In a co-parenting situation, the activity you see is each parents' brains emulating both the child's brain and their own. That results in a higher degree of similarity than each co-parent on their own, because in that case they're only empathizing with one other person (the child).
You would see the same result in other highly emotional three-party situations; a co-parenting situation would just be a good way to trigger it.
When it’s just one half of the couple, theres a realization that they have to fill both roles. The mental scavenging required to prioritize/sequence/execute a blend of familiar and unfamiliar actions is going to perturb brain activity.
Other person makes it easier in a sense that there are two hands and you can split kids. So you don't change diapers while watching other kid. But in terms of how usual situation is, how much cooperation and negotiation it requires, it requires more.
It's like solving a constraint satisfaction program where your spouse is an additional variable.
I wonder to what extent the problem solving facilities are more activated with the presence of the spouse.
We see this in situations involving co-workers and neighbors, friends and even strangers. There's the point-source stimulus and its first order effects we react to but it's mediated by the reactions we observe from those around us participating in the same experience resulting in second-order (and more) effects.
Isn't this effectively the psychology of crowds writ small?
To change his all I've to do is just listen to her and offer her my view and usually she is able to fix all problems on her own.
I am one of the lucky people to have great wife who loves me so much.
Usually these interactions with children raise the blood pressure throughout the day, but having both of us around definitely helps.
There is no way to actually characterize the thought processes using these imaging methods. No where does this implicate that the actual actions or thoughts specifically relating to the child are any different. This makes the conclusion much less interesting.
I definitely have different responses to my kids when my wife is around. I would be very surprised if the same was not true for her. Does anyone not?
Of course there are differences because he speaks a different language to each of us, but even so his playing-behaviour is different, and I guess he's used to doing different things with us both.
(For example painting is something he associates with his mother, so he rarely wants to do that with me. While I'm the one who lets him choose music to listen to. As you'd expect for a three-year old he likes anything loud, Rammstein being a favourite, with The Prodigy being a good runner-up.)
His reactions do amuse me though, I let him watch the video to Thriller before bedtime recently, and he thought that was awesome. But the Amy Winehouse video "Back To Black" was scary and he made me stop it!
They often act out, try all the things, push the boundaries and run amok. One on one they're lovely.
if you have typical good cop, bad cop parents there will be obviously differences when each of them is alone and now when suddenly these styles get mixed,
I don't see that much reason for changes, if both parents are good cops or bad cops, of course they are never exactly same,
anyway the child will obviously try to push boundaries towards relaxed good cop standards when mixed since it gives child clearly more opportunities to play and child thinks it's under good cop protection and does things which would never do alone with bad cop
sadly I'm the bad cop mostly
Are all these researchers singles?
I have idea for another study, compare behavior of people supervised by CCTV in room vs unsupervised, results will be truly shocking (for some)!
We're social creatures and to suggest actions are atomic is simplistic. Even a small child knows to alter their behavior when authority figures or social unknowns are present.
i think this applies to pretty much any line of work with internal control and repercussions
Whenever we're in the presence of our significant other, our brains are constantly in a state of readiness to compromise or empathize in order to reach a common ground.
> They found that when spouses were physically together, they showed higher similarities in brain responses to the stimuli than when they were separated. This effect was only found in true couples and not in randomly matched study participants.
If not, perhaps you can explain a bit more about why you feel this article is incorrect and provide some sources?
took me a minute to realize what you meant here. well played!