> Even without the social contract. First time I held someone in my arms I had visions of life long companionship
I would assume you were brought up in a modern cultural environment. That means your view of the world, your values, your expectations, your fantasies - are shaped by that upbringing.
So, your feelings are not good evidence that this is "programmed deep down inside of us".
And, in fact you're making the point even more strongly, in that you seem to identify lifelong, formal, monogamous pairing with the potential for human companionship.
I would assume you were brought up in a modern cultural environment. That means your view of the world, your values, your expectations, your fantasies - are shaped by that upbringing.
So, your feelings are not good evidence that this is "programmed deep down inside of us".