It made me think that maybe my life is just full of too many complications.
You live without a crap load of clothes that need to be washed. You have maids to clean your room. The kitchen staff washes the dishes
Huh? I think you're confused here. Washing clothes, cleaning your room, washing the dishes, and fixing leaks is work. Vacation is exactly having less work.
To me at least, vacation clearly is "lack of work" :)
I mean, if that's what you get out of your vacation... And you compared the cost of a vacation to the cost of a home concierge service, and found the home concierge to be cheaper - wouldn't you just go with the concierge service?
> see a new place in the world
These two don't go well together.
Will the projects not need doing if you go away? Is the flight/resort cheaper than the activities you'd do at home? Can you not eat/drink/sleep when you want when you're home?
With an all inclusive resort the questions "do I really need this?" or "maybe I should be doing something else" don't come up.
No, but I won't be able to do them, because I'll be gone. I therefore won't feel like I should be working on them, because it won't be possible to work on them.
But you may ask, won't I feel that I should be home working on them, instead of away on vacation? The answer is no, at least for me. I may be somewhat obsessive about the projects (or at least about feeling guilty for not working on them), but I'm not that obsessive. When I leave, I don't feel like I should be home so that I can work on them.
There is no deadline, no next place to be, one activity at a time that feels good. Sometimes you crave adventure, sometimes just do nothing and sleep, read a book, cuddle, have sex, etc.
The world has a lot to offer than just your home.
I’m actually taking a staycation later this month and that’s my plan.
Being able to get way out of your rut, being somewhere new, with no routines, habits, or subconscious triggers can really be a big breath of fresh air.
a. don't have kids
b. don't have relatives and friends nearby
c. don't upkeep their own house or living quarters (has a maid/servent/relative living with them that does everything)
The thought of staying home for my vacation, at least for me, is met with feelings of intense drudgery. There is nothing relaxing to me about the suburban/urban rat race I live in.
A couple of years ago, I took a flight to Jamaica and stayed at a Butler Resort. I literally sat on turquoise water, white sand beaches all day and had rum drinks brought to me on a silver platter. It was all inclusive, including the spa. If it doesn't make sense to you, you aren't going to the right places. If cost is an issue, I wouldn't have been planning a trip to begin with.
Almost as if becoming a parent is very difficult and gives you enlightenment that can be found in no other way.
I'm being a little facetious here, but i'm just saying that everyones life situation is different. As a relatively new parent, In that situation, I can see it being incredibly hard to simply 'relax' at home. More than anything you'll finally have time to notice the liquified pees that has hardened on the ceiling than actually relax. When i was in my 20s every vacation was 2 weeks of Hostels and hikes, but we are all in different life situations and that doens't make one persons opinion of a 'vacation' more correct than anothers.
Why is parenting, something that gets lots of external support and understanding, the special one here, and not any of these other things? Depressed people don't get a "my life is so hard" horse to sit on continually, often quite the opposite, they have to work hard to hide it.
There's no evidence that parents are special people, none whatsoever, they are best described as people in a tough situation, but there are quite a few different ways to be in a tough situation, and tough situations do not always make people better.
Imagine this, and on the top of it being a parent of 3 young children. Unless parents are immune to these conditions.
But only one of these problems (parenthood) has a special social status.
You got it!
Now, the "talking down to" is annoying. But if it's about non-parents telling parents about how easy life should be, and parents replying along the lines of "fool, no." it's absolutely warranted.
Now I don’t talk down to non-parents, because they made that choice or had the choice made for them (temporarily or permanently).
It’s crazy stressful but at the same time so joyous.
7 billion people have been born in last 100 years. Raising kids isn’t abnormal.
Have you considered that someone might choose not to have children because they understand how difficult it is?
They could witness a close friend or sibling struggling to raise children.
They could simply reason about the commitment of time and money required and take note of all the other things in life that parenthood would require them to give up.
Yet this argument seems to come exclusively from parents, assigning parenthood a special status, which makes no sense, since parenting is extremely commom.
Please do give me advice about other things that you know about and have experience with when I need it.
Here is one example: if your kid tries to sabotage you into buying drugs (sweets) in the middle of the supermarket by throwing a tantrum you don't cave. It's simple and obvious yet so many "just don't give me advice" parents are unable to process and apply it rationalizing why they are in very special situation and no one else could possibly understand. They go and buy more drugs to their already overweight sugar addicted children just to get some temporary relief contributing to child's demise in the process.
