, saving on food, and the mental health benefits are just some of my reasons for avoiding on site work. Not to mention the savings. I am not against people working on site but i am against companies not allowing remote work. If a company’s culture cant cope with remote workers then that company is not internet ready. Probably shouldnt serve remote customers either and instead should switch to in person.


I was very involved with public transit activism for two decades. One of the most disappointing things about the switch to remote work during the pandemic is how many of my friends I met through transit activism have turned against WFH. We used to push for "commute alternatives" of which both transit and work from home were just two of a range of alternatives. But it turns out much of that was simple lip service to transit alternatives that were easy to support because they weren't widely adopted. Once WFH suddenly gained a large chunk of market share, they got very hostile to it. Transit became the one and only acceptable choice. Turned out that many weren't motivated by wanting to have less dependence on private automobiles that clog up and pollute cities but rather they have a vision of everyone living in dense high rise buildings clustered together in city centers. Even though WFH helps unclog city streets and cleans the air, it is now considered bad because it goes against the ultimate goal of dense cities with plentiful transit to get around within the city. If people can live in low population density areas while eliminating 90% of the miles driven per year, that's considered a bad thing because it doesn't support the urban vision they have that can only work if alternatives aren't allowed to exist. Quite disappointing.


Actually,

While never a transit activist, I would be in favor of dense, walkable cities regardless of work-from-home. I think these are more healthy in a multitude of ways.

If people can live in low population density areas while eliminating 90% of the miles driven per year, that's considered a bad thing because it doesn't support the urban vision they have that can only work if alternatives aren't allowed to exist.

Can you really eliminate 90% of miles driven by doing work-from-home in an entirely car oriented place? I live in small city surrounded by rural areas. Plenty of people have to drive five mile or more to get to anything. If someone did out once every ten days, it would unhealthy in other ways even if it conserved fuel, imo.


The stress of living in high density areas is itself harmful to some people.

I drive less now that I work from home in the country than when I commuted in the city, though the rise of two day shipping (Amazon, best buy, Walmart, etc) contributes a lot to that as well.

On top of that, I have access to forests, rivers and a prairie preserve without having to drive, and it is fantastic. I'm not saying all 7 billion people need to live the way I do, but I'm glad the option exists and WFH helps make it possible.


It depends on the person. I live in a dense city and have been looking for a house. Unfortunately I can only afford highly residential areas further away (boring areas yet still in the city limits) and the thought of this really stresses me out.

I just love the buzz and activity all around me. People having fun, drinking, playing music. As I live alone I know I would be extremely isolated in the countryside. I've lived in more remote areas in other countries which is precisely why I moved here :)

But people differ a lot and there's not one size that fits all. Some of my friends live in the areas I call "boring" and they actually hate coming out here. Where I live is pretty much the hospitality / nightlife center and although I'm too old for all night binges I just love the feel of this in the area. When people are having fun that kind of radiates.


I totally get it. Two of my closest friends wouldn't trade city living for anywhere else, and a third has been gradually moving further and further out, realizing that he likes it more and more each time he moves. To each their own!


On top of that, I have access to forests, rivers and a prairie preserve without having to drive, and it is fantastic.

Well, I happen to know most people in rural areas in the US don't have anything like this. Nearly all land in the US is cris-crossed with fences and "out in the country" on average presents one with no place to hike pleasantly anywhere in walking distance to one's private property.

The last time I lived in the country, I could walk along a busy highway to a small graveyard and that was it. Living in-town, Nevada City, I have far more walking options and can see forest, rivers and mountains because having lots of paths helps this place maintain it's tourist town status. Of course, when I lived in Berkeley, CA, I also had lots of walking options, including through forests and hills and that was full "urban" experience.

American rural life is often unhappy for this and other reasons. A lot of people living in rural areas are poor and angry with little interest in despoiled, formerly natural areas they grew up in since they generally descend from workers in extractive industries that have moved on (mining and logging).

So, I remain an advocate of dense, urban living.


> A lot of people living in rural areas are poor and angry

This is a fair description of a lot of dense urban living as well. There are a lot of boring rural places- pretty much anywhere that is heavily dominated by farmlands. That doesn't mean that there aren't tons of beautiful, rural places as well. Go to any major city, and you'll find the same- bad neighborhoods and good. The (obvious) difference is that they're a lot closer together.


I think your case is a bit different because you don't actually want to live in the city. Obviously both city and country living have their advantages and disadvantages, and it would likely benefit most developed countries greatly if more people were willing to live outside the major cities.

The issue is mainly people wanting to live in a large city, but also wanting to live in a single family home (and most of them, although maybe not on HN, seem to favor residential zoning instead of mixed) which results in really shitty cities that are environmental disasters with endless sprawl, long commutes in city traffic, having to drive even for basic things like going to a grocery store, etc. And you don't have a "prairie preserve without having to drive" in that case, in fact you more likely than not have a longer drive to get out of the city than a person living in a denser city. Check out Perth, it's probably the best example in the world of this being taken to the extreme, with almost the entire city being just endless rows of houses.


Maybe watch Not Just Bikes or other channels similar to it in YouTube. High density living doesn’t necessarily mean it has to be miserable or lacking greenery. It can be quiet. It can have greenery. It can have access to things even better than most major cities in the USA.

And while you said you have access to some trees and stuff without driving - you apparently do have to derive to get any groceries and that’s the point. Same for other services that people rely on. And someone has to drive to your place to deliver your shit. So the miles are being used by someone.

Btw - I use two day shipping all the time too and I live in SFBA. You know why? Less time consuming than going to the store and dealing with the checkout process and finding out the item isn’t actually there even though they said it’s there in their inventory management system. (Or it’s there but it’ll take someone half an hour to find it)


I drive for groceries and such, but plan ahead to minimize trips. Less gas money and less time wasted on the road. Some places are better than others, but Amazon in particular likes to send packages to me via post office, so there's not really any extra fuel spent getting the packages to me versus some other delivery method.

As for high density living, there's simply no substituting actually not being around other people. Noise, trash, wildlife- it's a fundamentally different experience to be able to go out in the wilderness compared to the domesticated parks that constitute green spaces in large cities.

On top of that, I don't share walls with other people- no obnoxious noises or smells, listening to neighbors fight or their dogs bark incessantly. If I had stairwells, they wouldn't constantly smell of piss and ramen like that one apartment I lived in.

