"Use Hibernate", for example, equates to "let third party software I don't understand fiddle around with my bytecode after compilation". That not only crosses the "Nope-line" for me, that even runs past the horizon behind it.
Ignoring that, if a tool like Hibernate requires you to write your business data definitions (i.e. classes) in their specific way, I'd say something's fishy. You'll never be able to untangle the two. Note that, for all their repetitiveness, that's something SQL-based DB interaction approaches would never do.
Edit: It's perhaps noteworthy to mention Uncle Bob's talk about the "Clean Architecture". I think his arguments on how to structure a Codebase based on what is actually important have much much merit to them.