As an engineer I run cycles of listening, paraphrasing and then solutionizing almost every day. This doesn't translate well in friendships & relationships where the other person just wants someone to listen. At the same time I rate lowly on empathy scoring tests on the internet. Other technical folks here who might have gone through this,
1. How did you develop your listening skill?
2. How to be more empathetic?
Update: Some more questions
1. What common failure modes do you hit in your relationships as a low empathy person?
2. How do you avoid them?