I've upgraded or otherwise modified the cabin I live in to be as off grid as possible- internet and electric hook ups are required, but if push came to shove and our electricity got cut I could survive indefinitely out here, even in the heart of winter. Heck, last year the power cut for 6 hours due to a brutal storm with -40 wind chills and I only noticed because we also lost our internet connection.


> via post office, so there's not really any extra fuel spent getting the packages to me versus some other delivery method.

Didn't say a post office was within walking distance so I presume you drive for that? That's extra fuel.

Again - you really should look at the Not Just Bikes channel. You're really not paying attention to what I'm saying.


We have a mailbox. Post office sends out drivers regardless of whether or not I have a package coming, unlike (say) UPS or FedEx who make specialized trips. That was more or less my point.

That said, the post office is within biking distance during summer months if I need to send something. There's no biking or hiking anything over a mile here during the winter. Even that would be extremely unpleasant in January.

In the nearest dense city to where I live, you'll occasionally see someone biking to work during winter, but even then only on the best of days. Mail, packages, and commercial shipments all still get around by truck (the total distance driven is shorter, but more trips have to be made to accommodate the extra people).


Having moved from a city to a suburb during the pandemic, the reduction in noise alone has been worth it, but the vastly increased space is excellent too. I wouldn't mind living in the city if I could afford a properly soundproofed condo with enough space to not go stir-crazy, but to do that if I'm being financially responsible I would need a salary at least 1.5x-2x higher than the already generous amount I earn which is rather insane.


Not only that but the urban vision could come blasting back. If people spend more time at home, they spend more time in their neighborhoods, so they start to care about neighborhood amenities, and suburban just can't compete with urban in the neighborhood amenities (let's wave away cars/driving, noting that in America most cities are actually fairly friendly for driving, as well as have low-density residential districts that are still much more sustainable than the suburbs). Maybe?


I think more time spent at home (both you and your neighbors) will drive demand for more interior space, sound isolation between neighbors, and private outside space, than it will drive desire for neighborhood amenities. (It will increase all of those things, but things higher on that list more.)

I live in a low-ish density section of a city. If I still lived in my old mid-density apartment, I’d have broken my lease early in the pandemic to get out to get more space and not have people walking above me all day.


It depends. We get everything including groceries delivered now so if more people use the same services, which they are, there probably will be savings in terms of traffic and fuel.

People who are really against an idea tend to not think of solutions to downsides.


Not everyone's mental health has benefitted. I have been depressed for the past 2 years and started cutting myself and doing other selfharm. The only face to face social interactions I have are with baristas now.


You didn't ask for advice, but I'm going to give you some. See a counselor (aka a therapist). Depression is treatable, but you need to get help. The world needs a "you" that is in the right headspace.


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> your subculture’s priest/shaman

My subculture's priests are priests. When my wife very suddenly passed away, I spent a lot of time with a therapist. They're not the same thing.

Have you ever seen a therapist?


> Have you ever seen a therapist?

Yes, twice or three times depending on how you would count occupational therapists/group therapy. For many hours. Enough that learning that professional training is much less important than the therapeutic relationship was not a surprise.

In plain language it is vastly more important that you vibe with the person you spend hours talking with about your problems than that they have training.

My condolences on your loss.


> In plain language it is vastly more important that you vibe with the person you spend hours talking with about your problems than that they have training.

100% agree, and thank you


Telling someone who's already at the stage of self harm to just get out and meet some people is not helpful at all. You can't just "get over" a depression, it's an actual sickness.

Now, I see where you're coming from; if you feel that you're a bit less happy without meeting people, suggesting to go out is perfectly reasonable. But from what the OP described, they definitely need professional help (and money is also a really bad reason to ignore severe health problems).


It was not suggested that he get drugs, i.e. go to a psychiatrist. That’s very likely to be immediately helpful. Therapists are crap shoots. Going out and meeting people is something this person could go out and do right now, that they have identified as the root of their problem. The analogy is by no means perfect but we’re talking “Oh, you have scurvy, why don’t you eat five oranges.” levels of direct cause and effect relationship here.

There are interventions that reliably have large positive effects on depression for many people. Exercise, sleep deprivation, ketamine. Therapy is great if you find a therapist who vibes with you but it’s the vibes that do it, not the therapy. That’s what the therapeutic relationship is about.

If you’re depressed and can manage to try something that might work immediately you should. Therapy is not that.

> Client perception: that the client perceives, to at least a minimal degree, the therapist's unconditional positive regard and empathic understanding.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Therapeutic_relationship#:~:....


Forcing everyone to be in the office because you are having a hard time having a social experience is definitely a personal problem.

I would recommend social clubs.

Or, opt for a company that’s on-site. I’ve always been pro-choice in this regard. The problem is that companies have to be all or nothing, you can’t 50/50 remote work between people.

Some kind of hybrid is also good. Come in for a few hours or a couple days a week. All the benefits of both approaches.


That is why i am not against people wanting onsite. Life is full of nuance. I dont know what kind of advice to give you, but what i found when i was lonely was that changing the setting helped. I lived in london for more than a decade. Despite it being a crowded city i found it quite lonely. I despised that loneliness and my only friends were coworkers. Up until i got “sent” north of england. Suddenly i had a social life, met folks from outside my work and frankly since that point onwards i decided to ditch london for good. One just has to find the inner strength to let people in. Be it through hobbies or randoms there is always a place for everyone. Maybe even changing countries and cultures for more open people can help.


Friend, know that you're not alone in spirit. The past two years have been tough, and many of us have struggled. I hope you find some peace.


Parks, gyms, sports, recreation centers, libraries, theaters, concert venues, etc. are all totally open and have been open for full in person activities for much of that last 12 months in every state of the US.

Go out and live life, there are near zero restrictions on you seeing other people in person. Almost nowhere requires masks right now either.


I don’t self-harm, but I agree WFH has been damaging for some of us.

Honestly, going to an office everyday just helps me keep a schedule better and makes me more disciplined. It’s very hard for me to be productive when I can get into the habit of just wearing sweatpants all day and barely showering.


If your only option is WFH, would you consider working from a coworking space? I've worked from one the entire pandemic and it has been life changing, only a 5min walk from my house, met great people, get to socialise outside work, etc


Sorry to hear that. I would recommend you build social relationships outside the office even in the best of times, layoffs happen, people leave, companies fold, etc and it's not healthy to depend on work like that.


