| ||Ask HN: Poor dating options for heterosexual men in the Bay area?|
20 points by MlEngineer on March 25, 2018 | hide | past | favorite | 40 comments |
|I am a male engineer who spent most of his early twenties working for startups in the Bay area. It's been a terrific experience in general, except for one issue: dating.|
South Bay gender ratio is heavily skewed towards men. It was virtually impossible to meet single young women anywhere near Mountain View. After several fruitless months I started looking all the way up in San Francisco, and when I finally scored a first date there, the lady told me she's been out with five different men over the past 10 days, two of whom were millionaire startup entrepreneurs.
As the years went by, the dating scene seemed to only get worse, until it ended up being a major factor in my decision to leave the area. I relocated to the East Coast, which was a step down from the technological epicenter of Silicon Valley, but a huge step up dating-wise. I got a lot of dates with attractive young women who seemed genuinely happy to date me.
Fast-forward five years. An old co-worker recently reached out about a senior engineering role at a new startup he co-founded. I flew in to meet the rest of the team and they're all incredibly talented. The issued a formal offer and it looks like an amazing opportunity. However, I am very concerned about getting back to the dating scene there. It seemed to have only gotten worse, with San Francisco undergoing a huge influx of mostly male techies, and equally large outflow of everyone else.
What are your thoughts about this situation? Are you dealing with a similar lack of options? If so, any insights or advice?
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