> don't upkeep their own house or living quarters
I have done a staycation (and enjoyed it) and yes I keep my own house. I cooked the things I want to cook but don't normally have time/drive to do so, I did the things that I normally have to ration my time on (playing games/guitar, reading, outdoor walks). It was quite pleasant.
> If it doesn't make sense to you, you aren't going to the right places.
I completely disagree. I did a long weekend in an all inclusive resort similar to what you described on Antigua. I'll never do one again. (At least not with just two of us, maybe if I had children it would be different). I had no access to the things I love (you have to ration books, not bringing a guitar across the Atlantic). I found the whole "make friends with the people you're tipping to bring you drinks/food" thing very strange.
I would much rather stay with some people (recently usually AirBnbs in a room in the hosts homes), get some recommendations of places to eat/drink/see that they like to go to, and explore with my best friend/partner.
> If cost is an issue, I wouldn't have been planning a trip to begin with.
Cost isn't a binary thing. There are otions between spending a week in your house doing laundry and staying in an 800 dollar a night all inclusive hotel and 2000 dollars on flights. I can't afford to spend 10 nights in an all inclusive resort of that caliber while flying to the other side of the world in business class - does that mean I can't have an abroad trip?
I did a 4 day trip to Palma in Majorca last September. It was stunningly beautiful, the food was incredible and it was a wonderful trip. We spent 300 pounds on flights, about 50 pounds on transport (taxis/airport buses) while we were there, and maybe about 500 pounds while we were there. It was indulgent, and the entire trip was cheaper than 2 nights in an all inclusive resort. I know which I would do again.
On your last point, I have mostly been to classic resort destinations as part of boondoggle work trips. I actually find them excruciatingly boring. I'd rather have a "staycation" than go to those on my own volition.
But, I do appreciate a good vacation. For me, that's a retreat to the mountains for hiking, snowshoeing, or skiing. I like to get out of the sensorium of my coastal CA home and enter that of high alpine forests, peaks, and valleys. I don't travel/live to eat and sleep though. I eat and sleep to travel/live.
I also don't need to keep going to different places to sustain some novelty factor. I can thoroughly enjoy seeing the same forests and mountains in different seasons, years, and decades. The forest changes over these timescales and so does the visitor. Each encounter is unique.
Not everyone makes $100k+ a year and can save for a vacation away from home.
Also even though I can afford it, it rarely seems like the best use of the money.
I mainly travel because I have to visit my family (I live abroad) or my SO wants to visit somewhere.
b. invite your friends
c. hire a helping hand for your vacation. That's still cheaper than going on a regular vacation
2) I love to meet them at a coffee or play boardgames and it is relaxing
3) I finish all house work in less than an hour and don't have servants.
1. Make enough money to never cook
2. Never cook
3. Live in a tiny Bay Area apartment
4. Have no pets
5. Live alone
Cleanup definitely counts though.
Then go camping. Going to Jamaica and paying through the nose to be waited on by other people who also hate their rat race jobs isn't a sustainable solution to this problem.
Because MMM appeals to some tech workers, maybe this will help: https://www.mrmoneymustache.com/2017/09/20/seek-not-to-be-en...
Then I sold the house and moved into a tiny 1br apartment in Manhattan. I loved the change and enjoyed the energy of the city, sunny weekends in Central Park, etc. but... Within a year I started to crave for just being outside with a book/drink by myself, without the crowds and the noise. We booked one of those tropical vacations and I was surprised how nice it was.
My most-relaxing vacations are getting an Airbnb on a beach or a lake with friends. We don't leave the house, don't have an agenda, and get to enjoy novel sights, sounds and smells. The combination is so incredibly refreshing.
Sometimes for us, but especisllly for me, a vacation is not dealing with anyone except my wife. Often we just want to silently enjoy each others company, read on our iPads and eat and drink with abandon.
My friends (I'm 54) are probably older and more boring than yours, but like if I open Facebook right now there will be grandbaby pictures, look what I did in my shed this weekend, and politics. That's pretty much the formula year round for my timeline.
I strongly suspect that's a trend with younger people. I don't see my friends and coworkers experiencing the same type of satisfaction when posting something that I see younger users having.
Hell, I'm glad I'm not the type of old person that doesn't know how to use Facebook. Just that is really enough satisfaction for me.
It is great to take a couple story videos here and there though. I like looking at those months after.