That's horrible. I hope you find a support system that helps you out of this dark place.

Do you draw a line directly specific from work-from-home to your current state? In the past couple of years we've globally had economic strife, millions of deaths and political unrest at enormous scale in addition to the switch to Zoom calls. Would -all things being equal- your desire to self harm be eliminated if you and your fellow employees were back to exchanging pleasantries at the office?


Same. As time progresses it's just going from bad to worse. I need to be around people. I'm not functional in a fully remote environment :(


a therapist, or a group for group therapy, can help.


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Shocking. Why even reply. There is no need for this on HN.


that is not helpful and you should delete it.


and your point? he literally said doesn't care if other people want to be on site.


It costs me $5400 per year more to work in the office than working from home and that is excluding the 35-40 hours a month in commute time.


So if the company let’s you work from home, how much of that savings should they capture or do you think you should get it all?


When they force me to work from home because they are closing the office to save money, how much of that savings should I capture, or do you think they should get it all?


Nothing because they benefit in their own cost savings ways not to mention savings vary between employees.


Yeah, let's think about this! Hypothetical time: a new bike path opens up and it goes right past my work and home. I get rid of my car, and save $shitloads on insurance and gas. I now no longer need to spend as much money to get to work! How much of that savings should be captured by my employer, or should I get it all? See the problem?

The company isn't saving $5400 of transit-related costs, an employee is. Putting the savings in terms of cuttable salary is kinda ridiculous. Surprisingly, most people work at their jobs in exchange for remuneration, not the satisfaction of reducing costs for their employer; you must be management.


They are saving money too; with an increasingly remote workforce they need less space.


>>saving on food

I did not experience this. Even though I did eat out less, I seem to be eating more over all, and with the massive inflation in food costs I seem to be spending more than ever on food.

In the office it took effort to get something to eat, i had to drive someone, or prep a meal to bring with me, etc...

At home I just have to walk to the kitchen and eat....


Yeah, now people just drive around doing leisure activities and buying a lot of sporting equipment.

I don't think WFH solves the worlds problems.

Before WFH I lived in a city and rode my bike everywhere. Went to a shared gym, because I lived in a city, owning a car was difficult etc.

Now I moved away, live in a house, fill it with stuff I probably didn't need and drive around. I will say I do all I can to not drive, I still have my bikes, but I'm still driving 100% more to when I didn't even own a car.


The passing play is now in favor of WFH. In other words if you think the choices are fully onsite, fully remote, or mixed - mixed is not a terminal state. It's an interim state which drifts toward fully remote.

Say you have a mixed workforce where they have to be in 3 days a week. They are going to commute to work, sit at a desk, and spend all day on zoom anyway to accommodate the 40% of workers having a WFH day.

Also consider the companies that allowed a subset of workers to go permanent remote. If you work directly with even one of those ppl, all your meetings are now zoom meetings.

In both cases the person in the office is penalized. They have a WFH experience but they have to needlessly commute to get it. Is the salary boost worth the commute costs and time lost?

There's a thousand other ways for us to solve quote unquote mental health issues related to WFH. The lockdowns are over. You can join a club. You've got 2 extra hours in your day from no commute to tend a community garden, join a rec league, go to the local pub. You don't need coworkers or employers for these things.


What about people for whom WFH means less, or no, productivity? Lots of my colleagues are willing to brave the commute in order to be in an environment that is focused on the business at hand.


This is the group I think will hold out the longest, the people who need a reliable, socially accepted way to escape their home environment. When they say 'focus on the business at hand' they really mean 'not distracted by my home'.

I don't think businesses will continue to provide for these employees after the commercial real estate correction. In time, having an office flips into a multi-faceted liability.

But until that happens, the leases were already signed so let the good times roll. These employees and employers form a complementary artificial need for an office.


> not distracted by my home

Why is that not a good reason? Our surrounding very much impacts many of our thinking, productivity. And some people do benefit from a focused environment, you can't really dismiss that as "artificial need".


My thinking is that employers can pass this burden off to the employee, so they will. (Once they are done worrying about being underwater on real estate.)

If you can't work well from home, but your company is remote, you will be an underperformer. It would be your responsibility to rent a co-working space (cheaper than most monthly commute costs) or create a home office.

The artificial need isn't the mental space to concentrate; it's that your employer has to provide that for you.


To concentrate you don't only need mental space, you need a very physical one too, and it's much more expensive than what you make it to be. Of course they'll externalize this cost when they can, but I don't see it as a good thing.


Depends on where you live perhaps. The train to the major city by me is $14 one way, which costs more monthly than a coworking desk in my local town.

If you live in East Bay and ride BART however, the math would not work out.


Well then cater to those people without negatively affecting others who can concentrate at home. The options are many like satellite offices or shared workspaces.


Sounds like they are in the wrong field and should seek out a job in a factory or maybe driving a cab.


Does this group get replaced?


coworking spaces?


Isn't it funny how just a few years ago the eternal HN discussion regarding remote working always took place in the same way: about half of commenters for, and half against.

The typical arguments of social interaction, in person brainstorming and so on, vs free time, no commute, can work from anywhere, "zoom is just as good" always went round in circles.

Now I see those in the mainstream and HN seems to have cross over almost completely to the WFH side.

I wonder how "converted" HN-ers got where they are. If you're here and changed your mind regarding remote work since the pandemic started, I'd like to hear why; what, other than the obvious pathogen, has caused your change of heart?


There are patterns and practices that make working remotely possible: document with context, clear pull requests, share your intent more deliberately, written stand-ups, give meetings detailed agendas, etc. Those are good habits when you share an office, but they can easily be complemented by sharing the same workspace and whiteboards.

Many teams had to discover those practices during the pandemic; companies that didn’t adopt them effectively likely lost a lot of people to frustration or apparent underperformance. After two years, many people have had the time to find places where those practices are understood and practiced, or at least have met people who know they can be.

The half that thought those were impossible or unlikely discovered it was possible, even enjoyable way of working.

There are still people, many of them my friends, who know and practice those deliberate communication patterns and who still prefer an office—–in particular for small start-ups. In some cases, those make more sense. But they are now a minority.

Other companies haven’t transitioned because they never really tried; many blamed the circumstances for the increasing disfunction of their teams, rather than learn and adapt. With some team members remaining remote, or contagious, unavailable, companies that have not adopted at least some learnings from the forced isolation can now seem very frustrating places to work. Fewer people are going to defend what they increasingly see as a suboptimal system.

