Hyperbole and a Half was one of the funniest things on the internet. I keep hoping the author will come back one day.
I hope she's alright and having a good life off the internet.
It's really, everyone else not knowing what to do with you that causes so many problems. If we viewed it as ok that a few % of the population will want to drop out of playing along and simply do their own thing without harming anyone, we'd be in a much better place.
This part rang alarm bells for me. Not going to play armchair psychologist with this guy, but for anyone else who views emotions as "obstacles"/unnecessary and is depressed, that's probably why. You need to learn to regularly express your feelings in a healthy way, even the unpleasant ones.
I completely disagree. She was very clearly stating that that is not the proper lens to look at life through, but it was a byproduct of her depression that lead to that conclusion, as a means to combat the strong pull of her emotional states.
I recommend reading "Part 1" of this strip: http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2011/10/adventures-in-...
What you're saying is correct, that we need to learn how to regularly express feelings in a healthy way, no matter what they are. But to state that this was the cause of her depression was HUGE reach and really downplays and patronizes the reality of depression in so many people's lives.
He's a she.
> You need to learn to regularly express your feelings in a healthy way, even the unpleasant ones.
This is a bit simplistic. There's more to the effects of depression lending to the inability -- or lack of desire -- to express one's feelings. Expressing feelings as a part of a healthy way of life isn't lost on folks with depression, it's just that the depression makes it so easy to avoid what is seemingly an undesirable situation. Things that don't make sense to an otherwise healthy mind make a lot of sense when you've got depression (or some other mental malady).
1. When Alice was 7 years old, she scraped her knee and started to cry. Her mom ran over and comforted her and then they went and got her a bandaid.
2. When Mark was 7 years old, he scraped his knee and started to cry. His dad yelled at him to stop being such a pussy and shut the hell up. He couldn't stop crying so his dad hit him.
It is pretty clear who is going to try to not cry going forward. You don't need to repeat what happened to Mark many times for him to learn that expressing how he feels in that scenario is not a good idea. Keep this pattern going long enough and you get an adult who is probably going to view emotions as a burden. As to whether expressing emotions is a good thing or a bad thing, it entirely depends on who you are expressing them to.
According to modern psychological studies, which, between p value abuse, replicability crisis, publish or perish, and politics, should be suspect. It wouldn't surprise me if supressing certain emotions, for certain people, in various contexts, might be ideal.
Stoicism is the only answer I have found. Be aware of, express, but be in control.
It takes time to unlearn that, and to allow ourselves to be vulnerable.
Close friends, siblings, or parents are often a good source of support.
Thank you so much for posting this here. It made my day.