I'm pretty sure half my friends wouldn't do the things they do
if they couldn't instagram it afterwards. Like going for a hike just to have your instagram content for the day.
I've found the former helps me physically and mentally recharge better than the latter, but the latter, while perhaps physically and mentally draining in some ways, is way more stimulating and enriching than the former.
In the end, it depends on what I really need. Now that I know enough about myself,I can make better use of that time. There doesn't need to be one "right" type of vacation, any different strokes for different folks and what not.
I too don't care to be pandered to in foreign resorts.
Can you share some specific things you do to push yourself and get outside of your comfort zone when you travel.
We've just been to the beach for a few days. I love spending time with my son & wife, but I really don't get "relaxed" by this, rather a feeling of fulfillment and contentness. It's no "charging my batteries" type of vacation that I've enjoyed before becoming a parent. What am I doing wrong?
We take the whole family to a four-generation, ~20 person in one large house lake vacation a week in the summer. With enough people, you get some downtime (and some doubled-up-upon time).
We really like the winter week away, but the summer vacation with the large family is more fun and differently semi-relaxing.
Things also get easier and more interesting as they become self-cleaning, self-loading, and self-entertaining (when they can read). Until age 5 and especially 3 and younger is intense. It lightens up some.
Your life as a parent needs to be only partially about your kids. You need to keep and nurture your adult relationship as well. It’s not ALL about the kids.
We also make it a point to split housework and give each other “time off” to do hobbies, go to the gym, go out with friends, play sports, etc while the other adult has the kids. Keep a shared Google calendar to coordinate things.
It’s a series of small things, integrated over a long time.
Unfortunately, I think most of this is far from real for most parents.
The greater point is to structure your life and relationship so as to have an escape valve that lets you keep your individual and adult couple identities/interests and not merely become 100% pure parent for a decade straight without break.
I have a 2 year 3 month old - she is the joy of my life and makes me want to live, do well, be a better person for her. Over the last couple of weeks she has started waiting for me to come back from work by waiting near the window. When I leave for work, she gives me a hug and then runs over to window to wave goodbye. I can say this with utmost certainty that no one has give me such an unconditional love like she does. I love her more than life itself, would not hesitate to go to extreme measures with a happy smile on my face. However every now and then I think of times before her and sometimes wish we (my wife and I) can be spontaneous - take a weekend trip to portland with zero preparations, or careless - sleep in until 10am and watch the office reruns, supercut of all godfather movies. You find more relaxing things to do though.
Here is a parenting trick:
Last year on our trip to Hawai'i, we had a room near pool, once our daughter was down for a nap, we'd walk out of the room (with do-not-disturb sign on door knob), with a baby monitor pointed directly at her crib, walk 20 feet to the pool bar, order drinks and hangout and watch her sleep on the monitor. I turned it into a game, order every beer that bar offered (not quantity, variety). That was the best vacation so far.
Looking forward to describing this to the Booking Agent:"We need a room, close to the bar & pool. And a kids bed please."
To be honest, I can't wait to get back to work after a vacation so I can finally find some relaxation time. Vacations with kids is exhausting. Going to work is like a true vacation after going on a vacation with kids.
If you want a relaxing vacation, you have to ditch the kids. On a regular basis (1-2 times a year) my wife and I have the grandparents take over kid duty while we get away for a few days. This does take some scheduling since our parents do not live in the same state we do.
In my own experience, when the kids got old enough that they didn't need to be watched 100% of the time, it got a lot more relaxing, maybe not down to the "silent cabin in Norway" level, but still pretty darn good.
Some circumstances have been more relaxing than others. For us, restaurants are a headache, and moving from place to place is stressful. So we choose a location in some less-expensive town and rent a cabin or apartment there for a week or two. That way, we can leave our stuff in one place, cook our own meals, etc.
A possible short-term idea is to "vacation" in a place that resembles your home well enough for your kids to be comfortable, but without all of your possessions and responsibilities getting in the way. An empty house with a big back yard. Now that's an idea.
If being with your partner is stressful, maybe find a way to carve out some days in the woods alone or with friends. It’s not impossible and definitely helps recharge.
Relaxation comes in small spurts, like getting your head above water, so suck in as much air as you can whenever it happens and live in the moment until the river sweeps you away again.
Beyond that seriously try meditation or yoga or whatever. You can slowly learn to "choose" to be relaxed here and there, but yea no more relaxing beach vacations for you! At least for a little while.
Thanks for starting this thread!
