As for distribution, again, this isn't necessarily exclusive, but the right primatives are there and work well to start with. You could have good reasons for a bigger separation between nodes as well.
Erlang has some warts too, of course. For me, the warts are usually about scale, oddly enough. BEAM itself scales very well, but some parts of the OTP don't, often because of the difference in expectations between a telcom environment and a large scale internet service. Two examples:
A) the (OTP) tls session cache is serviced by a single process and in earlier versions, the schema and queries were poorly designed so you could store multiple entries for a single destination, and the query would retrieve all and then discard all but the first. When you were making many connections to a host that issued sessions but didn't resume them, all of the extra data could overwhelm that one process, and resulting in timeouts attempting to connect to any tls host. This was fixed in a release after r18, I believe, to store only one session per cache key, and the cache was plugable before then, but it wasn't fun to find this out in production.
B) reloading /etc/hosts and querying the table it loads into weren't done in an atomic way. I believe this is fixed in upstream as well, but queries satisfied by /etc/hosts were actually two queries on the same table, and reloading the table was done by clearing and then loading, so the second query could fail unexpectedly. This led to the bundled http client getting stuck, despite timeouts.