Watch your habits, for they become your character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.
Under the guise of being a piece of wisdom, this, to me, sounds like a healthy recipe for going insane. Watch your thoughts? Indeed. Might as well try to bite your own teeth.
The world becomes a lot more fun and easier to deal with once you stop trying to control everything and realise that things tend to work pretty much ok even if you don't keep a paranoid eye on them.
In defense of a cheesy classroom poster, a better verb would be observe. You're (reasonably) interpreting "watch" as something like "control" ("Watch this prisoner."), but it can also mean simply to look at ("Watch the tide roll in.")
As the human default seems to be blind acceptance of every rationalization that appears in our minds, simply being more aware (by observation) that who you are is a process and not an immutable state can be a profound step.
metacognitive regulation is a skill that takes concerted effort to develop, but is verified by science to impact behavior. practices like cognitive behavioral therapy and buddhism take a similar approach to altering thought habits to influence actions.
Well maybe things working out 'okay' is not good enough? Maybe not everyone has a good life already and actually wants or needs to change?
This advice is meant for people that want to change their destiny. It is good that you can be happy with who you are, but some people want to improve drastically, not just by a few minor character alignments over a few decades.
To break down what it says, and offer my own thoughts, often, the path to doing something at first challenging is: thought -> action -> habit, belief/better life or outcome.
Achievable steps is also key. Trying to rush the process and immediately reach the endpoint results in frustration.
So, "I want to learn to swim" => Spend 15 minutes practicing => Spend 15 minutes practicing 3 times a week... and so on, gradually ramping up is likely to work, while, "I want to learn to swim" => 3 practices weekly of 1 hour is likely to fail, in my experience.
Yes, we need to make him think more about that, so those thoughts can become words, and those words can become bytes, and those bytes can become words again, and then finally return to their thoughtful state in my amused mind :-)
I find posts like this very annoying. As swombat points out, the claim that you should "watch your thoughts" leaves one wondering: how do I do that? The answer I assume I would get, were I to ask the author this question, is: "Just do it!" Of course, the author has conveniently left out details regarding what type of support he received from family/friends/coaches.
Anyway, that's exactly why this type of crap isn't useful.
To become excellent at a contingent skill (e.g. swimming, chess, math) you must surround yourself with excellent, honest people who care about you.
To become excellent at a trascendental skill (e.g. "strength," "bravery") you must isolate yourself and go very deep.
That seems a bit harsh to me. Self motivation - both through thoughts and through actions - is a very necessary part of building habits. Outside motivation can be great too, but unlike self motivation it's not always available. Will the friends/family/coaches wake up at 5am to convince you not to sleep in? Even if they would, I'd rather be able to do it on my own.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become your character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.
Under the guise of being a piece of wisdom, this, to me, sounds like a healthy recipe for going insane. Watch your thoughts? Indeed. Might as well try to bite your own teeth.
The world becomes a lot more fun and easier to deal with once you stop trying to control everything and realise that things tend to work pretty much ok even if you don't keep a paranoid eye on them.
I much prefer the following Haiku:
Sitting silently,
Doing nothing
And the grass grows by itself.