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Do you really thing "shaming people" is an appropriate, mature response?



In my opinion a lot of societal problems that we have exist because we don't shame people for bad decisions any more. 100 years ago the idiot in the village knew they were the idiot. Sure their life sucked. But now all of the idiots of all villages form their own little filter bubble and convince each other that they are the smart ones and that the rest of the world got it all wrong. Sounds like an improvement until you realize that this is the mechanism behind anti-vaxx, flat-earth, obama-birther, climate-change-denial and so on. Or in other words a lot of modern stupidit y that actually kills people.

So yes, I think clearly saying "I think you are stupid for wearing google glasses and I will not have a beer with you as long as you do" is a mature response. At that point they have to decide if they want to have google glasses or friends.


> "I think you are stupid for wearing google glasses and I will not have a beer with you as long as you do" is a mature response

Disagree. If I had a friend who seriously called me stupid, I'd think they're an asshole, not mature. I'd say "I don't feel comfortable around that device, would you mind putting it away while we have a beer?" is mature.

Making something about someone else, or trying to control others' actions, is not mature. Communicating your needs and concerns is where it's at.


But now all of the idiots of all villages form their own little filter bubble and convince each other that they are the smart ones and that the rest of the world got it all wrong.

Amen. Thankfully, hackernews are the smart people.


It's definitely not a mature response; I don't feel the righteous fury about these kinds of things that I did 20 years ago.

As to whether it's appropriate... social opprobrium can often be a less worse way to deal with a problem than ignoring it or going to the law.

And it could be positive; when someone dislikes how a person is behaving, they tend to form a caricature of that person. By confronting them, they're forced to deal with a real person who will defend their behavior, and it tends to replace that caricature with a more nuanced view.


Shaming works, has worked for hundreds of thousands of years.




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