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The problem with the Code of Conduct (shiromarieke.github.io)
95 points by kragniz 10 months ago | hide | past | web | favorite | 79 comments

I feel excluded by CoCs. Not because they prohibit behavior which I otherwise relish to engage in on a daily basis, more because of fear of coming under some behavioral rule enforcing institution within a community because some behavior could be interpreted as violating the rules when seen under a bad light.

This is mostly a gut reaction, a feeling that CoCs serve more to tighten the overton window and fear that I might find myself on the wrong side of sharp demarcation which should be more of a soft gradient. It's like a wanted poster, being declared a thought criminal.

Of course many things in a CoC are individually sensible rules, but as a larger set they feel like a demand for a flawless human who is always genuinely nice, polite and only makes perfectly inoffensive jokes and never raises their voice while arguing things etc. I'm quite aware that I am not that perfect human, I have issues with empathy and following what was considered group consensus (it has cost me friends and a job before). Those CoCs just feel a bit like a "only people with A-grade social skills welcome here" sign to me.

I sometimes get this anxiety too. And then I remember that if I were black, or a woman, or etc. etc. etc. I'd maybe have a similar anxiety as a baseline:

« a demand for a flawless human who is always genuinely nice, polite and only makes perfectly inoffensive jokes and never raises their voice while arguing things »

Yeah, that sounds similar to the frustrations I've heard from women and people of color, being held to a higher standard than their white or male colleagues.

I'm societally allowed to be rude, even threatening! And I'm rarely called on it. But that's not actually a good thing.

So I think it's totally fair to have a CoC that says "be nice to people" and has some teeth and makes white men a little nervous. "A little nervous" is kind of a baseline for a lot of people. Think of it as educational.

That sounds like a low equilibrium point.

It doesn't have to be permanent. I think that once white men have more of a taste of this nervousness, maybe we can fix some stuff that's deeply broken in our society. But I think it's necessary as a first step.

That’s wrong that you feel excluded, I wish you didn’t because that’s a hurtful thing. But the very concept of having any code of conduct is likely not the cause.

Even the exact same document will make people feel more or less comfortable depending on other factors like the culture of an org or the people you commonly run into.

But it is by design. A code of conduct is meant to exclude people based on their behaviour. Most of these alleged codes have no clear guidelines how to exercise them and so are either ignored or applied to the letter without the spirit.

Or the examples are strawmen. You can easily spot these by a nonspecific, generalized language or lawyering up.

Our rule set (not some CoC) provides concrete examples of acceptable and unacceptable behaviour. (Quotes and actual descriptions of things that actually happened.)

Disclaimer, I help run an organization that requires CoC's on all events.

I like this article but it doesn't go into the positives of a CoC. There are many problems but if you don't weigh them against the positive characteristics, you don't see the full picture.

My organization NumFOCUS, asks all conferences and projects working with us to adopt some CoC. Why do we do this? First it has been shown in our community to help encourage minority groups to participate. Second it outlines a real procedure if something does go wrong. Finally, it sets the expectation of professionalism early.

Our numbers on diversity have skyrocketed as we enforces CoCs. It's not just a bandaid, it's an invitation to people of all types that we, the organizers, will protect your right to be at our event. I don't think event organizers are in any position to think they can solve all the problems in tech but at least they can create an inviting space.

Without a CoC, the procedure on how to handle a harasser is very grey. What legal grounds does a person have to tell someone to leave an event? If it is any grounds then why for some and not others? Who makes these decisions? I've seen conferences not deal with up front and have to resort to the local law enforcement to intervene.

Which brings me to my last point, set expectations up front. It's like the big silver punch bowl at the new years party. We expect you to be an adult and treat everyone else like an adult. A CoC clearly lays out that your event is intended to be professional.

I don't think it is the end of all discussions, in fact only the beginning. Our staff put together more things to consider, https://github.com/numfocus/DISCOVER-Cookbook, but a CoC is the simplist.

>Disclaimer, I help run an organization that requires CoC's on all events.

>I like this article but it doesn't go into the positives of a CoC. There are many problems but if you don't weigh them against the positive characteristics, you don't see the full picture.