I don’t think that the breakdown is as strict as you say. I think that many people have had the opportunity to see the benefits not of remote, but of a way of working that doesn’t rely on the crutch of an office. Some do it well, but a few still prefer the ease of interactions——a minority that typically don’t have time to comment here. Many haven’t learnt but won‘t comment either, because they don’t know what good should look like anymore.


> Many teams had to discover those practices during the pandemic; companies that didn’t adopt them effectively likely lost a lot of people to frustration or apparent underperformance. After two years, many people have had the time to find places where those practices are understood and practiced, or at least have met people who know they can be.

I feel like the real story is something like this: a lot of people on HN are folks who have a highly introverted nature and work in jobs that demand extensive quiet time. Also, most are pontificating on the internet, but still haven't returned to the office. They have almost completely forgotten the velocity achievable when a team works together.

Can you overcome the limitations of remote work with better, more intentional documentation? Yes, to an extent. But my experience is that once you go back to working as a group, you'll re-discover that in-person communication has orders of magnitude more bandwidth. And if you have those best practices in place and work in an office together, you're even more efficient.

I don't hate remote work -- I do it myself, sometimes -- but nothing works as well as in-person communication. I forsee a future where most companies embrace a hybrid schedule, but demand in-person attendance on a regular basis.


One man’s “collaboration” is another man’s constant interruption and having to deal with a loud open office.


Is there a need for a greater communication bandwidth? In person you get many additional signals but often your goal is to reduce these signals. Going into the office can be fun but you can have highly productive and close relationships remotely.


Yes. Communication is the O(n^2) problem in group work. Everything else you do is limited by the efficiency of your communication.


> They have almost completely forgotten the velocity achievable when a team works together.

Your comment simply assumes that superior "velocity" to exist. Many of us have not seen it. For myself, and many of my fellow engineers in other companies, I found that I'm much more productive in remote settings. Our team's productivity objectively increased after we went remote. Conversations with colleagues shows this to be somewhat common in many other teams and companies.

Maybe your personal in-office experience has shown this fabled "velocity". For many of us it never existed, and instead we experienced constant low-value interruptions leading to inefficient loss of focus, lots of time spent "at work" but not actually working, instead socializing or wasting time in other ways that feel good.


When you have to coordinate between AU, US, CA, and UK time zones and do 100% async communication to resolve conflicts during a project, getting everyone into the same physical space for a few days to work through issues saves so much time in the long run.

I don’t really care where I work, but I’ve come to strongly value travel / face time with my coworkers given that my team is fully distributed and Google Meet is just not the same as meeting someone face to face. For example, I ended up having a 5 hour rambling conversation about the history of our company with another coworker which suddenly shed a lot of light on why I wasn’t able to make progress pushing for certain org-wide changes. This would’ve never come up in a WFH context, since it’s “inefficient socializing,” but in the long run it’s going to help my communication skills a lot.

And the last thing: whenever I’m in the office, I get lots of interruptions, mostly from other ICs (I’m a tech lead). Although my personal progress slows down, I’ve noticed that my coworkers all move faster because they tend to be more likely to ask questions in person than scheduling meetings to pair. In person we tend to dive a bit deeper into the “why are we making this change” which helps people grow more than a direct answer to the “what”. To be honest, Slack and email are far worse distractions for me than the office ever is.


Theres truth here but it only really applies to people who have trouble doing effective group work over the Internet.

Other people seem to be wired differently.


Maybe some people are better at it than others, but my core point is that most people are worse at it than they think they are. And for those who have the most limited work experience...well, they don't really have much of a comparison, do they? I'm not terribly surprised that they might claim they're uniquely qualified to do it...

In other words, remote work is a lot like multi-tasking. People swear that they're uniquely good at that, too, and insist that it's only the old farts who can't get with the new trends.


That setup sounds realistic, and I think the general idea is for the company (and other employees) to give employees what they want and recognize how they want to work. If someone prefers working at the office, it would be terrible to force them to WFH. However, it would also be unreasonable to force other people who enjoy working remotely to come to the office with them.

Regarding productivity, if someone does their best work at the office communicating with other people but prefers working at home, wouldn't they fall behind their colleagues when they opt for a WFH setup? And if they're still happy in that case, who are we to say they have to change the way they work? So let people realize that the decide for themselves instead of doing the reasoning and making decisions for them that they may not agree with.

Regarding social interaction, getting surrounded by other people at times is nice, since we're inherently social animals, but why would we utilize work to fill in that need? Getting isolated for an extended period of time would drive me insane, but getting surrounded by other people, who I may not be comfortable with, would also do the same to my mental health.

As for my case, I have found that people can disregard the practices we have developed in the WFH era since they can "communicate faster" now and that has been giving me lots of headaches lately. So when people say they are more efficient at the office, I automatically associate that with the tendency to ignore clear, coherent documents because people think they are "cumbersome".


> I think the general idea is for the company (and other employees) to give employees what they want and recognize how they want to work. If someone prefers working at the office, it would be terrible to force them to WFH.

> Regarding productivity, if someone does their best work at the office communicating with other people but prefers working at home, wouldn't they fall behind their colleagues when they opt for a WFH setup?

Generally agreed, but caveats apply here: a lot of folks may prefer to work from home, but don't necessarily prefer the approach that leads to their greatest productivity. Also, most people don't properly account for intangibles, such as the creativity benefits of an environment where people spontaneously interact on a daily basis (it's famously the entire reason the Pixar studio building is designed as it is), or the mentorship of new people. Costs like this may be OK for a year, or three, but will eventually come back to bite you.

Finally, many people have reliably mis-aligned notions of what "productivity" is. For example, when a junior engineer disappears down a dark hole of code, it's usually a bad sign, even though they almost always think they're being very productive (I say this from deep personal experience, having fallen into this same trap many times over). The danger of this one is that even if you're evaluating by "outcome", nobody really knows if you're unproductive because you're drifting, or because you're distracted, or because of something else. And if you're far from the group, it's even harder to tell what might be wrong.

Remote work feels bad for junior employees, for exactly this reason. So many times in life you're stopped from going down a dark path not because of a meeting or a status update, but because you started chatting with the other people on your team over lunch, and found out that Bob had an idea the other day that would make your change ten times easier to implement, and Alice was refactoring some other bit of code that solves the bigger problem. And oh yeah: haven't you heard that the manager of the Chaos team is talking about eliminating that use-case anyway? Spending too much time there would be toxic for your career!

