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It's possible he just doesn't want to talk to you right now, if you've already made many attempts to contact him, leave it at that and don't escalate. You could be making him worse, even if you have good intentions.

Your friend is very young at 20, he may not realize this now, but has plenty of time to amend any past mistakes that at the moment he feels are 'unfixable'.

For the speediest recovery, he needs meds and hopefully an understanding psychiatrist that would find a way to prescribe him some without giving him a definitive/serious diagnostic that could hurt his future chances at getting a job.

It would also be good if his mother realized just how bad his current mental situation is, and that it's selfish of her to keep relying on him to continually provide for both of them. Does she not have any relatives that would take her in at least for a while, until he gets back up on his feet?

Your friend probably feels under a lot of pressure right now, and she's a part of the problem.

The best you could do for him is to support him, if he decides to keep living. There will be more jobs, as well as chances at going to college or gaining equivalent education via free Coursera, Udacity, EdX etc. courses.

He needs to start fixing his health first though.

Also, if you make any future posts about him, here or anywhere else, please try to be a little more ambiguous in order to protect his privacy as much as possible.




Thank you, I too agree it is a lot of ask for from a person at this age... But how should I open him up more? He has always been a very quiet person, most friends don't know much about him. And from talking to him i found out he just has secrets after secrets. I respect him and will not be telling these secrets to anyone else as I promised. But it's quite difficult to imagine how he's been holding all these to himself for the whole time, without talking to anyone... He also tends to pull himself away from everyone, pretending he doesn't care for anything or anyone, but I know he does care, I really do =(




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