Miserly is highly correlated with controlling. I appreciate your ability to consider your friend's point of view but you may at some point in the future decide that they are just an incredible asshole.
These two sentences don’t seem connected or related. Are you trying to say that all miserly people are controlling? Or that as a general rule you choose to stay away from miserly people because there is a greater chance they are controlling?
My whole comment was about how outwardly miserly behavior can still manifest from someone who really is a good, interesting, worthwhile person. So I don’t understand your “asshole” comment. That seems like you’re jumping straight for the nuclear option instead of allowing the possibility that among the population of generally good people, some are nice and warm, some are crabby and prefer to skip social pleasantries or otherwise come off as cold.
Maybe if you unpack the connection between your first sentence and your conclusion more it would help me understand.