I haven't found a way to replicate this with zoom.


The point about junior employees is reasonable. In such cases, we may have to find ways to really mentor them, not just to evaluate their performance, so listening and understanding their struggles would be of utmost importance. During a 6-month period when we had to adopt a full WFH mode, I've had to conduct a dozen sessions like that, and had some promising results so far, so progress while small are made. In time, even though they may not be able to improve on all their shortcomings, they start to realize when they need to reach out to other experienced members of the team or when to raise their concerns. Anyway, the point of working remotely is not to eliminate communication but to filter out the necessary from the distracting ones. That being said, a team consisting of mostly freshers will surely fall apart in either a WFH or an office setup.


> Remote work feels bad for junior employees, for exactly this reason. So many times in life you're stopped from going down a dark path not because of a meeting or a status update, but because you started chatting with the other people on your team over lunch, and found out that Bob had an idea the other day that would make your change ten times easier to implement, and Alice was refactoring some other bit of code that solves the bigger problem.

This sounds like a lack of technical leadership. If the junior's boss is an engineer, and they do their job, then this won't happen. The story reminds me of my first job, which wasn't even remote, where my boss was a non-technical person and I was going down "dark paths" constantly because he couldn't recognize it as he lacked the expertise.


Stop using zoom to recreate the office.

Juniors aren't going down a darkhole. They are asking on expert forums and trying out different things. It's part of becoming senior. They don't need someone to rescue them.

People interact on a daily basis remotely. It's form is different but it matches the medium.


+1 good idea: written standups.


+2 better idea: no standups.


We did written standups for about 2 months, they just died, everyone stopped doing them.

I think discipline is important, but I can also see how they must not have been adding enough value for them to remain a thing.


I love the idea.. daily is often too much or not enough. Blogs are written whenever something needs to be said.


I prefer M-Th standups, hardstop at 15 minutes, with a weekly owner that rotates.

That way I can get quick heads up and plan to ask others for assistance, as needed. Get all the shouldertaps done quickly.


We've recently switched to written standups with threads organized by sprint goals. It's worked out fantastically so far.


Slack threads? I'd be interested to hear more about how this works on your team.


Yes every morning someone posts a comment for each sprint goal, and people post updates in the comment threads.

It would be nice if we had bot to automate posting the original comments, but we haven’t got around to that yet.


This sounds like it might work nicely with zulip's topics feature (explained in the carousel on the homepage: https://zulip.com/)


I hate it. I get less work done, drop out of my schedule and start waking up five minutes before standup, don't recognise half my the people I work with, and just generally don't have a fun time.

My commute is a 10 minute train ride followed by a 30 minute walk. I never realised it was actually a net positive, but it forces me to do a minimum amount of exercise every day, which significantly improves my life now we're back in the office.


That 10 min train ride is pretty exceptional though. I had about 20 on the metro + 20 walkwhich was amazing.

In other jobs I've had 1 hour driving commutes which could go up to 3 hours due to heavy traffic in the area. It was absolutely exhausting and depressing.

So this depends a lot of your circumstances. Also, many people love to drive. I hate it and it stresses me out especially when I'm stuck in traffic.


It's either a 40 minute commute with a 2km walk at the end, or a 40 minute commute involving a changeover to a bus. I never realised I could just... ignore Google maps and walk.

Prior to this I've done 1hr+ public transport commutes, and I'm not willing to say they're a net positive, but they're better for me than no commute.


Oh yes I often ignore the whole metro and just walk. Especially since Covid.

It's actually better than it sounds for me because the metro makes a huge detour during those 20 minutes. Walking is a lot shorter than the metro route. It takes me about 1 hour. 7km or so (some uphill though :) )

Problem is where I live it gets quite hot in summer and it makes a 1-hour walk after work exhausting. In winter I do it more often.


Agreed. In my situation it's an hour long train ride that I use to do email catch up and general community engagement, so by the time I'm at the office, I'm ready to work.

Whereas at home I have a toddler and a newborn climbing on me.


If you were considering 2 equal job offers, one that was 5 minutes away, and one that was an hour away, you'd take the farther offer?

>Whereas at home I have a toddler and a newborn climbing on me.

You could always find a co-working space.


No, I'm not insane, all things being equal of course I would take the closer job :)

A co-working space was considered (and is still being considered), though we find our current strategy of 4 days wfh and one in-office day to be a good mix. Additional considerations involve the geographic make-up of our staff. This context, of course, wasn't in my original reply up above.

My main point in my previous reply was to provide a counterpoint to the argument that a commute is completely wasted time, in specific situations, it can be very useful, and not wasted at all.


Where I live in a busy city these are also ubiquitous. But many people live in small towns where people have never heard of those. Just saying :)


The small town where I grew up in has one now.

Also if you’re in a small town without a co-working space, there probably aren’t many software employers either. So you’re either working from home, commuting to an office, or commuting to a co-working space.


I understand kids can be a big distraction during the work day, but isn’t a good thing to have more time with them after work, without the hour lost to the commute? Isn’t it desirable to be nearby during their formative years?


No. On the train ride home I sleep, because without it I am a literal zombie and one could make the argument that I am a worse parent.

As is typical, another drive-by HN commenter will now say I should plan my day better, but without knowing my day, how can one judge?


I don’t know anything about you, nor am I saying anything about you. I am simply speculating that parents would seek to maximize time with their children, having seen my share of poor WLB that keep parents at the office and away from their children.


Yes, I know. I'm just being rather cynical at the moment.

Given I'm at 50% work capacity right now, I actually do spend many hours of most days of the week with my children.

I'm not saying there's a recommended maximum of time to spend (24 hours a day seems to be the ideal number recommended by mommy blogs), but after a certain point, I am out of energy to thoughtfully and meaningfully engage with my children.

It really puts into perspective the work childhood educators do on a daily basis, actually.


That’s fair. Perhaps there’s a tendency to lionize the preindustrial era, paleo parenting, that emphasizes maximum amount of time spent.


I work with a group that's widely distributed around the planet. Prior to March 2020, meetings would always be in conference rooms with buggy videoconferencing gear. Now we're all remote, nobody has to commute to a local office to videoconference, and until we switched to MSFT Teams the experience was at least as good as it had been pre-pandemic. The food is way better at home, too. I might see myself going into the office again to conduct an interview, but otherwise, I'm completely sold on permanent WFH.


