2. I don't care whether incels want a peaceful, reasonable dialogue with the larger world. I want to solve the problem, and you should too. Starting a dialogue is a necessary part of solving the problem, and waiting for people who don't feel they can talk to the rest of the world to start a dialogue is not going to work.
Ostracizing angry, lonely people is a great way to make them angrier and lonelier.
"They're the one's with the problem, they should be the ones to apologize" is not an effective strategy.