Worst descision ever. By day two we were miserable thinking about our little one, and every toddler we saw made us cringe.
My wife and I both travel regularly for work and fun, sometimes with our daughter, sometimes just the two of us, sometimes on our own. Anything longer than a few days does result in us missing her, but really, it’s fine and probably healthy.
This way you can visit if you need/want to, but can also focus on relaxing and recovering.
I think life is about experiences. I've worked in different roles, lived in different places, traveled around, because that's what I enjoy. By moving around and seeing different walks of life, you learn to empathize and understand others. You come back to work with a different perspective.
In fact, I view stress itself as a perspective problem. I will be more relaxed on my vacation (even though I'm traveling with my 6 month old son) because I simply won't worry about the mundane. It's going to be good food, company, and sights. I see no reason it would be less stressful at home.
Now, I have also taken "staycations" - and I love them as well, often I get stuff done around the house, or just chill on my bed all day. It's a different flavor, but I don't find it any less stressful or more enjoyable. I think, in part, it's what ever you (and those around you) view as relaxing and vacations.
I'm going to hijack this quote to discuss an incredibly unpopular idea (among my generation, at least) that I've been kicking around lately. I encountered the exact idea in a book recently, so I'll just let the book explain it:
> Romanticism tells us that in order to make the most of our human potential we must have as many different experiences as we can. We must open ourselves to a wide spectrum of emotions; we must sample various kinds of relationships; we must try different cuisines; we must learn to appreciate different styles of music. One of the best ways to do all that is to break free from our daily routine, leave behind our familiar setting, and go travelling in distant lands, where we can 'experience' the culture, the smells, the tastes and the norms of other people. We hear again and again the romantic myths about 'how a new experience opened my eyes and changed my life'.
> Consumerism tells us that in order to be happy we must consume as many products and services as possible. If we feel that something is missing or not quite right, then we probably need to buy a product (a car, new clothes, organic food) or a service (housekeeping, relationship therapy, yoga classes). Every television commercial is another little legend about how consuming some product or service will make life better.
> Romanticism, which encourages variety, meshes perfectly with consumerism. Their marriage has given birth to the infinite 'market of experiences', on which the modern tourism industry is founded. The tourism industry does not sell flight tickets and hotel bedrooms. It sells experiences. Paris is not a city, nor India a country --- they are both experiences, the consumption of which is supposed to widen our horizons, fulfill our human potential, and make us happier...
--- Sapiens by Yuval Noah Harari, p. 115-6
I looked at my Mom's generation and was majorly put off by their general obsession with material possessions. Fight Club profoundly moved me when I first saw it, partly for this reason. So I told myself that I'd spend my money on experiences. Only recently, after having the good fortune to be able to travel around the world a bit, have I come to the different opinion that it's still consumerism. Instagram culture made this very clear. Even my love of reading is a form of consumerism.
It was a bit of a shock to see that passage in Sapiens, because for all of my supposed individualism, I realized that this is probably a widespread trend among my generation (I was born late 80s) and that I wasn't as unique, contrarian, and individualistic as I had imagined myself to be.
I'm still a rebel without a cause, so now I'm focusing my efforts on creating. Painting. Writing. Starting a business. Programming stuff, with the sole purpose of fun and expression. Creating feels like more of a qualitative shift away from consumerism. Don't really have a name for it, though. Creatorism? Creationism...? ;) But who knows, 5 years from now maybe I'll realize that my creationist phase was as much of a herd mindset as my romantic consumerist phase.
Over the years, multiple people have wondered out loud to me why I don't "travel the world". I rented an apartment from someone recently, and this was one of the first things out of his mouth -- as if it were a given that anyone with the means should do it.
I've always confused by this sentiment. Sometimes I pick up the implication that they think I'm incurious.
I think it boils down to the fact that I care about ideas (and realizing ideas) more than experiences. I listen to (and play) plenty of music, eat all types of food, and I might even know a slightly more diverse set of people than most, but I don't particularly feel a need to travel to do these things.
I had a similar conversation with someone here on HN a year or two ago. I'm not sure if I'll be able to find it, but the idea was that "the only authentic mode of travel is work". There was actually a book that espoused this idea as far as I remember.
There was an implicit criticism of those who spend a lot of money to go sightseeing and "get experiences". "Experiencing" is not the same of participating.
I think this is what your quote means by "romanticism" (although I question the use of that word, since it has so many other meanings.)
