Where can I get me some of this? Most very small teams seem to want co-location and fairly regular office attendance. I find I am a pretty effective remote worker and am quite good at staying in sync with a distributed team, but for some reason founders of mid-early-stage startups seem less enthused by that idea.
I was more wondering why more founders don't see the value in building companies where the whole team is not necessarily distributed all the time, but has the flexibility to WFH or work from the road whenever they feel like it.
It's not, and it hurts them.
To answer your question, though, ask during interviews. It's the only way to find out, unless they put it in the job description.
Coders shouldn't be a black box that you hope to get the right answer out of. They should be talked to, but talked to as adults. You don't need to pressure them, you just need to ask for progress (not deadlines!) and help them resolve any issues they have.
Any programmers that have been beaten down in traditional shops will try to avoid the above because they'll think you're pressuring them slyly, instead of openly. You have to be absolutely open and honest and ethical about everything to overcome that.