The author mentions this,

"People are trying to force organizations like CCC, or events I am involved with, at a smaller scale (I cannot talk for other events I don't know anything about), to adopt a CoC because they feel like it works for them, and therefore everyone should adopt a CoC regardless of the own culture of each community."

It seems you're doing exactly this and you've ignored large parts of the reasoning in the author's post.

Lots of these feel-good initiatives are actually dictated by very real concerns around legal liability. For example, many corporate diversity programs exist because they're trying to protect the company from the unfavorable EEOC decisions that are required before an employee can file a lawsuit alleging discrimination.

When people do things to prevent liability, they can't say they're doing them to prevent liability, or the liability effectively recurs. If such middling statments exist, it's much more likely that judges and juries would consider the action insincere, if not intentionally deceptive and evasive, and disregard it entirely, thus undoing the effect of the program/statement/rule in the first place and potentially inviting additional punishment for the supposed deception.

So why is it a good idea for venues to force events to have Codes of Conduct? Because if the venue gets caught up in a Donglegate-esque scandal, they can point to something and say, "We did everything we reasonably could to prevent such an outcome, we told our customers that they needed to warn attendees against such behavior, we acted according to the documented procedure, and we need to get dropped from the suit and/or not have bad press anymore".

Whereas, if they don't have such a policy, especially if other venues do, there's more ambiguity and it's much harder to make a decisive argument.

This is also a large reason why PR matters so much. Try all you want to find an unbiased jury or a judge totally unmoved by public opinion, couch it in pomp and circumstance until the cows come home, but like it or not, reputations and assumptions matter. You're much more likely to get a positive outcome with a positive reputation v. a neutral or negative one, and PR events frequently become legal props: "Of course we're non-discriminatory, see $LOCAL_NEWS for the story about how we're working so hard to recruit diverse talent!"

Just curious, why does stating that a particular training or policy is purely for liability purposes make it not valid?

It doesn't necessarily wholesale invalidate it, and it depends on the context. The danger is that if the claim is, for example, "they are making a hostile environment for $MINORITY", if statements exist that say "We are just doing this to avoid liability", those could easily be interpreted as indicators of insincerity and that the bias exists. Whereas, if they at least appear to be True Believers, it is harder to call that into question.

It also hurts from the PR angle, for basically the same reasons. News outlets don't want to be seen as tools of the machine spreading corporate FUD and saving BigCo from liability. They want to see themselves as noble soldiers on "the right side of history", and they want the public to see them that way too.

It's therefore much easier to get coverage, which will be useful for establishing your non-bias, if you don't tell everyone "we wouldn't be running this program and enforcing these 'everyone play nice now' codes if we didn't feel there was a meaningful legal risk involved in not doing so".

I'm sure lots of safety margins built into bridges are also respected due to liability concerns, but I don't mind the insincerity as long as the margin is actually there to protect me when needed.

You are free to feel different of course, both in the case of bridges and in the case of people.

This is a silly analogy. A piece of paper does not provide safety. Only when the codes are exercised (And well at that) they might be any good.

This is the same fallacy politicians always commit when they pass laws rather than regulations. Or when the regulations are then not observed and penalty is ineffective.

A technical margin of safety is different as it is built into the system and works all the time. A safeguard is different as it requires no action to work at all.

Rules require observance and agreement.

Hi, I’m not ignoring the article, I’m just commenting on it. No we don’t force a community to use a CoC but we don’t want to fund ones that don’t.

>I’m not ignoring the article

You didn't address any points made by the author. You made a generic comment that could apply to any post on codes of conduct, and that's specifically against Hacker News posting guidelines.

> I like this article but it doesn't go into the positives of a CoC > you don't see the full picture

While the comment doesn't directly address points by the author it does provide a valid and important perspective.

The irony here is art187 has illustrated CoCs not working while espousing their virtues. HN guidelines is a CoC, even though it isn't named that. It has all the hallmarks of a typical CoC.

Here, art187 has made a generic comment and, as you point out, posted a shallow dismissal of the author's work. Both in violation of hn guidelines.

