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Step 1: TAKE YOUR VACATION!! - every minute allowed, every year. If they won't give you a chance to recharge your batteries, look elsewhere.

And do what with it? For many of us burnout is tied to depression is tied to lack of a mate, hobby, social circle, life purpose. What outside of work is even worth doing? Seems like all I can think about outside of work is how badly I just want this all to be finished.

Might be stepping out but I think you've already identified quite a few things that can be worked on in order to help yourself out.

hobby - honestly just try a bunch of different things for a while and you might be surprised what you like. Take up gardening, hobby games (build/paint miniatures and play 40k, battletech, etc.), hiking, really anything that requires some focus and a bit of work. In a lot of cases its more about having something to do other than work and being tired/lazy/depressed at home vegging out and/or getting into a worse headspace.

mate/social circle - honestly this can be hard (especially if you’re really introverted) but getting into a hobby can open new doors. Also think about getting a pet or two. Animal companionship can really be more than a substitute for other people and fill you with all sorts of joys.

life purpose - this is really hard but honestly you and in complete control over this if you push yourself hard enough. Literally just choose something. It can even be to just live as long as possible despite any shitty circumstances (doesn’t have to be some grand unachievable goal).

I really hope I'm not stepping out of line but your message seemed like a call for help. I've had my own long spells of depression and some of the above have helped me a lot. Please also consider getting in contact with professional help if it’s really getting bad. Forget about shame, nervousness, or whatever had headspace your currently in, your life is 100% worth more than any of that.

The first time I heard all of this advice was 20 years ago, and people just repeat it every week for years on end ...

Impossible for me to say how to find meaning in your life. It's a path each of us is on. But you can't find that path in front of a monitor or at work. Turn it off and go for a walk. The Buddha said that the purpose in life is to find your purpose in life. You don't have to know what it is....you just have to look for it. Start searching (and not with Google). If you can't find anything else and can't bring yourself to plan something...take this cruise: https://www.celebritycruises.com/destinations/alaska-cruises

lately when I am stuck in a rut, I get in a "just do it" mindset. Thinking is sometimes harder than doing.

Thinking about exercise, thinking about cleaning my room, thinking about doing laundry. I can sit in misery thinking about what needs to be done, or I can just start working.

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