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I really enjoyed Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love by Levine and Heller [0].

The description of the “types” (avoidant, secure, anxious) was very eye-opening, especially while scoring your own “traits” / tendencies / “patterns” for each type. You sorta know what it means when you answer “very likely” to many questions that point to the same type.

As far as I understand, the book is based on this same Attachment theory — it’s a lighter read / introduction to it, but still very good to get the point across. (I didn’t find it as useful to help deal with / compensate for the non-secure type’s thought patterns — not as much as David Burns’ wonderful Feeling Good, for instance)

[0] https://www.amazon.ca/Attached-Science-Attachment-Find-Keep/...

If you like David Burns, let me recommend his Feeling Good Podcast. One of the most impactful episodes is one where he works with a woman dying of cancer. You can hear him apply his techniques to a seemingly hopeless situation in real life. It was eye-opening for me, even having read Feeling Good.

Thank you for the recommendation! From [0] (first question on the page), I gather that you’re referring to Marilyn’s case?

Thanks again

[0] https://feelinggood.com/2019/03/11/129-ask-david-how-can-i-d...

Yes, it was Marilyn. She's in two episodes recorded two years apart. The one I listened to was the second one[0].

[0] https://feelinggood.com/2019/09/23/159-live-therapy-with-mar...

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