I care (like probably most other people) about having a reasonably good career, being reasonably financial stable, taking reasonably care of my health, my spiritual life, working on self-education and becoming more informed over time, practicing a small number of hobbies, socializing some, cleaning my house, and contributing some to the communities I find myself in. I’m not in a relationship but that would be very important if I were.
If something doesn’t fall into those, I don’t really care. I’m sure I’ll miss new and improved ways to do those marginally better, but I don’t really care. I basically go out of my way to avoid things that don’t contribute to those unless it’s socially essential (going out with friends or something).
Now there are still infinite variations and ways those all relate to each other and pitfalls to avoid. Watching news tv or reading it on the Internet has many cons. Not keeping has its own (out of touch, susceptible to believe nonsense, etc.). So I get a print newspaper and read it sometimes. Reading insane stuff on the internet may make you spend a lot of time incorrectly doing things that you think will help your health. So don’t do that. Etc (maybe some of its useful but certainly a lot isn’t)
Also have some humility (easier said than done). People are just going to be smarter and more successful than me and if I’m successful I’ll certainly meet them. No secret or new technique or extreme work routine will make something impossible happen to overcome that.
user_request -> kubernetes api -> docker api on a host
You can drop in other runtimes, like using containerd directly.
You should check out what docker and kubernetes actually are if you'd like to discuss them. Kubernetes is a management engine that controls docker containers, replacing the docker developed solution.
I only loosely follow mainstream infotainment/moral panics, and mostly for entertainment value. So I totally enjoy missing out on the “let’s all be scared together” vibe.
NB: This sharing would be f2f, since I have yet another JOMO: not being on FB/insta/etc.
There's nothing you're missing out on by doing this, only the spread of fearmongering by the media. The world is not ending tomorrow, and experiencing your own life is more important than vicariously experiencing all the negative things in the world through the internet.
On the other hand, there are things happening in the world, decisions being made and actions taken, that almost certainly affect stuff you value. This is especially true in your town/county/sub-national political region -- which is why I said "local". It's still not exactly fun a lot of the time, but knowing -- and being able to influence! -- what's going on around you ultimately has more upside than down.
Let's even use Brexit as an example. For the average everyday person in England, brexit is a huge deal. But what benefit is there to the general population to keep up with every twist and turn of political maneuvering? In the end it's important to vote smart. Voting smart can br done via checking up on current events once a week if not once month. Things really do not move as fast as online news and social media will lead you to believe. Brexit is taking years to happen. But if you keep up with the news you might think everyday is the brink of doom or salvation. When in fact the average person has months or possibly years between actionable events.
I've found that keeping exposure to media down to every week or two and mostly reading summaries of events after the fact has helped immensely. It filters out all of the noise you get from live reporting. This helps get down to the facts of what's happened, and allows one to keep a certain emotional detachment from the events and focus on the important things.
It stopped being funny, and now I no longer visit some of those relatives for fear of being mistaken as an intruder and shot when stumbling into their home drunk after a night on the town during an extended visit as a house guest. In the past I would go across the country and stay with some of these relatives for a month or more in a spare room. Now it just doesn't seem safe with them keeping a handgun under their pillows.
One threat is very real, the other is largely nonexistant but portrayed by the media as a growing omnipresent danger.
I refuse to live a fear-directed life, that is all.
- I am focused on creating instead of consuming every day. Instead of critiquing tech companies and their ethics, I am building one aligned with my moral compass. Instead of captions, I am writing posts for my blog on a number of subjects/interests.
- Clients have to reach me through email instead of wasting my time on the phone. A lot of them do not respect my time like I respect theirs. Having everything in writing makes it easier to manage projects.
- I've been traveling a lot over the last year and barely posted about it, this allowed me to just enjoy the places and focus on improving as a photographer using my Sony a6000. I don't care about posting the perfect caption anymore, I am absorbing the wisdom of the ages by experiencing what the great minds of the past did directly instead of through middle men.
- I am thoroughly done with 'influencers' who blast me with the same couple messages in different words every week. They are not influencing, they are preying on the attention of indecisive and unfocused people. Anyone who needs a Gary V-type to yell at them to get started isn't that serious to begin with if you ask me. Anyone who is traveling the world to take selfies while meditating is more narcissistic than 'woke'. Don't post about it, be about it. I've recently found out that Jay Shetty steals a lot of his content and is most likely lying about 'being a monk'. This irks me because he is making a mockery of actual monks I know.
- I've been spending more time with my 4-year-old nephew who is obsessed with trains and LEGOs. We have conversations now and I teach him as much as I can about the basics of math, engineering, design, writing, math.
- When in the car, I talk to the person I am with instead of looking at my phone. When at a meal, I am talking to the people I am with and not staring at my phone. When I am waiting in line, I am counting my blessing to have freedom and opportunity instead of scrolling and swiping.
- I have to actually know how to navigate cities now and this has been a good practice because cities are fascinating things. I stumble into all kinds of interesting things by 'accident' many times too.
"In essence, JOMO is a way to live an intentional life. It’s realising that FOMO is distracting you from your life’s purpose, and that you don’t need more time. You just need to use your time in a way that allows you to act on intent-based ideas, such as creative projects or spending time with the people you care about the most."
 seems like he may have come back a bit?
You know the little bios people do to boast they are a "TED Speaker, this that the other". I dream of making a blog that just says "Proudly lazy person, slightly above median IQ but works just for the money, enjoys lying on a towel in the sun on the patio. You won't catch me running through a marathon finish line".
