The problem with this mentality is it gives all the power to the offended party. An accusation of offense is all it takes. You can't tell someone how to feel, so if they say they're offended, they're always right. The offending party is always in the wrong, no matter what they actually said. In Vagg's case, they cited an apology as offensive.
Is it ever the case that the offended party should simply grow thicker skin?
1. https://twitter.com/CoralineAda/status/874642259672801280 '“Meritocracy” is just thinly veiled misogyny and white supremacy propping up fragile cis het white men’s egos.'
'“Reverse racism” is such a weird phrase for “justice”.'
3. https://twitter.com/CoralineAda/status/823064825366360065 "Why didn’t anyone punch the reporter giving the nazi air time?"
> Be conservative in what you send, be liberal in what you accept.
The social version is:
> Try hard not to offend people; and try harder to not be offended.