I changed my mind about remote. Before pandemic I have been considering some fully remote roles, after pandemic - very unlikely. Working from home made me realize how much I miss talking to people at work in the meatspace. Going back to office in April and cannot wait.


Assess again in a about 6 months to a year. You may change your mind. I started back in the office in september last year and I’d really like some kind of hybrid home/office type of situation. If I were to choose one or the other Id go WFH.


Same. Hybrid is absolutely my ideal, the office can be nice in moderation, but if it had to be one or the other then my preference is WFH


Don’t discount the part of the equation that the WFH crowd is very vocal (as well as preachy). So much as suggesting you miss going to the office or seeing coworkers in person is met with an incredible amount of vitriol.

And I don’t mean suggesting being in the office is better. I mean expressing a personal opinion on the matter makes people defensive and hostile.


Correct. It’s basically the extrovert vs introvert thing as well as many other dynamics online.

You say you enjoy talking to others and would like to see people more often. Introverts will chime in and say, “but that’s not everyone! Not all of us enjoy idle chitchat! Oppressor!!” Yet - you never said you wanted to force anyone who wasn’t into that into that situation… And never implied it either.

It’s weird reactionary shit that adds nothing to the conversation. Expressing a personal opinion must be met with an equal or more severe personal opinion of the opposite. No circle jerking allowed anywhere!

I’m sure someone will chime in now that this isn’t actually how things work so that we can prevent any circle jerk.


I've found that the in-office crowd is the vocal, preachy group, always trying to convince people who are happier than ever that they are wrong. The in-office crowd are the ones trying to get everyone back to their way, rather than finding a new compromise.


> So much as suggesting you miss going to the office or seeing coworkers in person is met with an incredible amount of vitriol.

This might be because some of those of us who want WFH perceive this as, in practice, carrying the (unintentional) implicit threat of forcing us into physically mingling with the crowds again. After all, you can't see us in person without us seeing you in person, and on the way to that in-person meeting we're seeing a substantial part of the city's population in person.


is it? people who wish to remain at home are most likely more introverted than the opposite.


It's not clear to me there is a correlation. Introverted so doesn't have many friends. At work, people who are into the same thing (coding here on HN) are like minded people that an introvert can get some socialization from. Where as an extrovert has a million friends and zoom calls them one after another, filling their socialization quota.


I've spoken a bit on HN about this in the past. I would consider myself an introvert, but one that needs some sort of social interaction less I go crazy.

If you are interested, I wrote a lengthy bit more here: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=28831828&p=2#28836750


I can sort of speak to this. I was NOT looking forward to working from home two years ago. I had always worked in the office and was happy with the social interaction. I worried about communication.

And that was actually very reasonable. My only experience before was being on a team where one or two people were WFH out of 10-12. They dialed in to our meetings and it was a mess. They couldn’t hear us well, we couldn’t hear them at times, lots of interruptions. It always felt to me like “we” were having a meeting and they were occasionally butting in. It was really hard for them to be truly included, and they were cut out of in-office stuff. So I didn’t want to WFH and get left out, or have others do the same.

But that’s not the case anymore.

In the time since then EVERYONE was WFH. We quickly got used to it. And we got some team members in other locations. Now that some people are back in the office it’s more even. It’s not the one or two people who aren’t there, it’s half the team. So the WFHs can’t be ignored, everybody stays in the discussion. It works far better than that old arrangement ever did, almost as well as when everyone was in office.

As for me I’m happy. I still get my office social interaction for the most part, it’s just often over chat/video. I feel more “free” because I can work where I want at home instead of at my one little cube in my one little chair. I can use better equipment (like my personal nice monitor vs corporate standard issue) in some cases. I don’t need to use headphones for music/podcasts.

And no commute.

At first I was unhappy “playing office” at home. Stuck at one desk, in one chair, with nothing to look at but a PC and a wall. As soon as I realized I didn’t have to do that I started to really enjoy WFH.


Having a nap during lunch break is also pretty refreshing. And not possible in the office.

We had a callcenter in Romania where they had a "relax" area and people used to nap on the couches there during lunch but it's always a bit awkward. And my office had nothing like this.


In the beforetimes if I went for a walk around the parking lot at lunch time I'd usually see a couple people napping in their cars (and of course burning gas to run the ac if it was summer).


I'm still really indifferent but you could almost say I'm converted in the opposite direction. I realized how awful my co-workers are at communication, especially asynchronous communication and it makes me want to pull my hair out.


That’s an organizational and leadership/management issue at your current company and/or group/team; it’s not ubiquitous.

It’s time for you to find a different company that hires people who can communicate or teaches them to do better.


Not everyone is suited to work from home. I hated working from home, it destroyed my work focus and I think it put a good hole in my career. In the future, I'll prefer companies who offer in person (or hybrid) employment. Everyone is different.


Some people are good at the discipline and self-motivation required to make this work and like the situation where you're more isolated except when you go out of your way not to be. Some people are much happier and productive in an environment where face-to-face communication can happen frequently and when unplanned, and when you can have more personal communication. Obviously it's not as simple as those 2 categories, but as some companies embrace WFH and others go back to in-person, we're going to find that people gravitate towards environments that are one or the way other and find people that are like them. I wouldn't view one as worse or caused by a "leadership / management issue".


...as opposed to walking over to their cube, standing behind them for a few seconds staring at their screen before they realize you're behind them, and then interrupting their work by asking your question?


No? There are ways to collaborate in person that don't require acting like you have 0 social skills.


Most people don't really evaluate things on their merit in a logical way like they think they do. Most behavior and opinions are picked up subconsciously based on what seems to be trending around them. Then comes the rationalization.

In other words, the herd moved towards WFH and got used to it. Now there are less rationalizations for commuting.

The few actual thoughts based on real-world observation now have actual experience of WFH to reference, which means fewer made up nonsense reasons to dislike it.

One thing that always stupidly gets left out of these conversations is the radical difference in situations for some people. Before, when kids were at home also, some parents were literally required to do two jobs while at home -- teacher and their normal job.

Or some people had spouses who did not understand WFH and did not respect boundaries.

But with the kids back in school it's a totally different situation for many.


Seems to have helped a lot that people are back socialising with their friends so the cabin fever has lifted and they don’t feel the desire to get back to the office to scratch that itch.

