The Model 3 is the first appliance car I've owned. But I went into this eyes wide open; it was the right decision at the time and it's still the right decision. The R I basically stopped driving when I got a new job where I biked to work for a year. The Model 3 was a replacement for my wife's 175k mile Subaru, and we bought it immediately after my company was acquired and we started carpooling together. The 3 is a better commuter/appliance more suited to 2 drivers who trade off, cheaper to run, gives us HOV lane access on the rare occasion where one of us drives solo, and my wife hadn't driven stick since she lived in Australia many years ago so she didn't really show interest in driving the R.
The R was my (other) fun car, with all the euro goodies on it. It was fantastic everyday runabout, fun car, roadtrip machine that could eat miles like nobody's business. The 3 is, again, an appliance. I don't really like sedans, but I wanted an EV, and I like Teslas, but could never justify spending the coin for an S.
Given infinite money and space, I'd still have the R, too. Though I'd probably never drive it, because it's so easy and convenient to just hop in the Tesla and go, any time, anywhere. It never has to warm up, it never needs me to stop at the gas station before I run my errands, hell, I don't even need a key.
Also, the A/S 3+ is an obvious compromise for people that don't want to rotate their tires seasonally. If you're going to recommend tires for performance, the PS4S is a good choice and then get a separate set of tires for winter. In other words if you think the tires make a difference like you wrote, you're selling yourself short driving on all season tires. Do yourself a favor and buy a set of summer tires if you're serious about how your car performs.