> Moreover, many symptoms od ADD are taken for laziness, sloppiness, or lack of motivation. Many symptoms of Aspie are taken for rudeness, ill intentions or trying to dominate (breaking a social rule => (s)he thinks (s)he is above it).
To make matters even more complicated, in just the right dosage those faux pas can actually serve as countersignalling, and increase your perceived worth.
It felt weird that people excuse my social mistakes when they think I am dominating and don't care for others, but don't excuse it when I say "I am sorry" and explain that I didn't know (they assume wrong intentions + being caught red-handed + not admitting it).
Comparing with autistic standards, a lot of neurotypical interactions is less about being honest, and more: building one's position in the social hierarchy. (I find that disappointing, but well - it is how the world works.)
To make matters even more complicated, in just the right dosage those faux pas can actually serve as countersignalling, and increase your perceived worth.
I'm speaking from experience.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Countersignaling