(BTW I'm in the queue for Sapiens at the library, so thanks for renewing my interest :) )
I also carpooled with a stranger up the west coast (one of the few times I travelled). I told him about this idea -- that the only authentic mode of travel is work. He travelled the world to shoot documentaries and happened to agree with me (naturally). A lot of his friends seemed to be into Burning Man and he questioned the value of spending so much money for experiences that are divorced from the world.
I don't necessarily endorse his viewpoint, but I think it's a perspective that might spark an interesting conversation.
Anyway, I think you're right that there's a form of "experiencism" in modern culture that is akin to consumerism. I didn't directly connect the two before!
I don't think there is anything wrong with acquiring possessions, or acquiring experiences... but there does seem to be clique-ishness involved. In my experience, as yours, people who value experiences do tend to look down on consumerism.
EDIT: I found the comment, a good re-read :)
In "The Rebel Sell," another one of those books that I continue to think about and reference many years later, the authors make the provoking claim that, contrary to the self-images of most tourists, backpackers, and lovers of foreign culture, the only authentic way to travel is on business trips. With a tangible reason to go abroad, a plausible desire for mutual exchange, instead of the usual leering and viewing and aimless wandering, the business traveller is authentically engaged and directed by a real project.
This is a serious misreading of the message of Fight Club. The point isn’t that an interest in possessions is bad– it’s that extremist views are bad. The idea is that living in a hovel with a lunatic terrorist should (hopefully) be more abhorrent than flipping through the ikea catalog in a condo.
This is profoundly disrespectful to me. Please do not speak to me as though you're the keeper of The One Correct Interpretation of Fight Club. It's absurd to me that you'd try to speak authoritatively on something as subjective as how I interpreted a story. Your interpretation to me, likewise, seems far away from (what I think are) the main themes of the story, but I'd never label your view as a "misreading."
It's not like I'm coming out of left-field with my interpretation, either. The main character says "the things you own end up owning you." A good chunk of the movie depicts a man who seems to be genuinely happier, freer, and more alive because of his radical rejection of material possessions. E.g. not caring about his condo enables him to stop working a job he hates, and so on. Yes, he ends up being an ethically-ambiguous extremist, but to me that doesn't invalidate the freedom and happiness that he seemed to achieve along the way by renouncing material possessions. Renouncing material possessions does not inevitably lead to becoming a terrorist, either. There's a lot of precedent in Buddhist thought  that material possessions keep a person suffering in this world, and only through freeing oneself from attachment to material possessions can that person achieve enlightenment.
P.S. I'm talking about the movie, not the book. I've read the book, but this is one of the rare instances in my opinion where the movie was better than the book.
This man is a terrorist and is responsible for the death of Robert Paulson, and (possibly) many other people in the explosions at the end.
Most Buddhists AFAIK do not supplement their Buddhism with terrorism.
Sorry if I came off harsh or aggressive in my other reply. I just got heated. I'm going to stop here, because in my opinion your perspective is too black-and-white for us to have any constructive conversation.
People do violence, even Buddhist people. Most people are profoundly ignorant of the religion they claim to follow.
FYI, Buddhism is associated with significant political and ethnic violence in Sri Lanka, Myanmar, Thailand, etc.
> Most Christians AFAIK do not supplement their Christianity with terrorism.
Will you link me to the wikipedia on the KKK? There's a difference between some and most.
After 9/11 I found the foreshadowing of the end of the movie to be disturbing and wondered if it inspired anyone. I can't remember when I watched it (not in the theater so it might have been afterwards).
Edit: I saw the movie and did not read the book, for clarification.
Any vacation with constant switching of locations is not about relaxing. It's about something else, and that might be what you want.
Industrial scale resorts do strike me as a bit bizarre, but they are an industry fed by marketing and advertising. As you say, there are also the "bucket list" things people would like to see/do that end up as vacations, because that's the only time you could do them.
These adventures may also help you relax when you return, because you have memories and stories to tell (or pictures to brag?)... because if you remember the perspective of your vacation, you may be able to relax a bit even when you're back working.
Your typo made me smile as that situation could be just as effective at making it hard to work from home.
Going somewhere serene and quiet, and staying put there is my first choice. But finding and getting to and from these places, especially during school holidays, takes some effort and planning. Last summer we drove for 8 hours to a camp spot (not unusual for families to do here in Australia).
Book a hotel room, drive 60-90 minutes and you’re winding up, essentially, in fairly different worlds, with just as much or nearly as much to explore. It’s a great way to have the ‘destination’ component of a vacation without all the logistics and headaches involved in vacation travel.