The original post by art187 could have succinctly been stated as "I disagree" which basically adds nothing to the conversation.

No action has been taken after 17 hours. It's still the top rated comment.

The author's submission highlights what the author thinks is "The Problem": CoCs don't work.

It's fine to disagree with that, but it's helpful to point to examples of a CoC working rather than creating another example of them not working. At the very least, comments ought to discuss specific points. None of that happened here.

Contrast that with benign comments that moderators label as "personal attacks"


But when there are actual personal attacks made against people with the "wrong" opinions,




No actions are taken. The implications are clear. The CoC here is used as a stick to smack people with opinions that the moderators don't like. All more evidence in favor of the author's stated assertion that CoCs don't actually work.

Uhhh, it seems like you are making a baseless extrapolation, would you like to try again?

Please explain how the observation "it doesn't go into the positives of a CoC", is equivalent to "forcing an event to adopt a CoC".

>My organization NumFOCUS, asks all conferences and projects working with us to adopt some CoC.

I think it was likely this part.

Your post is so right I don’t understand how it’s not self evident. How could anyone be against the very concept of setting or codifying expectations?

What would Voltaire say after finding we’re still debating perfect shouldn’t be the enemy of good? An imperfect document can’t invalidate the entire concept.

A code of conduct is not a solution, it’s just another form of communications and standards that may do some good if you iterate on and refine it enough to be useful.

> Your post is so right I don’t understand how it’s not self evident. How could anyone be against the very concept of setting or codifying expectations?

The first is that they are often overly broad and police what people can say in entirely different contexts, the second is that they become weaponised so that people can only contribute if their entire political position doesn't offend somebody.

Neither are usually intended consequences, but the people putting CoC's in place don't tend to realize they are potential consequences at all.

> How could anyone be against the very concept of setting or codifying expectations?

“One of the great mistakes is to judge policies and programs by their intentions rather than their results.”

Yes, it sounds good on paper, but in my experience, a code of conduct is used as a veil of legitimacy on top of partisan decisions.

Even when a CoC exists, it is ignored or twisted to use as a justification for kicking someone out of a project based on their unconventional sex life (BDSM): https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=13935918

A frequently used code of conduct is explicitly used to invalidate others complaints. For example the Open Code of Conduct says: "We will not act on complaints regarding: ‘Reverse’ -isms, including ‘reverse racism,’ ‘reverse sexism,’ and ‘cisphobia’" I'm Asian and I hate that discrimination against Asians is still institutionalized behavior (https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=16497551) and codes of conduct seek to silence any complaints.

We have situations like Opalgate where someone not associated with a project, dug through a contributors old tweets to find one instance where he said something politically contentious about trans people to try to get him kicked off the project. A code of conduct would encourage more behavior like this: https://github.com/opal/opal/issues/941

In my own experience, I was participating in a computer science organization which had a code of conduct. A speaker went on stage and gave passionate speech about how Fascists are invading our city, and we need to resist and join Antifa.

I wrote an email to the organizer explaining how this goes against their code of conduct which states that they are to be inclusive to all people no matter their beliefs. I mentioned that the group the speaker was encouraging people to join would likely be engaging in violence against peaceful protesters. Of course it turned out as expected: https://twitter.com/shane_bauer/status/901910682030882816 https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2017/08/2...

But of course the organizer ignores behavior that breaks the code of conduct as long as it suits them.

Don't Hit On The Students!

But also (and this is my main issue with such points) CoC are a reaction to things that went bad, and an attempt to fix these issues.

I briefly talked for a time with a guy who knew I had life threatening respiratory problems and he tried to talk me into meeting him in person, while swearing my health and welfare were his highest priority and intentionally leaving out the fact that he was a smoker and a toker. When it finally came out in conversation, I had a cow and he pulled this nonsense about "If it is that important, you should have asked."

Um, no.

I was so upset by the whole thing, I briefly considered putting something in my profile on the forum where we met specifying "No smokers, no tokers." Then decided this is about as useful as putting up a dating profile that says "No rapists, no pedophiles."

