Also, as I said elsewhere in this thread, what a woman might say in theory or outside of planning mode is often quite different to how they'll act once things get real.
(Recently married for the second time, FWIW.)
Which is probably why so many marriages end in divorce. If she's not mature enough to know the real purpose of a wedding and thinks it's about having her day to show off to her friends, then she's just not mature enough and she's selfish.
Catch her the second or third time around and see if she hasn't smartened up a bit and if the man's point of view doesn't carry more weight now.
> Recently married for the second time, FWIW.
Good luck with that!