When my kid was younger, we used to take the train down to San Diego for a week, or spend the week at a beach hotel in Santa Monica.
That said, travel abroad and to the east coast is really an essential complement to those pleasures. It's good to keep perspective.
The point of visiting a foreign place is not to escape your home and yourself, but to learn more about yourself, the world and your place in it. There are ways to decry escapism without suggesting people close themselves off to new places and new experiences.
Right now they are all gung-ho on `experiences` (hello Airbnb influence) and `transformation` tourism spiced up with personal development lingo.
My colleagues label me the oddball when I tell them I'd rather spend my free time around my house and interacting with the community I live in rather than spend money on some trips and hotel rooms across Europe.
Cynical part of me says that most would be empty tourist trap type things. The concept of paying for a completely set up, planned, 'experience' seems to sort of cancel out what an experience is and what is special and enjoyable about it.
On the other hand, tours have existed forever, unique place-specific activities have existed forever, and I enjoy those when I do them. These things might be no different except done by 'regular people' instead of companies, and maybe a bit more diverse and creative, which in a way might actually really be more genuine and enjoyable.
1. Your normal style of travel is to see and do everything, and not stay in one place longer than a few days, versus parking yourself at a beach/campsite/resort/etc and reading books for week.
2. You live somewhere relaxing, not a big noisy bustling city (or perhaps if you are particularly mindful). Even then, sometimes it's nice to get away from your usual scenery.
When you've got 2 weeks of vacation a year it's easy to feel obligated to see all the things. If you have the opportunity to do some long term traveling I highly recommend it. It's a very different experience to absorb culture by osmosis vs force-feeding it to yourself.
There was a need then for taking people's money off them to take them somewhere for this mandatory holiday fun. This provided quite a bonus to the railways and associated industries. Seaside towns in the UK are still littered with the leftover hotels and amusements that got borne into being before the airplane came along. Planes took the holidaymakers away to cheaper parts of the world where the strong pound meant that Spanish and Greek folk could wait on average Brits, accepting wages that nobody would work for in the UK. A lot of such tourism was living for cheap and having other people do the chores for you, not exactly the pinnacle of adventure.
So ingrained is the notion of holiday that it really is mandatory. To stay at home and enjoy the home you have been working fifty weeks of the year to secure is anathema, total crazy talk that would mark you out as eccentric. Just because some trade union people fought for the right for paid holidays in eighty years ago is forgotten and not known by the working man, yet just because of this legislation the act of going on holiday is deemed mandatory. It is a win for capitalism and it means nobody is truly getting off the hamster wheel and enjoying the art of doing nothing. Even in this article - albeit American - there is still a lot of emphasis on doing inane stuff, loitering around local shops, putting effort into doing holiday things but in your back yard. We still seem afraid of an open ended commitment to unstructured self development, taking time out to do nothing. Times of nothingness are great for original thinking, creativity and learning, maybe some people just can't do it.
Nothing is scarier than some time alone with your thoughts. You may even feel something...
We don't need to be still to relax. Just like exercising the right amount can actually boost your energy, simulating your brain in the right amount can help provide a break from your work.
For most people, exiting a new place on a leisurely schedule can be just the right amount of simulation to feel relaxing.
Actual traveling is mostly just an excuse to distract oneself from exploring one's own inner unknown territory.
I never gained anything by visiting a new place b/c at the end of the day everything is pretty much the same. Of course it is exciting and I also totally enjoy it - but real growth is not dependent on that at all.
I've done the Scottish Highlands, Malaga and southern Germany (3 times) like this, and it's been amazing every time.
We don't have a bucket list, no pressure to "do" anything, etc.
Relaxing vacation for me is to go to a remote place away from your own town, get a cabin and totally unwind. I never understood staycations especially hotel-staycations.
The point of hotel or airbnb is same town is to have staycation but avoid seeing the stuff that requires chores in your home environment.
As others have said, if you want to relax, it makes sense to start close to home. If you want to scratch that ancestral itch to explore then go travel.
I think distinguishing between statistical and absolute statements is important. It’s common for people to point to exceptions or outliers as a demonstration that a given statement is false, when the statement in question is statistical in nature, rather than an absolute.
It often leads to misrepresentation and people talking past each other. For instance, it plays a pretty strong role in ongoing disagreements about gender roles, gender identity, etc.
But the most interesting one is not.