He knew it was not acceptable. This is why he hid the information. Any BS justification for his behavior after the fact is just part of the headfuckery.

And, unfortunately, a lot of CoCs seem to be along those lines of explicitly forbidding behaviors that we already understand are bad, as if that will somehow stop people who already know what they are doing is not socially acceptable.

The areas where people are oblivious due to entrenched prejudice of some sort will not be fixed by spelling it out in some detailed list.

We are catering to the lowest common denominator by spelling out what is and is not acceptable. This isn't a means to foster a civil environment.

I’ve never seen Codes of Conduct as attempting to prevent (no more than any other lists of prohibited activity actually prevent such activities), but more to be an automatic defense for the organizers when they have to kick someone out for misbehaving.

Every restaurant I have ever been to seems to have a sign saying "We reserve the right to refuse service." They also sometimes say "No shirt, no shoes, no service." That's about it.

Somehow, they don't seem to typically have big problems with people behaving badly while having lunch or whatever.

With restaurants, you pay afterwards. With conferences, there is a lot of up front money. The situations are different.

Hotels will just keep the entire amount if you try to cancel at the last second after making a reservation.

There are plenty of situations where you just forfeit the cost. Too bad, so sad.

Merely adding one to your event seems like it can be illuminating enough! These things appear to be a red rag to a certain kind of bull...

With the limited context I have of your interaction.

> while swearing my health and welfare were his highest priority and intentionally leaving out the fact that he was a smoker and a toker.

Unless he is smoking or toking in your presence or in public , I don't see how that's your concern.

>We are catering to the lowest common denominator by spelling out what is and is not acceptable.

I think the bigger problem is people exporting their own sensitivities out to public under the garb of social norm and culling everyone who doesn't prescribe to it.

If it was that important, you should have mentioned it. It's not uncommon and not possible for him to have known otherwise.

I agree with your sentiment though even if I don't happen think smoking is socially unacceptable...and I'm not even a smoker.

My problem, for good or ill, with codes of conduct, is that they are written in the language of HR--which is to say, the defensive language of ass-covering--and thus I cannot trust them.

Sounds like this author feels similarly.

Agreed. The author has some sympathy for organisations which decide "we need to have a CoC to get X grant from body Y". And if that's the reason to have a CoC, of course it should be written in the appropriate HRy, ass-covering language, because that's what Y expects and is paying you for.

Of course no organisation of fewer than say a hundred thousand people can actually abide by all the provisions of a HR-worthy CoC. The problem is then with the organisations that instead of saying "we have this ass-covering CoC to keep the grant, but here are the actual things we will do to enforce acceptable behaviour" escape with "we've done our bit to prevent unacceptable behaviour -- look, you can read our code of conduct".

Recent sociopolitical debates on professional matters have a distinct corporate aura/tone, perhaps by way of most participants working at such corporations.

When those debates leave the world of corporate work and enter the world of voluntary (or ideally-voluntary - see the "you need open source contributions" advice to job seekers) efforts (e.g. open source) they still keep the corporate aura.

This was a better post than I was expecting. It's written from the heart, and from a non-dismissive standpoint. Worth reading the whole thing.

I really liked the example about accessibility. It's a great point—organizations should be honest with themselves about what they can actually offer.

I disagreed with some other parts, in particular the part about how a lot of orgs aren't actually prepared to handle harassment complaints professionally. While that's definitely something to work on, I think that's something that's going to be true for many orgs regardless of whether they have a CoC. Not welcoming people to come forward with complaints is... probably worse, right? Or am I missing something?

If someone feels they aren't capable of handling harassment issues, they're probably correct. Handing off the job to someone incapable does seem like an issue.

In general, telling an organization they need a process for something doesn't work out unless they genuinely buy into the idea. It tends to result in a bunch of process documents getting written, but no practical changes to how things are run.

Yeah, I think my big take-away from this document is: If you're going to have a CoC, you'd better be able to stand by what you say in it. Don't just copy-paste from someone else's and thereby unthinkingly overpromise.

