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This boycott and these comments are being orchestrated by [redacted]. [redacted] is a transexual activist, and an offender in sexual harassment themselves. I'm posting this on a throwaway for obvious reasons.

I worked at Google from 2010-2014. Over the summer of 2012 or 2013, I joined an Eve Online "Corporation" (guild) with [redacted], and another one of my coworkers. It was a crazy place. [redacted] had a fanatical hatred of "Rape Jokes". Rape was not a joke to [redacted]. Rape was a fantasy that [redacted] was all too happy to describe in great detail. The corporation was "Kink Friendly". I'm embarrassed to say that that was part of the appeal to me - I'm happy to tie my girlfriends up as part of roleplay. [redacted]'s fantasies were a great deal more detailed and a great deal less fantasy oriented than I would like. I left that corporation after a while, though not as quickly as I should have. I was young, I was confused, and based on the success of her "Real Names Considered Harmful" letter, I believed that [redacted] was a credible, accredited leader.

The same coworker who introduced me to [redacted] would, several times, invite me to join them for lunch at "Club Z". I declined - Partially because something seemed off, mostly because I was satisfied with the lunches at Google. I would only later find out that "Club Z" is not a lunch place - It's a (rather infamous) Gay Bathhouse here in Seattle.

While I was in that corp, though, I was sexually assaulted by a former friend. About a year I knew and had considered a friend had some out as bi, and had "Confessed their love" to me... by forcefully kissing me at a party. I was embarrassed, I was not interested, and I made it pretty politely clear, to which they reacted badly. Now they had come out as "trans", and received an outpouring of support from mutual friends. Said friends convinced me to give them another chance. At their urging, I agreed to hang out with this friend, at a "Movie Night". A movie night which no-one else showed to. Said former friend pressured me to try weed, which I had never done before. Okay. Red flag. I was dumb, and I regret it. Said friend offered to show me his "Uncle's" stash of Child Pornography. I already suspected they were a pedo, but, yeah. Should have run right then, was drunk. Said "friend" then tried to force himself on me. I am not bigger, but I am strong, and I forced them off. I was also drunk, and spent several uncomfortable hours waiting to sober up, repeatedly fending off unwanted advances.

Anyway: Being dumb, having listened to too much of the bullshit excuses, I went to the only Trans* person I knew to talk about it. [redacted]. They told me how much I was in the wrong, how important it was for Trans* people to explore their sexuality, and called me a monster for not having responded positively. "What if a biological woman had hit on you?" - The tired old canard was trotted out.

I do not have any direct evidence of wrongdoing by [redacted]. I only know that they hang out with, and are supported by, people who were long overdue for censure. People who were repeatedly able to convince others that they were the victims despite their clear aggression.




Not to belittle you but the level of WTF in this comment makes me check out. If you’re serious you could start by gaining some credibility here...

> This boycott and these comments are being orchestrated by [redacted].

Do you have _any_ evidence for this? The comments seem fairly normal HN to me.


If this former friend is still walking the streets please file a police report in regards to the child pornography. I know its difficult to put yourself out there but it needs to be done.


I'm sorry for what happened to you and it is horrible. There are no excuses for said behavior. Some of the events sound possibly criminal and should be reported to the authorities.

That said, and especially since you end your statement with "I do not have any direct evidence of wrongdoing by [name]", I think it is unfair to name and shame here without evidence. You should remove the name from the story.


Sounds like you got out of an unhealthy situation all around.

When working at google take advantage of their tech stack and stay away from socializing.

Sex prefs shouldn't really be that important. So whatever you did/didn't do or why you wanted fong's approval in the first place shouldn't matter.

besides 2014 was 5 years ago and him




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