> Doesn’t that mean that you set out to interpret messages in that way?
Yes, it does. But then it's still up to me to try to overcome my first reaction. I don't always succeed.
> I guess this is the reverse of nonviolent communication. If you always speak and are used to communicating agressively, then people that are being nice suddenly sound condescending.
"Always" ? Interesting choice of word when talking about non violent communication :).
Snark aside, I don't see myself as communicating aggressively. I may be wrong. I certainly don't put myself in the camp of "people who tell it like it is" though.
> Snark aside, I don't see myself as communicating aggressively. I may be wrong. I certainly don't put myself in the camp of "people who tell it like it is" though.
Ah. I didn’t mean you in particular, and not necessarily aggressive, just the opposite of nonviolent.
I just never considered this from the point of view of the other side before.
Yes, it does. But then it's still up to me to try to overcome my first reaction. I don't always succeed.
> I guess this is the reverse of nonviolent communication. If you always speak and are used to communicating agressively, then people that are being nice suddenly sound condescending.
"Always" ? Interesting choice of word when talking about non violent communication :).
Snark aside, I don't see myself as communicating aggressively. I may be wrong. I certainly don't put myself in the camp of "people who tell it like it is" though.
Also, faking being nice can really be annoying.