Nobody said Apple's security is perfect. People's views are simply biased because when Apple's much tighter security is breached, of course it will make headlines everywhere. Windows and Android have far more malware, but you won't see headlines about it every single day.
Either way, unless you're a journalist, politician or some other high-value target, you're pretty unlikely to be targeted by exploits like the NSO one. But if you don't care about jailbreaking, you can still update your device to give yourself peace of mind.