Yes, I got sexual attention, but only in a social context, and nothing inappropriate. I've also gotten "Let's be friends!" attention from people, including other women. In other words, we are there to meet people who share our interests, on a social as well as professional level.
FWIW some people would consider that unwelcoming/harassing--I think the term is "othering". i.e. what's treated as important is not the person or their skill but their gender.
And, yes, it can be annoying for guy in a "traditionally female" domain as well.
Have you considered treating people as people?
See someone (whatever the gender) at a tech conference? Talk to them about tech. Simple.
>And, yes, it can be annoying for guy in a "traditionally female" domain as well.
I think I'd prefer to have people pay attention to me for a particular characteristic if that meant that you could then demonstrate you're more than just that characteristic once interacting.
I'm dad to an 18month old. We use a sling rather than a buggy. No one ever holds a door for me or steps aside, stepping into the road with a baby because jerks won't let you past on the pavement ... anyway, I'm coming to a point here somewhere ... I've been to a few meetings where I'm the only man and I just get ignored. I find group social situations pretty hard anyway but I only get included if I break the ice and usually the only interaction I get is scowls for playing with their kids.
I think I'm ranting, hang on, yup ranting, I'll just sit over here.
OT, are you aware of the HN parents google group?
Maybe I'm not as handsome as your fella.
Thanks for the info.
I think sometimes in an attempt to be enthusiastic about women attending events, it can go a bit too far. Tokenism and othering as, in the long term, just as damaging to gender relations.