One thing that's worrying about CoCs is that many of them seem political in nature and are used as excuses to abuse other members of the community who don't conform to certain opinions. Bryan Lunduke has chronicled a few examples of this occurring and causing destruction of otherwise healthy communities.


It seems like the point of the article is not sufficient to make a community feel welcoming and safe. Which is a great point: lots of shitty communities have a Code of Conduct that's ignored.

That doesn't mean a Code of Conduct is not a necessary step.

Teaching people to be good members of your community, and being proactive in removing bad members, isn't possible until you define what that means.

> Teaching people to be good members of your community, and being proactive in removing bad members, isn't possible until you define what that means.

Maybe you also have to realize that, just like human societies in general, no community is ever going to be perfect, and focusing too much on rules,rules,rules, can become counter-productive.

> That doesn't mean a Code of Conduct is not a necessary step.

I doubt that necessary is the correct choice of words here.

> That doesn't mean a Code of Conduct is not a necessary step.

It isn't.

> and being proactive in removing bad members, isn't possible until you define what that means.

What does it mean to be a bad member, unless you write a whole encyclopedia about your CoC it will always be open to interpretation - that's just a nature of social interactions (and if you do no one will ever read such a long document). It give's the opportunity for a CoC committee to thought police individuals that they disagree with. I just wish people that come up with this politicized BS were acting less cowardly and stopped being high on their own morale. I'm not saying that some community guidelines can't be useful, but CoC and committee systems are downright abhorrent.

Would a code of conduct for your life make you feel safer? Or would you rather just deal with people the same way you have up until now?

There can’t be effective learning if there aren’t clear and public post mortems on instances where the Code of Conduct was violated or wrongly invoked and what the correct action should have been. No one really does this. I was at a conference once where someone was arrested and taken away in handcuffs. To this day I have no clue what he could have done to realistically end up in that situation besides physical assault.

If somebody was arrested, it's obviously because they were believed to have committed a crime. There are many crimes available.

Codes of conduct are generally about behavior that isn't criminal, because once you've crossed that line the appropriate response should be obvious.

Maybe they didn't have a green card or something? Honestly, action by law enforcement is unlikely to be due to a Code of Conduct except as a trigger for violent behaviour.

I am faced with feeling pressured to add a CoC for one of my own projects in order to apply for funding. I am unsure what to put up. It seems like a massive task to me.

I quite like the CoC of the EMF camp as it seems to the point, un-ambigious and written in language I understand. I may try and adapt it for online interaction. What do others think?


Whatever you choose just make sure that the enforcement is consistent. That seems to be the key. People know when rules exist for the purpose of selective targeting. See this for what happens when CoCs are applied inconsistently https://www.reddit.com/r/node/comments/6whs2e/multiple_coc_v...

That's the biggest issue. I was following a certain community recently that had a fairly elaborate code of conduct with very precise language and somehow always managed to manipulate said language so that one of their members could virtually get away with murder, while other people would get moderated/banned/whatever for the slightest mistake.

As long as its impartial (to the extent humans can be impartial...), there's no real problem.

I was thinking of this same example.

In the end a CoC will be used to persecute unwanted characters, but wanted violators will not be affected.

In the end it becomes a monument to the organizations hypocrisy.

Whatever you choose just make sure that the enforcement is consistent.

That's the important part. How are you going to make sure that the CoC is applied when it comes to people of high status? With another Code of Conduct? You made me laugh.

"People will be mutually respectful. Those incapable of abiding by this expectation will be escorted off the premises. People who need a detailed explanation of the concept of mutual respect might want to just skip this event. We think it isn't that hard to understand and does not require pages and pages of explanation."

Are you quoting something or is this your own mini code of conduct?

I just made it up just now. Based on years and years of being human, fwiw.

I feel like that would just be avoiding the issue (burying my head in the sand, so to speak).

That Code of Conduct feels more like it is about burying someone else's head in the sand:

> Have you considered, that they are either having a bad day, are a bad listener, or possibly, you are wrong?

Uh, yeah, great advice to have in the FAQ for what is supposedly your anti-harassment policy. -_-

One of several red flags. Another thing that set off alarm bells was the strawman reference to penis slang. That's not something I've ever seen referenced by someone who is serious about having a conversation about codifying personal conduct expectations.

