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I think it is a bit paternalistic to assume that people who don't want to wander the world just haven't done so yet.

I love having my stable job, getting to come home and spend time with the wife and kids after every work day, and knowing they have a stable life where they aren't having to move schools or worry about constant change.

People are different.

How possibly could that concept be paternalistic? Is it just men that have a desire to travel and find their place in the greater environment/world? Why not women also?

Nobody says that you cannot have stability. But clearly you are in a stage of life that I have passed through. (Although, I did take my kids to a very new environment when they were 10-ish, and they got to experience snow skiing as a regular Friday activity, and hiking and mountain biking in good weather in the non-winter months.)

If your energy is focused on your family, and you are happy, and your job doesn't make you feel like your talents are wasted, then great! That's enviable. But it doesn't have anything to do with people who have experienced travel wanting to do more of it. It's a bit saying there's no value in trying foods other than what you grew up eating.

I meant paternalistic as in 'assuming you know what is best for someone else', not anything to do with gender.

My issue with the original comment was the assumption that the ONLY reason you wouldn't want to wander is because you haven't done it enough. Some people have wandered, and just aren't drawn to it.

This goes for any statement like that; "If you don't like x it is just because you haven't had a good one" or "You only like y because you haven't tried x yet"

People have different preferences, and it is not always simply because of lack of experience or knowledge... people like different things.

Fair enough. Age and life situation is also a major element in the consideration. Traveling as a child is different from traveling as a parent of small-ish children, and those are different from traveling solo or otherwise without children.

I think you misunderstand paternalism. It has nothing to do with men v. women: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paternalism

I don't see the paternalism in your previous statement either tho.

Ahh thank you. I thought paternal was just related to fatherly, from Latin. I did not realize it had a broader meaning.

People also go through stages or phases. Some day you may be surprised at how you've changed. Or not.

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