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I believe this story. If you were on a business trip and went to the bar at the Waldorf Astoria, then you would be around escorts. The bartenders would completely know you are not an escort because they haven't seen you before. Men may approach you, but looking for conversation and would quickly know you were a business traveller. Most men aren't looking for escorts at all, but ones that are, don't make it obvious.

Bottom line is there is a decent amount of high end prostitution around high end hotels near midtown during the weekdays.

It is nearly invisible which is why she didn't notice it for years. Now that I have told you, you will probably start to see the pay-for-play scene. It isn't huge, but it exists in the business traveller world.

It sucks that she got mixed in with it. That being said, it is a small number of women and men in that scene, it has a flavor of consent, and I personally think other harassment issues are a much broader problem to worry about.

As a guy, the pay-for-play scene is often super annoying. Get approached, have an hour conversation, then get asked for money. Just feels irritating to have a conversation that was financially motivated. The bars then start policing it... like not allowing the girls to approach men, e.g. making them sit at tables.

I know a bit too much about this scene because I have a policy against any shaming of sex workers. Thus after rejecting their pay-for-play offer, I often end up in a conversation about their lives and work. I make it clear that I don't look down on them.

I suppose the possible thing missing from the story is that she is a healthy adultly woman that enjoyed having sex and went home with interesting and attractive men from the bar. Normal thing to do, especially if you don't have time for a relationship because you are splitting continents. The bar could have misread the situation.




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