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Are you holding back something that seems too obvious to share?

Well, yes and no. My problem is that other people find it so "amazing" it moves it into "incredulous"/incredible...ie "I don't believe you and think you are lying" territory. :-/ Still working on figuring out how to talk about my ideas without going down in flames, being called names, yadda yadda. Phooey.

(And, yes, I still think some of it is terribly obvious and is based in part on things that are "common knowledge", so I remain somewhat baffled by the strong reactions.)




I think the convention is that it's "ok" to be amazed by material goods and observable feats, but it's not "ok" to be amazed by lifestyles, philosophies and moral codes, or speculative experiments.

A: "How did you make so much money, B?"

B: "I got up early every day, worked hard, kept learning and stuck to my principles."

A: "But there must be some kind of trick. How did you _really_ do it, B?"

Ego also comes into play, since people lacking self-respect will see themselves as a static entity seeking outside validation, not a work-in-progress that grows through achievement. Suggesting otherwise attacks their blind spot, and they'll tend to react to it as a threat.


It seems to me my biggest issue is with individuals who are doing substantially better than expected and have been amazing other people for some time but whose achievements fall far short of mine. These individuals are typically defacto social gatekeepers. It is a catch-22 because offending them alienates a large number of people but kowtowing to them in order to stay on their good side would involve agreeing with them at times when I really don't.


Hah. They have enemies. Find them and explain.

If you're talking about Bill Gates, sell to Larry Ellison "Here's how I'm going to put a thumb in his eye." Or at a more accessible level, tell the same thing to Calcanis as regards Arrington.


Nice idea but I don't think it applies in this situation.



In those cases you have to build it first. (Although that's still no guarantee, since some things have to be believed to be seen.)


My son and I have basically gotten well when the world says it cannot be done. I think that should be "proof" enough. Apparently not. Still trying to figure out what more there is to build to prove something to others and whether or not I have the skills (or interest, after so much bashing) to do that piece of it.




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