Also, kids are back at school.


That doesn't sound very scientific. I personally suspect if you took a proper poll you'd find the numbers about the same as they were a year ago.

Myself I'd prefer to be back in the office. Just not the office I was in that was 45 minutes away. Working from home was dragging my soul down.

So I quit, living off my RSUs for the time being. Wherever I end up though, I will be asking for some kind of office, even if it's just me in a WeWork or whatever paid for by the company. That's just part of negotiation for me now. Being at home with the dogs and the kids and the distractions is unbearable.


One big thing for me is that EVERYONE is remote. It is way harder when some people are remote and some people are in the office. If some people are in the office, they are going to talk in person and make decisions in person. Remote workers can be left out.

I remember an old adage about adding a remote team member... "if one team member is remote, all team members need to behave like they are remote"

When some communication is electronic and some is verbal, the team members who can only see half the conversation are going to be left out of decisions.


> I wonder how "converted" HN-ers got where they are. If you're here and changed your mind regarding remote work since the pandemic started, I'd like to hear why; what, other than the obvious pathogen, has caused your change of heart?

The pandemic forced me to build a home office, of sorts. I don't actually have an "office", per se, as real estate prices are bananas. I have a corner in the living room. But my corner has: 1. a window 2. a desk that's about 2× bigger than what my employer would provide 3. more space than what my employer would provide 4. is often, but not always, quiet

Also got a nice chair, which improved the WFH situation greatly. Need a second monitor, at some point.

But also my company keeps thinking not of a full return-to-office, but "oh, maybe like 1 day a week with hotdesking" and … no? I don't particularly want to haul things like my keyboard back and forth, & the company laptop is a MBP, so a. it's keyboard induces RSI and b. it's got those butterfly switches that fail easily, and mine have failed.

I do miss my commute, when my commute was a bike ride.

Unlike the article's survey, I think people absolutely can be convinced to go into the office in exchange for a salary increase. If the survey is getting "no", well, you're just not offering enough money. But, they never do.


Before the pandemic I was able to WFH but usually didn’t, because as luck would have it, it always seemed like a crisis would occur and everyone would be looking for me. Now it’s more normalized and not a problem.

It’s less my attitude, more managing other’s attitudes (esp management)


Am management, can confirm. I preferred the office for personal happiness reasons, but seeing the sustained high output [0] during WFH, why would I risk messing that up?

(I don't stop people from going in to the office of course, I just don't push them to, and the company has told us "do what works". I just started going in one day a week, and it's been nice. We will do a week-long in-person gathering later this year and include the remote folks we hired since covid.)

[0] Yes, high output even when normalized for various factors that were dramatic early in the pandemic, but are tapering back to a new baseline, like people not taking vacation, or working longer hours because there was nothing else to do. Yes also, my team reports many downsides to being distributed. But the sustained net output is high, and we're hiring great people twice as quickly.


For me it just wasn’t as bad as I thought. I do miss hanging out with my coworkers but now if we’re local we just hang out. Being able to commute from bed is just so much nicer. And also being able to take guilt free ad hoc breaks during the day is just unbeatable.


In my case, seniority. I’ve only been working in industry for around 5 or 6 years, and when you’re new, working remotely is inconvenient — it’s hard to ask impromptu questions, or set up “brain drain” sessions, or even get into the mindset of working. You feel like you need to work those full 8-9 hour days to prove yourself.

After a couple of years, I changed jobs. I realized open offices aren’t that pleasant, the food kinda sucks, the beer fridge is full of trash, and my coworker relationships are very superficial compared to my actual friendships. I started working from home 2-3 days a week because my slightly longer commute time on the subway just wasn’t worth being in the office.

Then covid hit. Everyone started working from home. I pooled resources with my significant other to put together a great coffee setup at home, nice desks, cooked lunch together every day. I moved cities to be closer to things I want to do (and cut down on the NYC drinking culture). Now I’m actually planning another move to be someplace where I can actually afford a house in the next year or two.

I changed, the work environment changed, the world changed, and… work from home works better for me now? When I first started, I had a remote teammate, and it actually really bothered me — I felt like it ruined our team culture because we couldn’t include that teammate in lunches, he forced standups to be on zoom, etc. But now that I’m more established in the field I totally get it. If I had a family, no way I’d want to raise my kids in a US city right now. I’m sure it could work for other people with different preferences but to me it’s just too expensive, too much driving, too dangerous when you try to walk or bike, and cuts me off from the things I really enjoy, like biking on dirt roads in the woods, cross country skiing, downhill skiing (when it’s not busy), and easily visiting family.


I have found I am more productive from home and I can do things like laundry. It's far from perfect but overall I have found it to be a win.

I think my ideal would be wfh 4 days, office 1 day. But I totally understand companies not wanting to maintain a building that is only used 1/5th of the time.


This is a prime opportunity for five businesses to share a single furnished space.


There was never a change of heart, but never did I realize how truly awful commuting was, and how truly awesome the lack of it is.


At the beginning of pandemic I was neutral... Now I passionately detest wfh and I will never even attempt to do it again until my scars from last two years heal. I had a lot harder time to communicate, stay in the loop and focus on correct things.


I totally agree with the scars. I'm still heavily depressed due to the whole COVID situation. It feels like it will take years to recover even when the restrictions have lifted. I hear your though and I wish you well.

But WFH was a net win for me. At least it gave me some freedom in other ways. People no longer interrupt my concentration, they consider my status on teams more and ask before calling.

But these things are highly personal. I had other things that did and still do depress me heavily about the whole situation :(


I hate work from home. Absolutely hate it. I'm willing to bet there will be an reports of an epidemic of suicides and/or depression from many people being isolated. Some of you have families or whatever and that works for you but lots of people do not.

Further, many people find enjoyment in socializing both at home and at work. Removing half of that socialization is also a problem for some. I know indie game collectives and they love their work and love doing at an office where they all collaborate. That feeling doesn't come from zoom.


In my country there has already been a report come out. Suicides were down but depression was up, but this is temporary depression due to the pandemic, not chronic depression due to chemical imbalances in the body.


Early March 2020, I was not only in "prefer to work in office" but "will only work in the central corporate office, not a satellite" (after being burned by too many satellite office situations).

