> So, how do we escape this parasitical leech without triggering his vindictive rage? Gray Rock is primarily a way of encouraging a psychopath, a stalker or other emotionally unbalanced person, to lose interest in you. It differs from No Contact in that you don’t overtly try to avoid contact with these emotional vampires. Instead, you allow contact but only give boring, monotonous responses so that the parasite must go elsewhere for his supply of drama. When contact with you is consistently unsatisfying for the psychopath, his mind is re-trained to expect boredom rather than drama. Psychopaths are addicted to drama and they can’t stand to be bored. With time, he will find a new person to provide drama and he will find himself drawn to you less and less often. Eventually, they just slither away to greener pastures. Gray Rock is a way of training the psychopath to view you as an unsatisfying pursuit you bore him and he can’t stand boredom.
I did this at my old workplace where people would get enraged. I learned not to interrupt and not even try to be empathetic no engagement at all.
People are like cats they only react to stimulation.
Even for love today being Valentine's Day I recall a saying, "the opposite of love isn't hate it's indifference".
It worker really well -- although not perfectly -- when I was being constantly annoyed by someone. I explicitly told them I didn't want to deal with them, but they kept coming. They stopped once, to their "how are you?", I replied with how I really was.
That's a good thing, because it avoids stigmatising a real diagnosis that's given to a group of people who are already deeply stigmatised.
> he will find a new person to provide drama and he will find himself drawn to you less and less often
> he can’t stand boredom
Unnecessarily gendered language is jarring for the reader and also, (possibly) unintentionally, sexist. The singular they/them/their is generally acceptable to use in cases such as these.
In 2012, this was already well-known. The language is jarring and sexist for no apparent reason. It is not undue revisionism.
Any level of revisionism is undue.
The point of not using gendered language is to compensate for discrimination, not to hide problems.
‘He’ worked as the default pronoun for a long time in many languages all over the world. (And still does in many languages) I find it curious how many people can be sold into the idea that a language can be considered sexist.
They exist. I'm not sure that they can de-gender language, but they can swap word A for word B
I was simply offering that I don’t perceive the language as sexist. You do. That’s fine.
Similarly, I would offer that I don’t find your sarcasm productive in a civil discussion.