That would be for satire of course, but there is a grain of truth to it, in that so many people online look like super achievers.
There's no obligation to achieve notable things, especially not by anyone else's standards.
The standards are subjective anyway. For example, unlike the person you're responding to, I'm unimpressed if you worked for FAANG--it shows you're a hard worker or at least create that impression, but it also shows your values don't align with mine very well. In fact, if you work for Facebook I'll respect you more if you quit: what Facebook does is bad.
Also, I heard the term JOMO for the first time in a TV show last night and I thought it was a joke that the show made up. Was surprised to see the term mentioned on HN this very next morning.
"Do you wanna come Harry!?"
"Err, I'm going to give this one a miss"(x300)
Then they'd leave and it was bliss. Peace and quiet. Just me. And whatever the hell I wanted to do.
I could never really put my emotion into thoughts. But the joy of missing out was pretty much it.
"Missing out" is now the status quo. And I'm not sure that's a good thing. Sometimes I feel like a should try more stuff, but do it on my own terms. I'm sure I'll get there.
Thanks for writing. I intend on checking out Svend's book.
If you want a little quiet time, pick up activities that involve manual labor. Not sports, not hiking. Sweaty things with dirty hands and faces. You'll get plenty of alone time.
(caveat emptor: You'll also get a really vivid picture of how bad classism is.)
OP's post linked to an article that mentions elsevier. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S074756320...
I keep seeing that name, it's related to Mendeley, an app for reading journals on smartphones.
Unfortunately it's 10-20 bucks to get the paper.
> Loneliness, envy
It seems to be a common theme in FOMO. This paper also tries to tie envy + loneliness <-> fomo: https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/6a4f/4e27a55178bd1d9bd58744...
Surveys around this subject have weaknesses, this snippet from above sums up my feelings: "Another limitation derived from the self-reported nature of the questionnaires. Information reported by participants may have reflected socially desirable responses, rather than participants` true responses."
This is the big issue around this status / pride stuff. There's never going to be people admitting how they're sensitive about superficial things and there's this awkward silence to not break the fourth wall and talk about it. Lol
Why? Maybe because it's vulnerable self-disclosure and there wouldn't be reciprocity. If everybody went and said something like: "my primal fear is I won't be loved if I don't have status. I worry if I speak candidly about my feelings and attitudes, friends will abandon me. I feel I'm always caretaking to others and nobody cares about me. That's why I act out this way"
I keep seeing this, but how often is it true? I always answer these questionnaires honestly. The person who made it just wants some good data for their science. I've never felt a need to lie to them.
> response errors in surveys can occur because respondents misunderstand the questions, cannot retrieve all the relevant information, use inaccurate estimation and judgment strategies, round their answers, or have difficulty mapping them onto one of the response categories.
These go into survey responses to sensitive questions:
I'm straying off topic, they will try in various ways to bullet proof these surveys. I don't know, I think if a group of people are quizzed, there will be more incentive for people to not give accurate answers. Hm:
What if they come from a family where a guardian is an alcoholic but don't have a point of relation to compare to, and say it's fine at home? They haven't processed it yet.
Outside of surveys, there are blown personality/psychiatric assessments designed to detect over-reporting and malingering: https://scholarsrepository.llu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?artic...
With the advent of things like Youtube and Garage Band, MOST of a niche music type will be made by people, who won't be well compensated for it, and you'll never get the chance to hear it...because there are so many people making so much stuff.
I'm at a festival right now, which is focused on a particular niche (death metal), and structured so it's possible to see every single band and still have time for beer and food.
I am consciously choosing to miss out on some of the bands, because I only have so much capacity to take in new bands at a time.
Don't worry, just enjoy the stuff you like.
The compensation was never there to begin with for non popular artists, only difference is now they can distribute it.
Personally, I’ve found that the biggest factor to my stress is obligation, and not having enough time for everything. Social media, trying to get a handle of everything that’s happening, and reading every interesting link is a bloody big obligation.
IMHO, time spent on social media vs your quality of life are inversely proportional.
Fear Of Missing Out
Joys Of Missing Out
I use Facebook, albeit sparingly and only ever to make meaningful interactions with my family, and nothing else. I don't feverishly 'check in' to locations, don't engage in 'groups', don't 'like' a million-and-one things, or otherwise engage in the Facebook app in any meaningful way. It means Facebook can't build a dossier of my interests, although they do know my social graph, but then: I'm not a person of interest anyway. I am actually very forgettable.
For Twitter, I have a locked down account and only follow what I'm interested in. I don't actively seek to get more followers, and have literally nothing in my bio that is about me. I don't use my real name. My account is purely for discovery of positive news, and content that stimulates me intellectually.
I recently started to experiment with Neuro Linguistic Programming and a big part of that is deciding what you pay attention to (especially online) and feeding your brain with content that enables you to grow as a person and not be bogged down with negative content that only appeals to your 'monkey brain'. I haven't gone to extremes by cutting out all social media, instead I just use it mindfully and by carefully choosing the types of content I consume.
Sometimes it is useful. Other times, I’m just dealing with my FOMO. Haha. And I’m ok with that, because I find another joy when my interests match the zeitgeist.
But it strikes me the last time I really suffer from FOMO was attending Burning Man some years ago. And with that event having just concluded last weekend (again without my attendance), it was the first thing I thought about reading this article.
Well. There’s always _next year_. Haha
Thank you :)
There is huge FOMO at the root of flying. There's incredible joy and abundance without it that people refuse to sample, as if everyone before flying was miserable.