I mean, kind of the point is to tell people who demand CoC's to piss off. So... sort of?

How does that work? Are your VCs requesting a code of conduct or... what's going on?

No, there is a question on a grant application form to link to the code of conduct if there is one. _Mild_ pressure to have one I should have said maybe.

I find it telling that she felt it necessary to include the disclaimer "I am a queer woman". When discussing issues around Codes of Conduct I see all too often people leaning on personal attributes that give them social permission to critique them.

It has become necessary because we regularly discard people's opinions based on identity politics these days. It's sad.

> I believe that this person honestly cares about feminism and CoC, but that they are unable to be aware of how their own actions are going to far and come over as threatening. They do respect every aspect of a CoC, but refuse to be qualified with those "vague terms" as it is possible to interpret them in so many ways and are, of course, impossible to prove.

> How is a CoC helping me here, when CoC offer so many gray zones to play with, when the line between insecurity and harassment is so thin that it is almost impossible to distinguish one from another?

This is exactly the sort of thing a CoC should help with. Without explicit policy, you have no explicitly stated means of defense. With a CoC, you should be able to simply tell the people in charge of upholding it that this person's actions come across as threatening and harrassing.

I am not saying this will work everywhere. A CoC also only enables you to know what defenses you have, it does not create them. But I feel at least the spirit is in the right place, and I know of at least one community where IMO it works very well.

Well, we have rules but we don't have a silly prescriptive law in our hackerspace. The rules are all made by experience not guesswork and intentions.

Sample rules that were retired:

* any member may ask anyone else to desist and go away or shut up and you have to comply (hasn't been invoked yet to any real extent - people tend to comply)

* any member may ask a non-member to leave (likewise) - criminal stuff is covered already

* we have a list of persona non grata - preferably do not let them in or keep them under constant supervision - list gets outdated, these people tend to not show up, new members have no idea

* do not take excessive phone calls in open space - just asking is good enough

Rules that we kept:

* is not a hotel or sleeping space - do not abuse the coach - crashing is fine, doing that many times in a row is not

* is not a pub - take excessive drinking elsewhere, likewise drug use or dealing

* members can be banned by a vote in a specific matter - it has happened

* keep the place clean (esp. put things back in their designated places, take out the trash and keep fridge clean of old mold)

* how meetings and rule changes are made (consensus on an actual face to face meeting announced at least 48h ahead; must be at least one person from steering committee which is also chosen by consensus on a big meet by majority)

Note there is nothing about harassment since there is no need to. The general rules are fine. There is also clear definition of who is responsible for upholding the rules.

If we had a CoC like one of those "inclusive" ones we'd have to ban half to two thirds of the members. They are fond of religious and sometimes lewd jokes. Or are sometimes abrasive or crude.

Abuse (incl. verbal, stalking) is not tolerated regardless since it is a bad plan and if it recurs it will get you banned - it has in the past. We do not write it in rules as it is dealt with on case by case basis. Mostly as it requires a vote and vote requires a discussion and presenting the points clearly. And anything illegal and disruptive will get the police called on you. Obviously.

COCs are virtue signaling at best (as mentioned in checklist items) and a catch ~~all~~ most for immature behavior at worst.

Really, it would help if we could trust adults to be adults, or at least 16 year olds, but this speaks to bigger industry and societal problems. Recently, I heard conference attendees bragging of how they messed up a presentation by trying to connect to the bluetooth device being demonstrated. And I've been lucky to have never worked at a place where changing the background to pornography or setting an inappropriate facebook status was a thing.

The truth is that the tech industry (among others) still has people who are less mature than the people at lan parties I went to when I was 14-16.

> COCs are virtue signaling at best

Well, it's virtue signalling at _worst_. Which is to say, the worst case is you're signalling virtues with no intention of upholding those values.

Secondly, virtue signalling is, you know, useful. If you are clear about your values and the values you expect in others, then you've at least stated an intention to do better.

