Daycare, the act of handing your infants and toddlers over to minimum wage workers who do not care about your children on an individual basis and who are also supposed to be taking care of several other children, is not a great idea, or even a good idea. It's a bad idea. For any decent parent, it would be a last resort before giving the children up for adoption.
Yes of course it's great when the extended family can help. That doesn't happen much in the modern world. It would be great if it did though.
>a comparatively trivial thing to do is to realign employee and employer incentives. And there are governments that do that successfully.
What does that mean? I think it's defeatist to want so many people slaving away for corporate masters rather than spending time with their families.
>Stop projecting your view of the world on everyone
I don't know what that means. I'm not going to stop advocating that people make lifestyle choices that I think are best, because as a father of a young child, my child is going to grow up in a world populated by the children that are the result of the lifestyle choices people are making today, and I would prefer for him to be surrounded by people that have been raised as well as possible.
>but it is not the only possible way to have a healthy family.
It is by far the best way to ensure you have a healthy family that we know of.
I do not know where you are coming from, but our surroundings must be extremely different. This is why I am saying you should not project your assumptions on everyone.
Why do you assume that daycare staff are minimal wage workers as opposed to well paid professionals that know more about intellectual enrichment and child psychology than the average parent?
Why are you assuming a career means "slaving away for corporate masters" as opposed to a myriad of ways one can work to enrich the world around them while at the same time being paid (academia, small business, art/design work, community work, the vast majority of lifestyle business, social purpose work, solving intellectually interesting technical problems, etc)? There are people that love their creative jobs, and we should not pretend they are unicorns or that they have to sacrifice their child's upbringing.
What you describe sounds borderline selfish to me. I get you are trying to suggest something good, but a person can make the world better (and even be paid for it) without compromising how much they care for their child.
Maybe I am talking like that because I am privileged and have an easy life. But then why not advocate that our communities try to make more people's lives easier?
>Why do you assume that daycare staff are minimal wage workers as opposed to well paid professionals that know more about intellectual enrichment and child psychology than the average parent?
I didn't assume it, I looked up what they tend to get paid and what qualifications are typically required to have that job. They tend to get paid around minimum wage, and they typically only need a high school diploma.
>Why are you assuming a career means "slaving away for corporate masters" as opposed to a myriad of ways one can work to enrich the world around them while at the same time being paid (academia, small business, art/design work, community work, the vast majority of lifestyle business, social purpose work, solving intellectually interesting technical problems, etc)?
Because that's what most people do.
>There are people that love their creative jobs, and we should not pretend they are unicorns or that they have to sacrifice their child's upbringing.
I'm sure there are some people like that, but the vast majority of children do not have two parents that fit in that category.
>What you describe sounds borderline selfish to me.
It is explicitly so.
>I get you are trying to suggest something good, but a person can make the world better (and even be paid for it) without compromising how much they care for their child.
Maybe some can. Most people aren't going to make the world better through their corporate job, and are going to compromise on how much care they give their children in order to do it. It doesn't make much sense to set society's expectations so that they only really work for exceptional people. They will do fine. They need to work for regular people.
>But then why not advocate that our communities try to make more people's lives easier?
I do advocate that. Raising children well so that they are not a problem for other people later in life is part of it. Encouraging stay at home parents to work to build their community once their children are old enough not to need full time care, rather than going back to being a corporate drone, is another thing I advocate.
Yes of course it's great when the extended family can help. That doesn't happen much in the modern world. It would be great if it did though.
>a comparatively trivial thing to do is to realign employee and employer incentives. And there are governments that do that successfully.
What does that mean? I think it's defeatist to want so many people slaving away for corporate masters rather than spending time with their families.
>Stop projecting your view of the world on everyone
I don't know what that means. I'm not going to stop advocating that people make lifestyle choices that I think are best, because as a father of a young child, my child is going to grow up in a world populated by the children that are the result of the lifestyle choices people are making today, and I would prefer for him to be surrounded by people that have been raised as well as possible.
>but it is not the only possible way to have a healthy family.
It is by far the best way to ensure you have a healthy family that we know of.