By August, I was enjoying forced-WFH. Around November, we went into the office to collect our belongings and during the 8.5 mile drive over there in zero traffic, I thought "damn this is taking forever, I hate this drive!" :)

Now, while our company is remote-first forever, I just got back from a 3 day in-person offsite in FL with one of my leadership teams and have had a few others over the last year since the vaccine was widely available. They are irreplaceable and I'd take a full-time in-office job before taking a all-remote job where in-person meetings a couple times per year was not feasible.


I think it more a changing demographic of HN, as well as people that dissent from the WFH support seem to be blasted so they just do not speak up anymore.

2 years of "if you do not want isolation you want to kill grandma" will do that to you.

For my part my mind has not changed at all, I have no strong opinion either way, WFH or In Office has no impact on if I will take a job or not.

Salary, benefits, Vacation, etc are all 1000000000000x more important to me, and I will drop a WFH job in a hot second if the in office job pays more or provides me with something else I need / desire


I didn’t mind working in an office, but I went WFH in 2018 because it was the only way to live where I want to live and buy a home without taking a 70% pay cut.


that's because all the people who want permanent wfh are browsing hacker news upvoting pro-wfh articles and comments while working from home with no one looking over their shoulders


Kind of in the same spirit, I'm not sure I could be paid enough to return to the office.

I'm pretty sure remote positions I'm qualified for will be open. I could get by with about half of my pay if needed

The idea of adding such dreadful routine to the day around already stressful work puts me over the edge

For context: Architecture/compliance/operations dude with a lot of hats


> I'm not sure I could be paid enough to

I think a better way to frame this: "No one will ever be willing to pay me enough to".

Because everyone has a price for just about any job imaginable.


We're beyond that. I've set a new goal. I'm going to try to negotiate a four day work week for myself. Not 4x10. 4x8. I mean, Ideally it would be as little as possible, but someone might actually agree to 4x8.


This has worked for me as a contractor. I'm currently on a 4x8 schedule.

There is also this site, which I've not really explored yet https://4dayweek.io/


I’m a big remote work fan, and yet going into work has big benefits even for this introvert.

Really I just want the choice in it all. I think if you explained to people that either is okay, but some things need you in, that seems quite fair.


I'm sure lots of people want WFH exclusively, and that's valid, but for me a flexible hybrid setup where the office is there if you want it, and my team plans in-the-office meeting days is really ideal for me. I feel like I miss a lot not seeing people in person. I've felt extremely isolated these last 2 years and I'll be very happy to be getting some face-to-face time this year and in the future


And here comes all the AI content flooding every niche ad-words style....


The article is exceedingly poor quality by HN standards, textbook blog spam. But it doesn't matter cuz everyone read the title and jumped straight into the comments.


I thought perhaps English wasn’t their first language but your explanation makes more sense.

> Since the pandemic is around the corner and situation can go from bad to worse at any moment, it has to be considered is what has been reported.


I find there's a mix of people that either work well remote, or don't. I don't think this is as binary issue as people make it out to be


I'd like companies to break apart teams then build new teams based on who wants to work remote and who wants to be in the office.


A reminder that just because WFH is in an employee’s interest doesn’t mean it’s it in an employer’s interest and that the dynamics of this will be much like “employees want more money” — people with leverage will get it and people without it will not.


As an asthmatic is there some kind of medical route I can take to avoid ever going back?

I don't trust that things will improve for 95% of people long term, I think the agenda is clear. So, I'm looking for some hard lines that my employers can't cross.


Sounds reasonable if the offices are in a polluted place (which is often the case) and you get a doctor to sign that smog/pollution exacerbates your asthma (which sounds reasonable as well). It's a known fact that pollution exacerbates asthma. Hope it gets better for you!


I'm not going back to the office but there is a sense that outsourcing to cheaper east euro / s.e. Asian dev shops will become more commonplace.


WFH has to be THE blessing in disguise from the COVID pandemic. Unless you are walking distance from your workplace. WFH is the most productive form of work. As far decision making arguments. It boils down to good management practices and engineering documentation versus micro management and below par documentation practices.


I think there is another trend going on, perhaps spurred by the pandemic: the rise of consultancy (or contract) work. It feels like the whole concept of “I work at company X” is fast becoming old fashioned. Especially in software some increasing percentage of people people seem to much prefer being consultants. Or am I wrong about this trend ?


Companies could play it smart and seek out compromises- what about hybrid that’s a couple times a week every two or more weeks? What about getting rid of open office floor plans and instituting cubicles, if not individual offices or at least team offices?


hybrid is no different than in office. I still have to live near the office.


Yes, the commute is the major downside to RTO, but it’s not the only one. Some people might be fine with some commuting, but dislike working in offices full time, or just in open office environments.


Makes sense.

I like what I do. I like my team. But I also like not having brain damage: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41586-022-04569-5


I like the option of working from home but from a social perspective I also definitely prefer in many ways going into a physical office. In a world where most people want to exclusively WFH I wonder if that will artificially limit my career growth.


WFH translates to “work from anywhere”, so social opportunities are actually greater when WFH rather than in the office.

Anyone who started WFH within the last couple of years likely haven’t realized that yet, granted.


I suspect this will result in lesser salaries for everybody over time.


They will get their wishes for lower salaries pretty soon.

WFH is just a small transitory step towards work from the cheapest 3rd world country you can find.


A modern society can very well exists with much of jobs from remote, of course not all can be done remotely and that means those jobs will get paid more, witch is actually good BUT that demand a revolution many do not want: that demand a distributed economy.

WFH it's ok, but outside my new home on mountains I need groceries, health services, real-life leisure services etc those can only exists in a new old distributed economy because who want to open a megastore on mountains collecting a small fraction of people of even a small city?

Such transformation is needed ALSO for environmental reasons: we can't make "green tall buildings" simply because we can't practically upgrade them, while we can make homes "for a human life" to be destroyed and rebuilt with modern techniques of the present time forever. We still need factories, witch still need many humans in place, witch means a new kind of society where the wealthy are physically far from poors, poors are concentrated in factory-smart-cities-labor-camps-alike places and wealthy are spread in the territory, but since in nature there is the principle of communicating vessels that can't really last longer etc. Actually ALMOST NO ONE want to face such big revolution, also neoliberals schools believe that population can't really evolve in "short" time, even if some try hard to push them to a new and better life. That's the challenge and probably the response will be "individual" with big unrest in the meantime...


I'll also take unpaid 3-4 month time off but keep insurance


This is one of those cases where the market will figure it out.


Adults want autonomy. Surprise, surprise.




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