Nearly every form of communication is a form of signaling your values in one way or another ("virtue signaling").

Your post is filled with things that signal your virtues.

Why is virtue signaling bad? How is it not just a standard part of humans communicating with each other?

Virtue signaling has become a perjorative term: "In recent years, the term has become more commonly used as a pejorative characterization by commentators to criticize what they regard as empty, or superficial support of certain political views, and also used within groups to criticize their own members for valuing outward appearance over substantive action. ... Examples of behavior described as virtue signalling include changing Facebook profile pictures to support a cause, participation in the Ice Bucket Challenge, offering thoughts and prayers after a tragedy, celebrity speeches during award shows, politicians pandering to constituents on ideological issues."

I guess a code of conduct is literally virtue signaling _with the express purpose of signaling the virtues the community will tolerate_.

It's like looking at a profit and loss sheet, and perjoritivity calling it a "economic document".

That's literally just what it is doing, and it's stated purpose for existing.

if the profit and loss sheet was pulled from some other company, and doesn't accurately represent the company? I'd call that lying, and there'd probably be people going to jail. That's why this is being negatively referred to as virtue signaling:

"That line that made you feel like you'd get something out of the event was nothing else than an useless talking point copied of some checklist that made the organizers of the event feel like they are doing the right thing."

While you are correct, the context (at best, checklist) were to imply that it is "JUST" virtue signaling with little purpose beyond that; and in many cases, with attendees and organizers that pay as much thought to it as an iTunes Terms of Service agreement.

I'm beginning to think that the use of the term "virtue signaling" is itself a form of virtue signaling.

Indeed, people seem to use "virtue signaling" to easily dismiss someone behavior while sounding smart. It's a conversation killer.

It could also be said that it is introspective. -- are we just adding this so that people will attend, we won't be protested, am I just agreeing to this so that I can attend -- or do we actually believe in it.

To emphasize the rest of my post and my anecdotes; we have to post a sign that says we expect people to be professionals, yet conference attendees continue to lack maturity.

I don't know. I helped organize a conference where we were required to use a code of conduct by the parent organization (to be fair, we'd probably have put a code of conduct up either way).

From my point of view, as someone who is likely not going to be subject to bad behavior, I felt like a lot of it was standard HR boilerplate feel-good stuff. Not that there's anything wrong with that - it's good to signal quite clearly the behavior you think is right and wrong.

But I think that in some cases it helped more than that. It really does give you specific benefits:

1. It gives you something to aspire to. Yes, our CoC included accessibility issues. No, we weren't amazing at dealing with them, since it was our first time and it's not an easy topic to take care of. But the CoC certainly helps make it a priority, if only because people may (rightly!) call you out on failings. Most people will be understanding with you even if you don't get everything right, as long as you're trying.

2. I think specifying specific contacts (male and female) in case of certain abuse situations is a good thing. Of course whoever is the contact is not necessarily trained in dealing with trauma - but that's usually not the situation we're talking about. If someone is raped or physically asaulted, it's a matter for the police. We're talking about much lighter but still problematic cases, where hopefully the victim wants something done, but doesn't need a trauma specialist or anything.

The idea of the CoC isn't to be instead of law enforcement, it's to be another layer on top of that providing specific rules about what is and isn't considered professional behavior in this kind of conference. No more, no less.

This seems like more of an argument against bad CoCs and against CoCs for all organizations, rather than a CoC always being bad for every organization.

There's also a difference between specifying a CoC and enforcing a CoC. Maybe there needs to be a different name for expectations that aren't going to be enforced, either because they're too imprecise or the people running things are incapable of doing so.

A Silly question, is CoC a thing in Commonwealth / EU countries? Or is it mostly an US thing?

The world is separating into bastions: with CoC and without CoC.

I'm much happier in one of those than the other.

It’s important to remember a conference is not a space, it’s the people in that space.

In a conference there are no safe spaces, only safe people. What we need are social structures to help keep safe people around other safe people, if that’s where they want to be.

We need an effective way of calibrating a person’s safety profile. An individual for instance may be perfectly safe for a minority, but unsafe for all but the most hardened women.

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